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Am I being crazy?

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Hannahs83 · 17/02/2016 17:12

I'm 10 dpo and only just realized my boyfriend and I had unprotected sex right around the time of ovulation. I'm not on the pill and usually we are careful to avoid that time but we have been havin a really rough time of late and I guess I just lost track. A couple of days later we broke up.

I am expecting my period on Sunday but I just have this niggling feeling. I have slight cramps since yesterday, spots on my chin, chest and collarbone, which I never get, and a fair bit of watery cm. Also, I know it sounds really odd, but I just feel a bit different.

I took a test this morning and it was negative so I imagine that's the end of it, but none of the symptoms are normal for me pre-AF.

Did any of you ladies have anything similar prior to a positive PG test? I would only be a day or two post implantation by now. Help!

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Hannahs83 · 19/02/2016 08:15

So, it seems I'm definitely testing positive.

I'm coming round to the idea really quickly, though the thought of telling my ex is terrifying.

But now of course I am terrified of it being chemical. I'm still two days away from AF being due. My tests are getting darker (did one yesterday morning and got a faint +, another in the evening and got a stronger + and then a pink one this morning with a medium dark line. But I had cramps in the night. Not really really bad but bad enough to wake me up. And then really bad nausea this morning.

I know there's nothing I can do about it if it's chemical. I just want to know if any of this sounds normal. Or encouraging. Or discouraging! Basically I just want to talk about it as I can't talk to anyone else and it's ALL I can think about!!

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Mslg · 19/02/2016 08:56

The cramps sound normal to me, I'm still getting cramps now and I'm 16 weeks. I got them really strong before I got a positive test and was so convinced AF was coming. Could be implantation cramps. Try to take one day at a time or you'll drive yourself mad. Que sera sera Flowers

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Hannahs83 · 19/02/2016 15:45

Thanks! That's reassuring.

I feel pants, been super sicky all day. I didn't realise it could start this early. Ah well. Thanks for all the input and reassurance

x

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QueenJuggler · 19/02/2016 16:07

Yup, that's very definitely positive. Are you OK? Plenty of people willing to chat on MN if you don't have anyone to talk to in RL.

LBOCS2 · 19/02/2016 16:12

I had cramps before I tested positive with DD1. I was convinced I was about to come on - turned out to be my uterus adjusting.

It's still very early days for you, but good luck with what you decide to do. Tentative congratulations as well :)

JessieMcJessie · 19/02/2016 16:51

Just hopping on to say understand why you need people to chat to and MN is a great place for that. The only thing I have gleaned from countless threads about symptoms is that they are all different and it's imossible to work out any pattern from them!

Tentative congratulations, you do sound like you have a fairly clear idea of what you'll want to do if it sticks and sounds like you are in a good position job-wise. Hope the Ex won't cause trouble?

FWIW I had a very early miscarriage last year - 5 weeks - and I had no cramping, no pain and even when the bleeding did come it was light and painless (I suspect that the embryo hadn't developed beyond a few days). I am now 12 weeks pregnant and again had no symptoms whatsoever. All you can do now is wait. Easier said than done though. Go out and stock up on folic acid/pregnancy vits, then see if you can you can find something to take your mind off it at the weekend.

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Hannahs83 · 19/02/2016 18:09

Hi ladies, thanks for all your replies!

Yeah I haven't got anyone to talk to in real life. It's a very complicated situation with the ex, which has been dragging on for months, has involved him cheating and lying, and a LOT of tears from me, lots of crying on the shoulders of everyone I know. So going to them now and telling them I may be pregnant is just not really an option at this point until I know exactly what is happening. It's all just been a bit too much drama.

I told my ex today. He actually took it surprisingly well. Still went off skiing for the weekend with his new "friend" but did take it quite well.

So now I have a weekend to get through, and have resolved not to do another test too AF is actually due on Sunday :).

Seriously, how do people get through this time?!

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Hannahs83 · 20/02/2016 06:14

Quick update...the cramps are still there but not nearly as bad. V mild now. Period is due tomorrow. I took another test this morning, different brand, and the line was there but fainter than yesterday. And this morning I had a little (sorry this is gross) brown discharge, kind of like at the end of a period.

I have my fingers crossed that the cramping and the brown discharge mean there's been some kind of implantation but the fainter line on the hpt is making me worry that the hormone level is reduced and I will get my period tomorrow. Ah well, guess all I can do is wait and see :(

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LastOneDancing · 20/02/2016 06:35

The strength of the line will vary between batches of the same test, let alone between brands, so try not to worry too much.

How do you get through this time? One day at a time Flowers and at least 2 breakfasts a day in my case.

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Hannahs83 · 20/02/2016 06:43

Two breakfasts, you say? Now that I can do.

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stumblymonkey · 20/02/2016 07:51

A lot of people have bleeding during the first few weeks of their pregnancy so the brown blood isn't necessarily a bad sign.

I agree with the PP that said that symptoms vary so much the only thing to do is get yourself on folic acid in case it does stick, wait it out and try not to go too mad in the meantime Wink

stumblymonkey · 20/02/2016 07:53

How are you feeling about being a single mum if it progresses?

Do you think you'd stay in Germany or come home?

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Hannahs83 · 20/02/2016 08:11

Thanks Stumbly. Yeah I need to go out today and get some folic acid, though part of me worries that's tempting fate and I should wait, at least a couple of days.

