How do you respond to insensitive comments about the size of your bump?

[BrummieOnTheRun]

"Ooooh, aren't you HUGE! Are you sure it's not twins?"

This still irritates me even though I'm on #3! Anyone come up with some gentle, or not so gentle, responses?!!

i really hate the have u not had that baby yet line it really p*ses me off always say yes i have i just finding it hard to lose the wieght and look really upset

I really hate the "have you had that baby yet?" comment when it's from your mum - I wanted to say to her "Oh yes - had it a couple of days ago - did I forget to tell you?"

muminabigtum - god love, I can only admire you for your patience. From an 'workplace' pov, this is your basic 'bullying' scenario. Perhaps, you should wait until she lets go with another corker and then say loudly and firmly "Gosh, I'm amazed that as a health professional you wouldn't know how to treat pregnant women more sensitively. I sincerely hope the practice manager hasn't heard you being so unprofessional/crass - it would really bring the surgery's reputation down, wouldn't it?" Everytime she addresses you as Fatty, call her "Tactless". I'm sure a couple of public references like "Lord, don't mention that in front of Tactless, she'll probably broadcast it to the entire town." will slow her down. I know - all easy for me to say behind my PC - hope she lays off soon.....

muminabigtummi - was genuinely open mouthed in shock at the comments by the "health" visitor. I would say she needs some serious training in how to deal with people. I don't know if it's possible but I think she should be reported and given help before she messes up too many people. Husband's comment v.g.

miabt - You're absolutely right. Can you imagine the effect her nonsense would have on someone without either a lovely supportive dh (which you obviously have!) or even MN to fall back on. If she's happy to let rip like that to a work colleague, she's probably even worse with other people. I say report her! (to be said in the manner of a baying mob)

I had that said to me a few times when pregnant. But I never took it to be insensitive or being said unpleasantly. I loved my pg bump And it didn't bother me at all if people talked about it to me.

westcoaster and poppypic

Thanks for that - I have today actually told the practise manager and she was absolutley astonished....I was worried people would think it was me being oversensitive ...and westcoaster I fully intend to use your response when the next inappropriate comment comes my way..
x

Today I remembered a comment I got while pg with dd1. Someone at work commented on the size of my bump (zzz) then told me her daughter was pg and quite big as well but she had gestational diabetes and still wasn't as big as me even though she was further on. Gee thanks, insult me and give me a health scare, double whammy.

My neighbour keeps coming up to me and saying 'being pregnant is so sexy, you are a sexy woman, show your bump' and then trying to drag my oversize jumper off me LOL.

I often get the line "not long to go now then?", errrrm, yes, another 4 months actually .