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14 weeks and 5 days - desperate to know gender!! Help

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CharmedMumma · 29/01/2016 21:46

So i had my first scan today and it was at 14 weeks and 5 days... We asked if it was a he or she and the sonographer wouldnt say 😔 We tried to figure it out according to the nub theory but cant seem to tell... Perhaps there is someone out there that can give is a good idea of whether its a boy or a girl?? Please help??any ideas??

14 weeks and 5 days - desperate to know gender!! Help

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eastegg · 30/01/2016 22:47

I really don't think I've been mean or spiteful.

And I don't have a problem with people wanting to find out the sex. Please read my last post. It was the angst ridden tone of this one that stood out I think. And as for the poster who said we should have a sense of perspective, I couldn't agree more.

eastegg · 30/01/2016 22:52

I don't think I've been mean or spiteful.

And I don't have a problem with people wanting to find out the sex. Please read my last post. It was the angst ridden tone of this OP which stood out I think. And as for the poster who said we should keep a sense of perspective, I couldn't agree more.

LadyOrangutan · 30/01/2016 23:05

Can you pay for a Harmony or Panoramic test?
It can be done from 10 weeks. It will give you all the medical results you want (for those pain in the arses who accuse women of wanting to know the sex/gender of not caring about the medical side) and also tests the chromosones so will tell you accurately if it's a boy or girl.

Hoplikeabunny · 30/01/2016 23:30

I second everything goodnight has said. There have been some totally uncalled for comments on here.

I was really excited to find out the sex of my baby too Let us know when you find out for sure OP!

Xmasbaby11 · 30/01/2016 23:33

How exciting! Do you think you'll have a private scan? With dd1 we waited til she was born but with dd2 we couldn't wait and we're delighted to find out at 20 weeks. We'd have been thrilled either way but it was wonderful finding out. I can still remember the thrill!

shelbTa · 31/01/2016 08:05

I'm absolutely shocked at some of the comments on here! This is meant to be an open forum for supportive women - not hostility.

I was debating doing a similar thread after my scan in a few weeks but not sure I will now!

Good luck OP and ignore the nasty bastards on here. X

BeaufortBelle · 31/01/2016 08:19

I think the problem shelbTa is that it is a public forum and a lot of women on the pregnancy section have had a tough time either getting pregnant or staying pregnant and posts like this touch raw nerves. The fact that the title said "desperate to know the sex" "help!" may have made people click on the thread thinking there might be a genetically linked illness related to sex rather than a desire to know the sex of the baby for knowings sake. I certainly did.

Many many women on a public forum and in real life will be desperate for a baby, or a healthy baby, or a pregnancy that gets to term and I really think the tone of the OP and the thread title just wound up a lot of people in the instant they read it. I tried to explain that in my earlier post without being nasty.

I think women who have their children seamlessly do need to be mindful. I well recall playground comments when dd was a toddler of "you're so jammy, a boy then a girl". I know those comments were meant nicely and people didn't know my history (I hope they didn't to say it) but like many others on here a little while before I'd have sold my soul to have had had two healthy live boys.

Perhaps if the OP were to reword the thread and repost it in a few days she might have a more positive response. I hope the OP gets a little boy after three girls but I hope that isn't why she got pregnant again.

shelbTa · 31/01/2016 08:27

I hear you bea, and I don't think any woman on here would mean to be insensitive to anyone who had suffered a loss or were going through a difficult time.

But, there are also a lot of woman who are incredibly excited and equally no one on here has the right to take that away from them or give them a hard time just because they put 'gender' instead of 'sex' or worded their post wrong. Some of the posts on this thread are bullish and vicious and completely unnecessary.

BeeMyBaby · 31/01/2016 08:42

I'm not sure you can see the nub here- it looks more like its thigh? You may have to wait for the 20 week scan- but it's nice to have something to look forward to at the half way point.

eastegg · 31/01/2016 08:58

I think there needs to be some justification for some of the words now being bandied around here.

Can someone please point to where anyone one this thread has been 'vicious' or a 'nasty bastard'.

shelbTa · 31/01/2016 09:33

How about this:
Get a grip and wait.

Or this:
Just wait until you can find out a bit later. I don't understand why that's so hard.

Or this:
SEX you want to know the sex

Or this:
Gender is between the ears not the legs. You want to know the baby's sex.

Or this:
If you want to know you should pay for a private scan instead of asking the internet.

Need I go on?

Clodagh164 · 31/01/2016 10:05

Look I know how u feel I also can't wait to find out at 22 weeks and I have one of each already. Ok the wording might have been a bit strong on post but she was excited and as much as my heart goes out to all the other mums on this forum it's not her fault they can't conceive or have problems with miscarriages as much as I sympathise with them 😁😘

SkyWasMadeOfAmethyst · 31/01/2016 10:36

There is nothing nasty or hurtful about pointing out the difference between sex and gender. They are separate concepts and have seperate meanings. Just because they are commonly confused doesn't mean they are interchangable

If the OP wants to know the sex I can completely understand that and don't give a hoot why it is important to her. I hate surprises. Although I don't think you can tell anything from that scan photo.

DixieNormas · 31/01/2016 10:48

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eastegg · 31/01/2016 10:57

None of those examples are vicious, but looks like we'll just have to disagree about that.

As I said up thread, I wish you well OP, and as you seem to have bowed out I think I will too.

Sometimesithinkimbonkers · 31/01/2016 11:11

I've got 3 DC. 2 DS 's and 1 DD. DS2 has lots of disabilities and even aged 6 only functions 18-24mths.
DD1 was a wonderful surprise but not planned at all as we had enough on our plates.
At our scan people asked if we wanted DD and I explained regularly that I didn't give a flying fuck I just wanted a child who doesn't have the same pain and challenges as DS2.
She didn't !!! Thank god! But it is really insensitive.

TBH if you have 3 DD I think you are probably desperate to find out if DC is a DS.... That's the excitement here!

Good luck with your pregnancy !

Maurice169 · 31/01/2016 11:15

Think you've got a girl there. Congratulations!

zannyminxoxox · 31/01/2016 13:55

I went for my scan at 14 weeks and the sonographer kept saying he. I said is it a boy then and she said I can't say it's too early and I was like well you have been calling him he, the whole time. He is a boy. I think they can tell but don't want to risk it as They are not fully formed yet

SkyWasMadeOfAmethyst · 31/01/2016 17:02

With all due respect, poor spelling is not a serious social issue. The difference between sex and gender very much is a current and present issue in our society and the comment was a playful one that illustrated the difference in a really simple way. If I wanted to be twatty I would have taken a different tack.

Mrspopper · 31/01/2016 18:28

Wow Wow wow there are some nasty comments on here. It was an innocent thread and the bitter vultures have swept in.
Good luck with the rest of your pregnancy OP.

emm2016x · 31/01/2016 18:58

I'd say a boy.
Congratulations

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CharmedMumma · 05/02/2016 15:31

Hello all, scan went well and hapy to announce that baby is HEALTHY and well and its a BOY!!!! ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

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CharmedMumma · 05/02/2016 15:35

And THANK YOU wonderful ladies who have supported me - honestly didnt mean anyone any hurt or pain.. Was judt curious. I apologise for any hurt caused.

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goodnightdarthvader1 · 05/02/2016 15:45

Absolutely no need to apologise. Congrats on finding out the sex!

Ellarose85 · 05/02/2016 20:02

No need to apologise Charmed.

Congratulations on your news of a baby boy, how exciting for you!

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