As to being a single mother...well it's scary but the scariest thing was telling my ex, which I've now done. He took it well, and will be involved...he'll make a good dad. We both have good jobs and decent incomes so that's not a major concern. Will def stay here- all things maternity related are superb here, plus I'm entitled to much more leave than I would be if I went back to the UK and started a new job now.

That said, I'm not sure I'd stay here indefinitely- would be nice to be near family.

And once again I get way ahead of myself!!

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TattieHowkerz · 20/02/2016 08:48

Congratulations.

Cramping is normal. I had it both pregnancies, just like period cramps. I'm now 14 weeks through my second one and still get them on and off. Brown discharge isn't unusual either.

Folic acid is so important right now, please don't delay taking it. Think how you'd feel if your baby had spina bifida or a cleft palate and you could have prevented it. Get to the shops! And buy yourself something lovely to eat if you can manage it.

Osirus · 20/02/2016 09:50

Cramps definitely normal! I had IVF and had cramps before testing so was convinced it hadn't worked - I was so shocked it was positive. I still get the odd cramp at 23 weeks. The worry never goes! Good luck.

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Hannahs83 · 20/02/2016 16:53

I'm not so worried about the cramps- actually I'm more worried about the fact that they've stopped, and I don't feel nauseous any more. The spotting got a bit worse but seems to have stopped a couple of hours ago. It seemed to be fairly slippy cm mixed with some brown blood, which now just seems to be the cm. So i don't know what's going on but AF due tomorrow so I guess I'll find out soon enough. I've read a fair bit about brown spotting not necessarily being a cause for concern so I'm trying not to panic, and just getting on with my Saturday.

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Mslg · 20/02/2016 17:12

Everything (symptom wise) comes and goes so I wouldn't worry about that. My morning sickness didn't start until I was 7/8 weeks so your nausea could just be stress related from the past few days maybe?

Some women get spotting when their period is due every month when pregnant. Good that you're keeping calm and relaxed, it can be a stressful time finding out you're pregnant.

TattieHowkerz · 20/02/2016 18:21

I agree it is too early for morning sickness. In the early days it is normal to have no really obvious symptoms. Just remember that no period is in itself a symptom!

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Hannahs83 · 20/02/2016 19:12

Well Tattie, that remains to be seen! Feel like I've been on an emotional roller coaster the last few days after I just "felt" pregnant, but my period isn't even missed yet, it's not due til tomorrow. So all I have is a few positive tests and a few physical symptoms. And some spotting. But as I've already had a positive test that can't be implantation spotting.

You may be right about the nausea being stress related. It may also have been something to do with the giant burger I ate the night before :)

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genericusername1 · 21/02/2016 05:49

I was exactly the same when I was newly pregnant with my first, I didn't really believe it until my 12 week scan and drove myself crazy constantly thinking I was miscarrying. At this stage your uterus is stretching to accommodate the baby so cramping is totally normal and the brown blood is most likely just some old blood that's been dislodged by all the activity in there. My symptoms would randomly disappear at times too, it was the strangest thing wishing the nausea would go away and then panicking when it did and wishing I felt sick again. I used to prod my boobs to check they were still sore too! The hormones are released at different levels at different times so the disappearing and reappearing symptoms are totally normal but worrying when you don't know what to expect! Thanks

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Hannahs83 · 21/02/2016 09:25

Omg thank you, that's exactly how I feel at the moment! It's all I can think about. My boobs are sore today and the cramps are back but not so badly. Touch wood, have had no more bleeding. Woke up at 5:30 am and tried to calm down enough to sleep but ended up getting up to do a morning test. It's definitely darkened from Thursday - last time I did a clear blue- so I'm taking that as a good sign.

Am I being crazy?
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JessieMcJessie · 21/02/2016 15:58

Darkening test is a great sign!

But there's no stretching going on at the moment. The embryo is the size of a poppy seed and there's plenty of room for it in there. Even at my 8week scan the sonographer told me my uterus had not yet increased in size.

Bleeding can be a sign of a problem, there can also be a perfectly healthy pregnancy with a bit of blood and sometimes there can be a problem with no blood at all. There is absolutely nothing you can do to make this stick- it is what it is. I think that even taking the vits will not change the outcome of an unviable pregnancy; they just guard against disability in a viable pregnancy.

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Hannahs83 · 21/02/2016 21:22

Hmm, embarrassingly, I think the "cramps" today may be mostly a bit of gas...Blush

Yeah I've heard I need to take folic acid asap, not to help the poppy seed stick but to help make it healthy if it does.

You ladies have honestly been my life line these past few days, I think I'd have gone insane without you. "AF" day is now passed and while I know that by no means puts me out of the "danger zone" at least I know the positive is actually a positive. Let's just see what happens.

Thanks again x

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Liss85 · 22/02/2016 02:36

Hi.
I had bad cramps around when my period was due and was convinced it was that but it never showed. Then my boobs started hurting so I thought maybe I was just late as normally they're sore the week before I'm due on but they just got more sensitive and were sore for ages with varying intensity. After a couple of weeks I realised it felt different - they felt heavy and more sensitive than usual. I got cramps pretty much the whole time that just felt like period pain. They freaked me out but Google assured me they were normal. Brown spotting is very normal and even bleeding is normal so long as it's not heavy and accompanied by strong cramps. I didn't feel sick at all until weeks 4-6. Good luck.

Liss85 · 22/02/2016 02:38

Oh and I started feeling bloated and gassy really early on and I don't normally have any bloating. I also had heartburn early on but I generally have a bit of a heartburn problem anyway.

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