Why do people feel the need to comment on the size of my bump???

[Reebok]

Pregnant with dd2...almost 26 weeks and all I ever hear is 'whoa! You're huge!' Or 'that's a small bump!' I don't comment on the size of their belly so why should they comment on mine just because I'm pregnant. I feel like punching them in the face! Sorry...hormonal rant over!

I didn't mind the comments on the bump as much as the questions about whether my child was planned and what sort of birth I was hoping to have. From total strangers or colleagues that I hardly knew. Under what other circumstances would people effectively ask about your sex life/contraceptive choices and gynaecological preferences???

If the bump questions bother you, maybe make a personal comment back. Eg 'You've got a big bump haven't you, is it twins', 'No it's not, you've got big ears can you hear really well'. Might at least give you some amusement.'

They are just making conversation.

Yes, this really bothers me too. I haven't been particularly comfortable in my pregnant body and feel very fat and clumsy. The last thing I want is for people to tell me how massive my bump is - objectively I know that it is exactly the size is should be but it doesn't make me feel any better about myself.

I know people aren't trying to be mean and just want to make conversation but every time someone says "your bump is HUGE" it just makes me feel a bit rubbish

I haven't had anyone comment on my bump but agree with the nosey comments like "was it planned" etc.

I don't believe they are just making conversation. We've all learnt the rules of small talk (if necessary, stick to the weather and the state of the roads). It's hardly a secret that commenting on the size of a woman's belly is likely to hurt their feelings. A woman at work said 'you're so big!' to me the other day. I'm fairly sure she was just making herself feel better about her diet not going very well that day--there had been crisps!

The one that's really getting to me, though, is people telling me how hard it will be looking after a newborn and then saying, "but you chose to have a baby, so no sympathy from me!" It's not as if procreation is a really far-out activity deserving of approbation. Do random colleagues think I'm going to be calling them for emotional support at 4am?

I find it weird being complimented on how 'neat' my bump is, as if I have anything to do with that! But yes, mainly offended when people (including my Chief Executive!) ask 'Was it planned?' Is it only people who aren't married who get asked that? Regardless, I've been in a happy relationship for 5 years, am early 30s, have an established career- why would it not be planned? And why would it be anyone else's business if it wasn't!

I'm amazed that it bothers anyone. I'm 31 weeks with my second, size of bump gets commented on all the time. People are just trying to make conversation/show an interest. It's not like commenting on weight as presumably most people with bumps are happy to have them! There's not much else to say about pregnancy but some people would feel it rude not to acknowledge something so significant.

I'm nearly 18w and so far the only people who have commented on the size of my bump are my close friends, who have gone as far as sending pictures of me to each other to exclaim how 'massive' I am. Lovely.

Of course it is just making conversation- I doubt they are really interested in the replies.
They have always done it, they always will, so unless you can think of a way of stopping it,without seeming a prat, I would just not bother getting upset by it. Let it flow over you.

I completely feel your frustration! I get it alllll the time from women at work! I find it so bizarre/rude that they think they can tell me how big my bump is and tell me that I’m going to have a big baby. Actually I’m being monitored because my first baby was a small baby and my baby now is also measuring petite. I have no idea why they think it’s ok to force their opinions and comment… I would also never comment on the size of another pregnant women's bump, we all come in different shapes and sizes.

They are making conversation. It seems rude to ignore when someone is obviously very pregnant. But there is very little to say about it that is not very rude. So they say, oh you're big, that's a neat bump, etc. It is meaningless.

This is one of the reasons I'm glad I'm fat/ overweight 😂 I'm 31 weeks on Friday and no one knows