Why do people feel the need to comment on the size of my bump???

[Reebok]

Pregnant with dd2...almost 26 weeks and all I ever hear is 'whoa! You're huge!' Or 'that's a small bump!' I don't comment on the size of their belly so why should they comment on mine just because I'm pregnant. I feel like punching them in the face! Sorry...hormonal rant over!

[Lollipop25]

This is one of the reasons I'm glad I'm fat/ overweight 😂 I'm 31 weeks on Friday and no one knows

[julieca]

They are making conversation. It seems rude to ignore when someone is obviously very pregnant. But there is very little to say about it that is not very rude. So they say, oh you're big, that's a neat bump, etc. It is meaningless.

[Leemat]

I completely feel your frustration! I get it alllll the time from women at work! I find it so bizarre/rude that they think they can tell me how big my bump is and tell me that I’m going to have a big baby. Actually I’m being monitored because my first baby was a small baby and my baby now is also measuring petite. I have no idea why they think it’s ok to force their opinions and comment… I would also never comment on the size of another pregnant women's bump, we all come in different shapes and sizes.

[FreshHorizons]

Of course it is just making conversation- I doubt they are really interested in the replies.
They have always done it, they always will, so unless you can think of a way of stopping it,without seeming a prat, I would just not bother getting upset by it. Let it flow over you.

[coppergrey]

I'm nearly 18w and so far the only people who have commented on the size of my bump are my close friends, who have gone as far as sending pictures of me to each other to exclaim how 'massive' I am. Lovely.

[GruffaloPants]

I'm amazed that it bothers anyone. I'm 31 weeks with my second, size of bump gets commented on all the time. People are just trying to make conversation/show an interest. It's not like commenting on weight as presumably most people with bumps are happy to have them! There's not much else to say about pregnancy but some people would feel it rude not to acknowledge something so significant.

[Sophia1984]

I find it weird being complimented on how 'neat' my bump is, as if I have anything to do with that! But yes, mainly offended when people (including my Chief Executive!) ask 'Was it planned?' Is it only people who aren't married who get asked that? Regardless, I've been in a happy relationship for 5 years, am early 30s, have an established career- why would it not be planned? And why would it be anyone else's business if it wasn't!

[isthatpoisontoo]

I don't believe they are just making conversation. We've all learnt the rules of small talk (if necessary, stick to the weather and the state of the roads). It's hardly a secret that commenting on the size of a woman's belly is likely to hurt their feelings. A woman at work said 'you're so big!' to me the other day. I'm fairly sure she was just making herself feel better about her diet not going very well that day--there had been crisps!

The one that's really getting to me, though, is people telling me how hard it will be looking after a newborn and then saying, "but you chose to have a baby, so no sympathy from me!" It's not as if procreation is a really far-out activity deserving of approbation. Do random colleagues think I'm going to be calling them for emotional support at 4am?

[needahugbug]

I haven't had anyone comment on my bump but agree with the nosey comments like "was it planned" etc.

[newroundhere]

Yes, this really bothers me too. I haven't been particularly comfortable in my pregnant body and feel very fat and clumsy. The last thing I want is for people to tell me how massive my bump is - objectively I know that it is exactly the size is should be but it doesn't make me feel any better about myself.

I know people aren't trying to be mean and just want to make conversation but every time someone says "your bump is HUGE" it just makes me feel a bit rubbish

[FreshHorizons]

They are just making conversation.

[chunkymum1]

I didn't mind the comments on the bump as much as the questions about whether my child was planned and what sort of birth I was hoping to have. From total strangers or colleagues that I hardly knew. Under what other circumstances would people effectively ask about your sex life/contraceptive choices and gynaecological preferences???

If the bump questions bother you, maybe make a personal comment back. Eg 'You've got a big bump haven't you, is it twins', 'No it's not, you've got big ears can you hear really well'. Might at least give you some amusement.'

[MyKingdomForBrie]

Gosh I don't mind the comments at all - maybe those commenting were also people who didn't mind therefore just wouldn't think they were being rude/annoying? I like being pregnant so am happy to talk about it!

