Scan at 9+3, measuring 6+2. Advice please!!!

[pa55methecake]

Firstly, I hope this s okay posting here. I have posted on the miscarriage board but then realised that some posts are not replied to and just needed to get this out there and hear from some people that may know what I'm going through.

As it says really. I went for a scan this morning due to a small amount of bleeding at the weekend and some pains at a different time. No heartbeat was found and they said it measured at only 6+2. I now have the heartache of waiting a full week to be rescanned to check my dates aren't wrong but I'm pretty certain that's clutching at straws but understand why they do this. My last LMP was 29th Nov and the last time we had sex was 24th Dec so really cannot see that it is anywhere near viable. Plus I tested on 3rd Jan and it was a very quick, strong positive.

I feel okay in myself, no pains or more bleeding but clearly cannot face work (I work with kids) and the fact I may start to bleed etc soon. This is going to be an awful week of waiting and I just wondered what other women have done regarding work. Did you take time off work until everything was resolved? Or did you take a few days and go back. My heart says take off work until everything us resolved which I'm aware could possibly be 2 weeks as I would need to wait for a procedure too and recover from that. I don't have a particularly busy, crazy job but there are some things coming up in next few weeks that if I miss will have a knock on effect on how our service runs and will likely mean I'd be quite stressed when I do go back. Saying that, I won't feel guilty about needing to be off.

I am totally devastated and feeling at a total loss at the moment. I have a supportive husband but he is very 'Yorkshire' in his dealing with things and so is not showing any emotion within moments of us finding out was already making comments like 'don't cry' and 'we'll get pregnant again' which I really do not want to hear right now, I just need to cry and grieve. If anyone can give me any advice or kind words I'd be extremely grateful.

Thank you

[novemberchild]

Well, I can only speak for myself, but it didn't suddenly happen. It began like a period, light over about three days, very heavy for two, then tapered off like a period does. The heavy bleeding was quite bad, you can 'feel' it and you will need to sort yourself out (ie pads) often and use decent snug knickers.

I wasn't in a lot of pain, to be honest. Don't think I took anything, maybe just a paracetamol on one occasion, maybe two. It cramped, and feeling messy was horrible (obviously not discussing emotional effects here, just physical) but otherwise it was not too bad.

[pa55methecake]

Thanks november that's reassuring. I suppose I just have worst case in mind, it's the not knowing isn't it :/

[Inwaiting]

When's your next scan lovely? Thinking of you xx

[MissClarke86]

Hi, I just wanted to offer my sympathy.

I have been going through a very similar thing since November (I began with light bleeding and went for an early scan that dated me way later than was even possible so I knew early on things weren't right). I won't post my full story here, but it's on the Miscarriage board should you wish to read it.

My advice would be not to let them drag things out for you. I had to keep waiting 2 weeks, go back, 2 more weeks, go back, etc. I eventually booked a D&C but was sent home as heavy bleeding, but that continued for 2 more weeks! Even when you think you've had a miscarriage, you don't know for sure if everything has passed until you have waited 2 weeks for a pregnancy test.

Yesterday I finally had a D&C (under general) which was quite honestly a breeze (physically) so don't be afraid of it if it comes to that. The worst thing for me has been how long it has gone on, and I have had constant light bleeding with heavier gushes occasionally. I wish I'd pushed for the D&C earlier as I now feel some closure.

Everybody is different but do what's right for you. Emotionally, I accepted things a while ago now. I did have a few days off when bleeding heavily, but have been in inbetween times. I teach, but have a lot of support around me, including a very supportive headteacher. Only once have I had to do a runner due to a heavy bleed.
I am off today after the D&C yesterday, but that is hospital advice and quite honestly I am physically better than I have been in ages. Will go back tomorrow.

[MissClarke86]

I apologise if my above post sounds negative. I really do hope things work out well for you. when I was going through it i appreciated hearing people's experiences. I think you know when things weren't right and in my case the dates meant I would've got my strong positive test a few days before I conceived! So I knew, but your situation may be very different.

[Northernlight22]

So sorry you are going through this. I went through similar last time I was pregnant, unfortunately my news wasn't good news but equally I've spoken to people who have had a happy result.

When's your next scan? X

[pa55methecake]

Hi, thanks for the messages. Sorry for the delay, I've not been on the boards.

Started bleeding a bit yesterday,be an today and as expected. Booked in for procedure at hopital on Fri as feel I do just need this resolved now so I can move on and feel better. I felt overwhelmed when discussing Friday's hospital visit but know I need to just get through these next few days.

Thanks for all the thoughtful messages :)

[pa55methecake]

Hi! Thank you for all your messages over the past week or so. Just thought I would update incase anyone was following. I know I've read a few threads from a while back when looking for info and it always helps to see the outcome.

I had my ERPC in Friday and was way less traumatic than I thought it would be, infact it was very straight forward. The anxiety and waiting were the worst bits. Luckily we were given a side room which made the waiting all the more easier. The staff were all lovely and explained everything to us both. The tablets to relax the cervix beforehand was less stressful than I thought it would be as at our hospital they have just switched to tablets placed under the tongue rather than pessaries and apart from being very chalky and not being able to drink were fine and caused minimal cramps. I was taken on a trolley down to a separate room to have a cannula put in and the anaesthetic administered. Unfortunately they had to have two attemps to put the cannula in and it did hurt but they were very good at trying to distract me and I actually feel proud if myself that I have now had it done (anxiety of needles). I came round an hour later and apart from being shivery and tired I felt so much better than I thought I would. I couldn't feel that I'd had anything done at all. I was allowed home about 2 hours later once I had eaten something and had a wee. For the first day I felt okay though a little wobbly after the anaesthetic. Two days in, I've not bled much and get waves of cramps which arnt nice but bareable with just paracetamol and a hot water bottle.

I would say that the actual process was fine and for anyone reading this looking for some reassurance I'd say be gentle on yourself, for me the anxiety was by far the worst bit. I'm feeling glad I chose that option as it was the right one for me X

[Inwaiting]

Thinking of you sweet and sending you so much luck your way for the future xxx

[cockermum85]

Thoughts are with you. Didn't want to read and run Xxx

[Eastend2015]

I'm glad that the procedure went well. Do give yourself and your DP time to grieve, spend time together and talk to others about your experience. Good luck and hugs