Am I being crazy?

[Hannahs83]

I'm 10 dpo and only just realized my boyfriend and I had unprotected sex right around the time of ovulation. I'm not on the pill and usually we are careful to avoid that time but we have been havin a really rough time of late and I guess I just lost track. A couple of days later we broke up.

I am expecting my period on Sunday but I just have this niggling feeling. I have slight cramps since yesterday, spots on my chin, chest and collarbone, which I never get, and a fair bit of watery cm. Also, I know it sounds really odd, but I just feel a bit different.

I took a test this morning and it was negative so I imagine that's the end of it, but none of the symptoms are normal for me pre-AF.

Did any of you ladies have anything similar prior to a positive PG test? I would only be a day or two post implantation by now. Help!

Ah it's reassuring to hear people who have had similar symptoms and a good outcome. It feels so weird that my attitude has changed so much since last week about what constitutes a 'good outcome'!

The doctor called this morning with the results of my ovulation test...surprisingly they showed I did ovulate ;)

I told her that I've had some positive tests and no AF yet and she told me to come in next Monday for an ultrasound. That seems REALLY early to me, is that normal?

How's it going Hannah?

Hey jessie thanks for asking!

(Had a name change, decide I prefer to have more of a moniker, but I am the OP!)

Going ok thanks. I had a bit of an anxious day yesterday, culminating in calling my ex in tears because I saw two very small spots of light pinkish blood after I went for a wee. He was great and talked me down, and I know it's probably normal- it's just scary to see. Have an ultrasound booked on Monday, other than that no change really.

I'm currently wondering how on earth I'm going to hide this at the weekend- I'm going home to visit a couple of friends, we're going out on Saturday and it's usually a very boozy affair. I feel like they'll see through any excuse!

So sweet of you to check in on me, thank you. Hope all's well with you too :)

Ps I had a reassuringly dark line on Wednesday- 3 days after AF due- so that made me feel a bit better

Great news, looks like the baby is setttling in well and nice that your ex is being supportive.

It is indeed very early for a scan and from what I have read I don't think they'll be able to tell much from it as you wouldn't see a heartbeat until about 7 or 8 weeks (i.e. 3 to 4 weeks from now). My understanding is that without a heartbeat there's nothing that gives absolute reassurance that it's a viable pregnancy.

However it can't hurt and will be quite interesting. Be aware however that it will be a trans-vaginal scan, in other words the ultrasound probe has to go into the vagina to get a picture. It's affectionately known as a dildo-cam by those of us who have had a few! Not painful or anything, but if your ex is planning to come with you it will be a little bit undignified.

I'm fine thanks. 13 weeks and 2 days now so approaching the end of the first trimester. It's been physically fairly easy but pretty nerve-wracking. I'm looking forward to growing a visible bump as I've been telling people at work and the first thing they do is glance at my stomach but there's nothing to see, so all gets a bit awkward!

It does get easier as you get your head around it and it sinks in a little more Try to just take one day at a time otherwise you'll drive yourself potty with the worry. The early days suck in regards to covering it up. My friends spotted a rat instantly over Christmas. Usually I'm the first to the bar and the last standing. Like you, I live away from home and when I go back to visit it's an automatic piss up.

Ah yes, the covering up. Don't try the antibiotics excuse, that's so well known that you may as well just wear a badge saying you are pregnant.

How close are you to these friends? Have you considered just telling them? After all, it's a huge thing that's dominating your thoughts at the moment so maybe you'd enjoy the weekend more if you could talk about it.

Obviously the risk of telling early is that something may go wrong and then you have to tell them about that, but I was gald of my close friends' support when I had an early miscarriage and they weren't at all uncomfortable with me about it. Telling friends is very different from announcing it to work or casual aquaintances and hopefully you'd be able to trust them to keep to themselves?

Ah yes, the dildo cam. This will be my 2nd in as many weeks (lucky me!), as I had my annual 'Frauen check' a week before all this started, and they do a scan of your uterus and ovaries etc. using a transvaginal ultrasound thingy. Ex isn't coming - he said he will if I want him there but it's just a routine check to make sure it's not ectopic and make sure I'm not further along than I think, so I let him off the hook. Here in Germany they really take the undignified thing to new levels, with no gowns or draping or anything, so you really are just lying there with vag on full display. I didn't think either of us needed that! I have a good friend here who I've confided in, and she's going to come and wait with me, so I won't be alone.

Re this weekend...they're good mates but not best friends, and they're actually friends on my ex's side (girlfriends of some of his guy mates) so I wouldn't feel right telling them, really. But I've come up with a genius excuse. Rather than a vague 'antibiotics' excuse I'll go with not being able to drink 'much' because I've been laid up with a kidney infection following a bout of cystitis and I don't want to reaggravate it. Then I can have a couple of 'gin' and tonics and just leave it after that. No-one wants to ask too many questions when it comes to UTIs, and I've actually had this problem more than once so I can describe it in full agonising detail if they do :)

Plus, having broken up with the boy, it's unlikely they'd be too suspicious to be honest. I reckon I'll get away with it!

Glad you're both getting on well. Second trimester, eh, Jessie ? That's the nice one, right? :)