[Skathleen]

Im finding the comments I get bother me. The people I work with are lovely and say I've got a really nice bump but I work in a shop and get loads of customers comment. I've been asked what sex the baby is and then when I tell them they've said they don't agree with finding out the sex at all. Am I'm left thinking, well why the hell did you ask then? And today when out walking the dog one lady wouldn't stop pestering me with questions and couldn't believe my baby was due in September, I'm only 26 weeks but she kept going September! September! Good luck love! I'm sorry but that's just plain rude. From now on I'm not telling them anything.

[spacefrog35]

Oh yes. Everyone has told me I have quite a small bump (I'm carrying all my baby weight in my bum, hips & thighs) except for my lovely college who said " oh, aren't you waddling well". WTF do I look like Jemima Puddleduck

[Reebok]

Thanks ladies...glad to know I'm not the only one. Just annoys me as I've had hyperemesis (still do) all this time and because I've had a sudden growth spurt I'm getting constant comments on the size of baby despite the fact I can't eat much.

[Frank85]

Pisses me off
So when people comment: "I'm not pregnant, what do you mean" hahhahaah

[KnitsBakesAndReads]

I don't usually mind as I think it's just people making conversation. I do find it odd when people say things like your bump is very "tidy" or "neat" like it's a compliment though. I have a bump because I'm growing a baby and to me whether it looks "tidy" or "neat" is pretty irrelevant - all that matters is that the baby inside is growing well and is healthy.

I probably wouldn't actually say anything as I wouldn't want to be rude to someone when they're just taking an interest, but it does kind of feel like another example of women being expected to be "slim" and being judged on their appearance above all else.

[blessedwithtwo]

I don't mind - I am carrying two and look six months gone already and I am only 16+4.

We tried for these babies for a long time so I am pleased when people comment on them growing.

[TiffanyAtBreakfast]

Blimey - People are just excited that your baby is growing, or as others have said, they use it for a bit of easy chit chat. To be honest I find it bizarre when people are offended by it. They're not commenting on your weight, they are literally saying 'Ooh your bump is getting so big! Not long now!' type thing.

I'm pregnant (and also plus size, so extra potential for getting offended) and have had the 'you're getting so big', 'bump is huge now' comments - I just smile and say yes I know, so exciting!

However on the flip side, saying somebody's bump is 'neat' or not looking very far along, is dangerous territory. It can worry people about the growth of their baby, or make them think they should be looking or feeling a certain way, when every mum is different.

[NotSpeaking]

Calm down ladies. You are an easy topic of conversation in the small talk world. You've probably done it yourself.

[AmyLouKin]

I think I must have been lucky (that or I give off fuck off vibes) as none of my colleagues have touched the bump without asking! Personally I don't mind friends doing it.
I have had lots of comments on the size of the bump as it looks quite small still (36 weeks) but I am 5ft 6 and slim so I guess that's why! I had a growth scan back in Dec as they thought I measured small but baby was fine! I'm pretty sure it's growing well! I can feel the size of its feet when it stretches, feels big enough to me! Lol.
The one silly question I get (as we never found out the sex) is do I think it's a boy or a girl? Let me just get out my crystal ball..........😜

[bessie84]

good lord, im with you ladies, i hate this with a passion!!! "your so massive, are you sure you only have one in their, are you sure its not twins or triplets, you'll never go full term, i bet its a 10 pounder" those kind of comments.

i also hate that people think they can touch me, back the fuck off!

[Murloc]

This. Everyone keeps telling me how tiny I am (except MIL, who gleefully tells me I'm gigantic every time she sees me), I feel like yelling yes, I know, I have a bloody growth scan every fortnight, stop worrying me further!

Gah.

[Gunting]

I think so people don't know what to say to pregnant women and end up saying the wrong thing. When I was pregnant the only thing people wanted to talk about was my belly it was very strange.

Also had the 'you'll not go the full way' comments. I ended up giving birth at 40+8 to a giant 10lb baby.