Trying to conceive

[Lindafergie]

Hi,
Can't think there's much truth in the idea that it is easier to conceive after strenuous exercise, or by being around babies. I go regularly to the gym and am a childminder to 2 babies 5 days a week, and we have been trying for a baby for 2 years - hasn't worked for me anyway!

Lindafergie, go to choosing the sex of your baby under pregnancy. Heidi has a few ideas.

We tried for about 2 years before going on IVF I know how 'trying' it is for you. I agree with you, being around babies and children only makes the whole process worse. Good luck to you.

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Good sources of zinc include oysters, meat, eggs, seafood, black-eyed peas, tofu, and wheat germ. I think it is used for male infertility problems as semen contains high concentrations of zinc.
I read somewhere that caffeine consumption equivalent to more than two cups of coffee per day has been associated with an increased incidence of infertility. Vitamin/mineral supplements and quitting smoking may help.
Hope this is usful.

Can anyone recommend a vitamin supplement for men in couples trying to conceive? There are plenty around for women. We do eat a good diet, with plenty of fruit and veg, not much coffee or booze, etc, but just as I'm boosting my folic acid intake I think my dh could do with some extra zinc. We can't afford oysters and there isn't an "R" in the month for a while anyway!

Vitamin E rings a bell, although can't remember why! I know my husband took it before our first was conceived through IVF. Good Luck Marina.

Marina yes zinc is very good for healthy sperm production as is keeping the vital equipment cool so boxer shorts are good and cold showers(if you can convince him..!!)You can get zinc supplements in health shops ,much cheaper than oysters!!
Hope it happens soon for you!

Trying having sex twice each time (my husband got this advice from a doctor I believe) It worked pretty quick for us and good fun, you just feel tired.

Marina, I just had to know why my husband took Vitamin E and I found a site which said

"Vitamin E deficiency in animals leads to infertility. In a preliminary human trial 100-200 IU of Vitamin E given to each man and woman of infertile couples led to a significant increase in fertility"

Good luck again.

Thanks so much everyone - I knew about zinc but not Vitamin E, so that's really helpful. I suspect he will be most interested in Joe's recommendation, however! Fingers crossed...

Following on from Joe's comment I also read, when trying to conceive, that contrary to some advice, you should have sex as much & often as possible (previouse advice was to do it only every other day)

And I think they now say it is not just the middle of your cycle that you can fall, it can be anytime (dont quote me though). I beleive you are right Bo its not build them up for a few days anymore. Just have some fun, relax and get down to it whenever possible. Keep us informed.

From my experience, I agree with both Joe and Bo's comments. Our first was conceived on honeymoon ; our second took almost a year. I sought help in the end and with the aid of ultrasound's, my day of ovulation was pinpointed exactly. That's the month we conceived although according to the ovulation test kit, D-Day should have around 3 days earlier than the actual conception day. So it seems that our difficulty was entirely down to timing - I had used ovulation test sticks for the whole time.

So, the only advice I have to anyone in this situation is to keep at it - easier said than done, I know!/

I got pregnant after watching the Blair Witch Project!!

Is that because you couldn't sleep after watching it Lisav?! I know I couldn't!

Thank you for that tip Lisav. I don't want to have to drag him out from behind the sofa though!

Marina - who said you have to drag him out - get down there girl!
Seriously though, anyone else find their lovelife stays downstairs now they have kids? Dh reckons our 2nd dd hears us walking upstairs so we'd better stay down - I'm sure its not so he can watch match of the day as well (or am I too trusting)

Debsb - We move downstairs alot and I get squeezed in at half time of Liverpool matches. But now our son has moved into his cot it is nice to have the bed back too.
My husband got Blair witch out when he was just about to go on a course, I didnt watch it.
I came off the pill half way into a packet, I was pregnant in 2 weeks. Get down to it as soon as you get in.

Check out www.epregnancy.com. It is american but they have loads of useful conception, pregancy advice.

Marina, months ago on another message board there was some extremely detailed and interesting information about how to determine the sex of your baby - in advance that is!

If you feel like a trawl, I'm sure it's worth a read, regarding conceiving. I believe the contributer was someone called Heidi. Could be wrong on the name, though. Can anyone else remember this?

Tigermoth - yes it was Heidi, I remember it well. I must admit I'd settle for a little somebody of either gender, but you're right, there were some interesting general conception techniques in her postings too. Off for a trawl, and will check out Bugsy's recommendations too - in my lunch hour, naturally. Thanks, both.

Blair Witch was boring! That's how come I got pregnant I think, we were all psyched up to be very scared and it just didn't happen - so something else did instead!

Sorry to post this on this thread but, Lisav, I agree Blair Witch was totally boring but still left me unable to sleep comfortably through the night!!

I was going to mention Heidi's advice too. I've already printed out her advice in case I decide to have another and have problems!

You are going on holiday soon aren't you Marina? A little bit out of the ordinary might help, a bit of beach action, say no more, goodbye!

I am Jac. Have started dh on the Bob Martins (sorry, I mean "Wellman") and hope that the walls in our gite are nice and thick as we are holidaying with our son's godparents!
If you want a really scary and not boring film, I can recommend George Sluizer's The Vanishing. Before it was a crappy Hollywood remake, he filmed the original in France and it is the scariest non-violent film I have ever seen. Still only a PG though!