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having a "baby shower" that's not a baby shower :)

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kiwibella · 09/01/2007 22:10

I need some creative help!! What would you call a baby shower that isn't the traditional games afternoon with cakes and drinks?? I have compromised with my sister (who was planning one) and we are having a girly night out - dinner in a restaurant and hanging out with great mates.

But... we are stuck writing the invites. I don't want to say "Bella's baby shower" and the best we have come up with so far is...

wait for it

it's totally fab (not)

Bella's belly is about to pop

Serious help needed!!

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misspinkcat · 09/01/2007 22:12

Oh god the whole thing makes me heave.

3Ddonut · 09/01/2007 22:13

pregnant pause? last night out of freedom???? Baby shower and then specify in the invites????

Twiglett · 09/01/2007 22:13

are you american?

misspinkcat · 09/01/2007 22:14

Oh god, itll be a barrel of laughs.
A Huge woman who can bareley walk and can't drink and talks about babies the whole time.

misspinkcat · 09/01/2007 22:15

I think I'd be busy regardless of what the invitation says.

3Ddonut · 09/01/2007 22:17

my ????'s were of indifference in the 'oh wtf who cares' but it's an excuse for a party...let her have her moment in the limelight.....

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kiwibella · 09/01/2007 22:24

exactly donut... I wanna go out with the girls. I can walk, I can drink, and I promise that I won't talk about babies all night.

Hmmm, Twiglett??? No, not American - I would have thought that my name was a giveaway.

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misspinkcat · 09/01/2007 22:25

AH that says it all. Not much to do there.

eidsvold · 10/01/2007 00:59

I would just address it as a girly get together to celebrate the new phase in your life.

We have baby showers here in Aus and I have never had one - being that I had dd1 in the UK (not the done thing) and the next one we had just moved back to Aus. I am having no3 and was thinking of having a get together to celebrate the upcoming new and last addition to the eidsvold family. Thought about having a high tea with a few close friends.

Who cares what anyone else thinks?!?!

Rosylily · 10/01/2007 05:07

Hi Kiwi-Haven't a clue, when seeing american baby showers on discovery health don't you get loads of pressies? I am hoping to have a get together shortly before the baby comes for my birthday (also hoping to get loads of pressies!)Really hoping I'll be up to it though. It might be a welcome distraction!

Anyway it makes sense to have a party before baby's arrival if you can because afterwards you'll be busy.
What about 'big fat night out'
'your last chance to be slimmer than me!'

Or just call it a baby shower anyway? and explain the plan. If I was invited to a baby shower I'd be delighted but would need a clear description so I'd know what to expect.

It sounds like fun anyway.

Jaysecond · 10/01/2007 05:21

what about something like this

Just as something different. Or you can take some inspiration from it! Why shouldnt we celebrate the joy of becoming a mother with a gathering of family and friends, i think its a lovely idea

Booboobedoo · 10/01/2007 13:55

I think it sounds great kiwi. Pregnant women in the UK seem to be expected to carry on as normal, despite all the huge changes happening to their bodies, not to mention the huge change to come! Let them spoil you!

I take it misspinkcat wasn't on the invite list, so she doesn't have to worry about turning you down.

Twiglett · 10/01/2007 14:01

you would have thought your name was a giveaway?

do you think I'm really covered in marmite then???

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kiwibella · 10/01/2007 16:59

thank you Eids!! I didn't realise it wasn't customary here - I've been to baby showers (but then they've been for antipodean mates).

Because there is already expense involved in going out for dinner, I have put 'no pressies' on the invites. I know that most won't adhere to that. Most are just up for a night out with the girls anyways... so this is an excuse to be together . I do love the last chance to be slimmer than me comment... it's a possible, especially since we have used a belly shot for the invites.

Thanks for your suggestions... I'm waiting for the link to load, Jay but I'll keep trying.

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3rdTriMossTer · 10/01/2007 17:58

I think it's a great idea too. I'd go at any rate (if I could stay awake beyond nine these days!!) And you can have a bit to drink anyway! Yes, it'll be lovely to be pampered and looked after for a night!

I want one now (although with pressies )!!

I like Last Night of Freedom too actually.

rainbowgirl · 10/01/2007 18:03

awwwwww i had a baby shower in my first pregnancy and although at the moment i would rather flush my own head down the toilet, that's because of my own issues and depression not the idea of looking after mums-to-be! i think it is a wonderful idea if you are feeling happy and excited and wanting to celebrate the pregnancy. i think people who criticise this kind of thing should take a look at themselves! heavily pregnant women aren't boring just because they can't drink alcohol and weigh a lot, ffs.
bella, i haven't been around on the ante-natal thread much recently but i hope you have a wonderful time xxx

rainbowgirl · 10/01/2007 18:19

and i have got to say this. apologies in advance if i sound hormonal but it makes me so angry to read bitchy posts. however bad you might feel yourself or whatever might be going on with you, to pour cold water on someone else's joy just because you might be feeling low or fed up yourself, is a really pathetic thing to do. i hate it when i see things like this on MN. you're not in the school playground; presumably everyone on here is or is about to be a mum; time to grow up, ladies.

sexkittyinwaiting · 10/01/2007 18:47

Well, what to say? I agree with you rainbowgirl. How mean and petty minded some people can be. I am sure though that kiwibella will ignore such rude and undeserved comments. I hope you have a fantastic time and enjoy every minute of your baby shower.

foxabout2pop · 10/01/2007 19:16

misspinkcat - what a miserable person you are!!!

Kiwi - go for it girl - its the last night out you'll have for a while anyway, so a great excuse for a girls get together. I like "Last Night of Freedom" too and might just copy your idea!!!

UCM · 10/01/2007 19:32

Hi kiwi, didn't know you were up the duff as well , no help I am afraid, unless

...pre sprog dropping party???

divastrop · 10/01/2007 20:31

i like UCMs suggestion...if i were to have one i'd call it that.

when i first heard the term 'baby shower'.i thought it was some kind of alternative to a bath,but i think they are catching on here in the uk now.

rosy-your optimism is inspiring.i have resigned myself to the fact that my birthday will have to be postponed.i want to drink without getting heartburn

3Ddonut · 10/01/2007 21:59

I quite like pre-sprog dropping party!!!! How are you getting on with it all kiwibella?

Rainbowgirl, sorry to hear that you're not feeling so good, sending positive vibes and a hug your way!

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kiwibella · 10/01/2007 22:08

UCM... yes, me too - now at 33 weeks. Are you still going?? That would feel like forever, if you are .

I have gone for the belly shot with 'please join us to celebrate Bella's LIL KIWI ON BOARD'.

Looks fab but I am biased. So, I'm ordering the prints and we'll make them up on the weekend.

Think it was the snogging that got me in this situation in the first place

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kiwibella · 10/01/2007 22:15

read that wrong, didn't I!!

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UCM · 11/01/2007 02:12

Kiwi, are you still crafting or have you lost it completely. I can't think of anything other than baby at the mo, which is strange as I am not really that maternal.