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Want to get pregnant but so nervous about sickness

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rebeccajones · 05/02/2016 12:51

Hi
I have just joined mumsnet and we have just started trying for a baby. I am 32. I am feeling really nervous about morning sickness and it is all I can think about. I am not sure what I am expecting people to say but I wondered if anybody had any helpful advice?
Thanks
Rebecca

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QforCucumber · 05/02/2016 12:55

Not everyone experiences it, Know you won't know until you're there but I was expecting it to be bad.
Currently 35 weeks and have been sick a total of 4 times throughout the whole thing.

scaredmum2be · 05/02/2016 12:56

Hi. I has morning sickness from weeks 5-28. Good days where for me where vomiting once. Bad days up to seven and normally I'd vomit at least three times a day. However despite all this the morning. Sickness has not been the worse part of pregnancy for me. I would have my sicknes back over my restless legs, aches and pains of the third trimester.
Not all women get morning sickness but unfortunately getting pregnant means accepting the possibility of being sick. It's horrible but it doesn't last forever and their is medication that is safe for baby to take. Phenergan really helped me out a lot.
However don't dwell on something that might never happen and don't let it put you off.

DorotheaHomeAlone · 05/02/2016 12:58

Yep not everyone gets it. I've felt a little nauseous a handful of times in my 2 pregnancies but never been sick.

DorotheaHomeAlone · 05/02/2016 12:59

Sorry scared. Grin

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rebeccajones · 05/02/2016 13:00

Thank you scaredmum2be and Qforcucumber.

I guess I know dwelling on it will not help but I just worry about how I will get out and about and do normal things if I do suffer with it.

I know I need to put it out of my mind though! :-)

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scaredmum2be · 05/02/2016 13:01

It's ok. It's certainly not been the worst part even if it was quite bad haha

bibbitybobbityyhat · 05/02/2016 13:01

Are you emetophobic?

I am quite a bad case and I was nervous about morning sickness (to make an understatement!). However, although I did feel the nausea quite badly at times - especially when carrying my girl - I never once threw up! Us emetophobes are renowned for our guts of steel Grin.

Champagneformyrealfriends · 05/02/2016 13:01

My morning sickness was a bit like being hungover. I was nauseous and sometimes sick but if I got to salt and vinegar crisps in time then I could sometimes fight it off! I consider myself to have been quite lucky really-some people have a terrible time of it. My mum had no morning sickness at all and my sister just felt sick but wasn't. Everybody is different and I wouldn't let it worry you too much.

Whatdoidohelp · 05/02/2016 13:06

You won't know till your pregnant unfortunately. Both times I started vomiting at 5 weeks. I vomiting on and off for 5 months. The nausea was actually worse. What you can do is if you do start feeling ill you can go to GP for anti sickness drugs. There quite a few available. GPs will tell you blah blah not 100% safe in pregnancy but if you feel that ill you won't care.

luckiestgirlintheworld · 05/02/2016 13:07

Why are you scared of feeling sick? Do you have a phobia?

dizzylemon · 05/02/2016 13:11

I had four weeks of nausea in the first trimester but no throwing up at all.

Reflux is making me feel a occasionally and mildly nauseous in the third trimester but again - no chucking up.

Didn't happen to my Mum either.

It is fairly common though. If you're an emetophobe you might want to talk to your GP before conceiving to get some therapy for that initially. I had a friend who is an emetophobe and got through her pregnancy fine and even said she felt oddly fine about it in pregnancy.

KatyK1980 · 05/02/2016 13:11

This is my second pregnancy and I was never sick with either. I was actually worried about the fact that I didn't even feel nauseous with this pregnancy as I kind of wanted more symptoms in the early days!

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rebeccajones · 05/02/2016 13:14

good spot bibbity - I am indeed emetaphobic.

I have not been sick for at least 6+ years.

I am hoping that will continue!

Or maybe being sick frequently will get me over my phobia :-/

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dylsmimi · 05/02/2016 13:15

I am pregnant with dc3 and no sickness in any pregnancy. I have always felt great - though tired. That's not a boast I promise just trying to reassure you that not everyone gets sick.
I guess you need to weigh up how much you want a baby and if a possible few months of sickness is worth it? It would be sad if you didn't have a wanted baby because of a maybe
Fwiw I was petrified of giving birth as soon as I was pregnant with dc1 and made myself feel worth. Dc2 had a much more positive mindset and a more positive birth - the mind is powerful - use it well Grin

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rebeccajones · 05/02/2016 13:15

dizzly lemon - getting any therapy on the NHS would be a wait long enough that I would be in my menopause :-). However I am seeing someone privately so I hope that helps. The £100 per session is enough to make me sick though Wink

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kaymondo · 05/02/2016 13:16

I've never been sick in pregnancy and I'm currently expecting my third - it's by no means guaranteed that you'll have it!

BelfastSmile · 05/02/2016 13:16

I'm terrified of vomiting, and it did make me think twice about getting pregnant. However, I had no sickness worth mentioning - felt a bit nauseous a couple of times in the early stages, but only if I let myself get hungry. I'm also coping so far with DS vomiting, which was my other big worry... He's only 18 months, though, so I'm still scared of what happens as he gets older, but so far it's been manageable.

Champagneformyrealfriends · 05/02/2016 13:17

Oh you poor thing if it's a phobia-I don't enjoy being sick but I'm not phobic. Have you tried hypnotherapy?

Igottastartthinkingbee · 05/02/2016 13:20

Don't worry about something that hasn't happened yet! I had a bit of nausea in 2 pregnancies, was only sick once. Some people suffer terribly, others not at all. Best of luck

DrWhy · 05/02/2016 13:20

I'm only 8 weeks but I've had a few days of vague nausea and nothing worse. Check with your mum, morning sickness often runs in families - mine had none at all through two pregnancies.
I'm also an emetaphobe and much more worried about dealing with the baby/child being sick later than me now! I should probably look into counselling too.

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rebeccajones · 05/02/2016 13:20

I have had hypnotherapy too but to be honest I think the guy was a bit of a crook Shock.

Everybody is so kind on this site. :-)

I feel better already

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rebeccajones · 05/02/2016 13:21

My mum had very bad sickness :-(

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Igottastartthinkingbee · 05/02/2016 13:21

Sorry, just seen you have a phobia. Didn't mean to dismiss your worries so flippantly but I hope you take heart that morning sickness isn't a given.

Lisad1975 · 05/02/2016 13:33

I had nausea for a few weeks luckily not sick but I just kept reminding myself that my body was working how it should and my pregnancy was really happening ! Before your scan you almost dont believe it! It really isnt the worst part about being pregnant lol
You can get meds from doc if you need.
Mayb you could try some relaxation if its a phobia ?

Aworldofmyown · 05/02/2016 13:40

With your phobia how do you react? For example, if you did get a sickness bug? How are you with feeling sick but not actually being sick?

I had a mild phobia of being sick but it was the actual being sick that I was scared of. I had mild morning sickness with my first two children where I just felt sick but wasn't sick.

With DC 3 I was violently sick and on tablets - I no longer have a fear of being sick and I just kind of got through it because I had no choice.