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Would you take your DC into the 12 week scan?

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OrianaBanana · 18/05/2016 20:29

My 12 week scan is booked for when DS (4) is off at half term. My DH is looking after him, so I could go to the scan on my own, or have the two of them waiting in the waiting area and then, if all was OK and it was ok with the sonographer they could both come in and have a look. We meant to tell DS after the scan anyway. But DM seemed to think that was weird, and DS wouldn't really know what was going on.

We have no family locally and we don't know anyone in the area yet to leave him with (and the few other parents we know don't know I'm pregnant).

Is it weird to take him in (assuming all's well and sonographer allows) or is it Ok?

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TeaBelle · 18/05/2016 20:32

I wouldn't because if all isn't well then you and dh nay need to be able to take in a lot of info and not be able to concentrate on him. I'm sure it will all be fine but it would just be the small chance

mirrorballs · 18/05/2016 20:33

I don't think I would take him to the hospital. Ours definitely don't allow children in to the scan room

ThoraGruntwhistle · 18/05/2016 20:34

I don't think you're meant to take anyone but your partner in are you? 12 and 20 week scans are not really something to take children to, they can go later if you have a 3D or sexing scan.
I guess you can ask if they can both come but I would think it was better avoided.

FutureGadgetsLab · 18/05/2016 20:35

I would probably, but I'd likely have had an early scan due to previous gynae issues and so would have a good idea whether the pregnancy was viable.

Your call.

Myinlawsdidthisthebastards · 18/05/2016 20:36

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Wolfiefan · 18/05/2016 20:36

Most hospitals will say no.

CassandraAusten · 18/05/2016 20:39

I took DS when I was pregnant with DD. It was fine. I thought he'd be interested but he wasn't that bothered tbh! He was a lot younger than your DS though.

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OrianaBanana · 18/05/2016 20:40

Maybe I'll phone and ask. It's just that if DS can't come, DH will miss it. Though he doesn't seem that fussed!

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Wolfiefan · 18/05/2016 20:40

Sorry myinlaws. I had bad news at 13 weeks.

Jenni2legs · 18/05/2016 20:42

I did when my daughter was 4, it was bad news but they were discrete and we told her once we were outside as she knew we were there to see the baby.
We didn't have a childcare option, and it was a family moment albeit a sad one. Having her there made explaining the loss to her easier as we could explain that the baby wasn't there in the picture anymore.

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OrianaBanana · 18/05/2016 20:43

Sorry myinlaws and wolfie. If it was bad news I definitely wouldn't ask for DS to come in but at least DH would be within reach rather than back at home.

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OrianaBanana · 18/05/2016 20:44

And sorry jenni. I've had one miscarriage myself although it didn't make it to a scan and of course DS never knew.

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Jenni2legs · 18/05/2016 20:48

Thank you Oriana I hope you have a lovely scan and everything goes brilliantly xx

Machine123 · 18/05/2016 20:53

I had to take ds who is 3 with me on both scans as we have no one to leave him with. The hospital didn't bat an eyelid. The sonographer even explained to him where the hands, feet were and got him to count the fingers/toes.

PeppasNanna · 18/05/2016 20:53

I would never take dc to a scan. I have had a MMC. I only found out at my 12week scan.
I had, had an earlier scsn which showed the baby's heart beat & everything seemed fine.

I hsd no reason to suspect there was anything wrong.

for all the losses.

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Sleepingbunnies · 18/05/2016 20:55

I took my DD1 into every scan with DD2. And took both DD1 and DD2 into every scam with DD3..no one ever told me they couldn't come in. I t

Boiing · 18/05/2016 20:56

I'd ask first, my friend took her child in and the woman doing the scan had a massive go at her about how the child shouldn't be there (child was v sad / worried for a while after).

Wolfiefan · 18/05/2016 20:56

You can't expect them to do a scan then invite your husband and son in. They have a limited time to check what they need to check.
My first pg was a MMC. I was a mess.
I would have been unable to keep it together enough not to scare kids in the waiting room.
Thankfully I now have two kids.

skankingpiglet · 18/05/2016 20:59

We took our (at the time) 18mo to the scan for the same reason you're citing OP. No one to take her and DH wanted to be there. Obviously DD is too young to know what was going on whether it had been good or bad news but it was a PITA although far from a disaster. I've had to take her with me to a consultant, growth scan and birth options appointment alone too. I just took a big bag of toys, books, and particularly unhealthy but attractive snacks. The scans were actually the easiest appointments to manage with her as the wait was fairly short as were the appointments. The hospital certainly weren't against us me bringing her as they had toys set up in the waiting room.

middlings · 18/05/2016 20:59

I wouldn't, just in case there's a complication.

If it's any consolation, DH wasn't at my 12 week scan for DD2 as he'd spent the previous day being sick and we decided inflicting him on a hospital wasn't a good idea. I recorded the heartbeat so he could hear it and I was fine on my own.

Nicnak2223 · 18/05/2016 21:05

I was going to post and then I read wolfies post and it got me thinking about the other women.

What about anyone size who is coming out with bad news and us in the waiting room with you and your child.

I know Mt hospital say you can't bring children, however u know a friend of mine has.

I guess he is your ds you know best how he will be.

Nicnak2223 · 18/05/2016 21:07

Auto correct fsils

Else not size

Is not us

My not Mt

I not u

AButterflyLightsBesideUs · 18/05/2016 21:12

I wouldn't. But then I feel something of a pregnancy disaster zone - my first DD was found to have died at my 20 week scan, no suspicion of any problems before we went in. And my 12 week scan for DS just before Christmas was where his lethal abnormality (acrania) was detected. I was on my own for that one, DH was at home with DD2 who had a severe ear infection and her ear drum perforated that morning. It was a bad week.

I would take them to the waiting room if I had no childcare though, the moral support of your DH being there, and able to drive you in with a bursting bladder is helpful.

I'm sure all will be fine, but I wouldn't bring a child into a scan personally.

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