Tell me I'm still having a yellow baby!

[MrsPCR]

This is probably the world's most stupid and needy pregnancy 'worry'. My husband and I really want a yellow baby and went for our 20 week scan two weeks ago. As soon as the sonographer put the thing on, and announced on that's the baby's bum was against screen.

Clearly you could see two butt cheeks and its two little thighs. It was very empty in the middle as its legs were open. I try to keep telling myself its penis could have been well tucked up, and the gap was just between the bum cheeks.

I know it makes no difference and we are having a healthy baby, but someone please tell me it could still be either? I just can't get that image out of my mind!

Funniest thing is people insisting it's an old fashioned term! People didn't have scans or were informed of the baby's sex before birth at a time where I would consider something to be old fashioned! Crazy

I don't see the problem? I don't call my baby Yellow, but I know alot of people who use the term yellow for a baby they don't know the gender of. I'm sure everyone words things wrong occasionally.

But on all my scans I couldn't tell what gender any of my babies are. I've had a boy, girl and I haven't found out with this Pregnancy. I honestly wouldn't think about it.

Wow,have never ever heard this term before. Was expecting something racist or something about jaundice!

(No idea why you'd want either...!)

We were nearly told by mistake at 37 weeks when having an ECV. The consultant just stopped herself to check we knew the gender. I would have been quite annoyed but to be honest I knew she was a girl despite every other living soul insisting she would be a boy.

No need to be so bloody rude everyone.
Just because you don't understand a term you don't have to me nasty.

Op- baby could still be girl or boy. Try not to overthink it

Sex

You mean sex

Babies don't have a gender, they have a sex. Male, female.

I understood what she meant, I just thought it was a fucking stupid way to express things

I understood what she meant, I just thought it was a fucking stupid way to express things

Leave her alone she can express how she wants, get of your high horse.

Don't ever venture into Pedants' Corner (Or is it Pedant's?? There must be more than one.) Ginge. Some people really don't like the English language with being messed with. Especially in a way that obscures meaning

Like Bee said, 2D ultrasound is not like a photo, it's an image of a section, like a slice through. If your baby has a penis but it didn't happen to be in the slice that was being imaged, it won't appear.

I am pregnant with DC3, and this is the first time that I have made I past 20weeks still properly on team yellow (or team surprise). With DS, he had a very obvious meat and two veg on his 20 week scan pictures. DD had a very obvious girl nub on her 12 week scan pictures. If you want to stay on team yellow, I now recommend telling the sonographer very early on, and ask to be told to look away as much as required, and don't get any pictures printed that go past the waist... Did it make a difference that I was 95% certain before the birth? No... There was still a 5% uncertainty, as I am not a trained sonographer...

I like team surprise.

Oh god how nasty are people God forbid I ever say anything on here that people could perceive as stupid, just because someone uses a term that other people think is ridiculous doesn't give us the right to make the poor woman feel like an idiot....ill be carefully screening what I put on here in the future so much for pregnancy support..get the claws back in ladies

LouLou

MM is a community, with its own dialect (like all communities). There are whole threads about the community norms.

The standard acronyms list is linked at the top of talk pages.

Words which are not liked include hubby, hubs, bubba, the colour-coding of people, girls for adult women, and many terms for female genitalia (except the anatomically correct and fanjo.

There may also be comparisons to details of layout or functions of site (there is not like button here, nor avatars, nor much decorations at all.

There are oodles of websites. And the terminology from one may well get a rough ride on another. And people self-select the sites they like.

No doubt there are places where people don't think "jaundice" or "racist" when they see the team "yellow baby", just as those who have never had to contemplate infant heart conditions don't wince (usually inwardly, because speaking out is seen as 'not OK') when they see "blue baby".

Just a little tip for those not wanting to know the sex. I had to have a lot of scans in my first pregnancy and luckily, my midwife warned me that sometimes you can't help but see something while they're doing the scan that might give the game away! Every time I went for a scan, I looked away until they told me it was definitely safe to look. I also asked them to warn me before moving to that area! That way, I could look away and make 100% sure I didn't see anything I didn't want to see.

Its great news that you're baby is healthy. They're in there surrounded my fluid so of course it could have been sort of floating the other way, if that makes sense. I certainly don't think you're definitely having a girl. Just put it completely out of your head and look forward to meeting your happy, healthy bundle of joy in a few months time :) x

The 'team yellow/blue/pink' terminology is used frequently on mnet, go look at the ante natal threads. Quite often it's a thread title for an ante natal group reaching the 20wk scan stage

I hate the pink /blue gender stereotype bollocks but it is a commonly known shorthand for the Sex if a baby during pregnancy.

The op has posted in the pregnancy boards, not aibu. She said she knows it's not important in the big scheme of things but she can still feel a bit miffed.

Maybe the title could have been worded better but sometimes posters could stop and think about how words on a screen are goingto come across, you can make your point in a nice way.

Saying you're having a yellow baby is, well, a bit silly, though.
Because once you have it, it becomes "blue" or "pink".
Unless people want to have a hermaphrodite.
But I'm, ahem, somewhat pedantic.

As we are talking about it, it's not hard to say I'm having a boy, girl, or I don't know. Why the need for colour coding?

I have no idea where it started or why peoole do it but it is common.

I am 21wks preg and have been asked is it pink/blue. I reply it's a baby hopefully and we don't know the Sex.

It's a big thing with American baby showers and 'gender reveal'.... Of course it'ssex not gender but hey Ho.

As I said I hate the who pink/blue gender stereotype bollocks but it is very prevalent. And I guess yellow is seen as a common gender neutral colour? Though looking for non gender specific baby clothes it seems grey/white is what most stores stock as an alternative to pink or blue. Very boring I am looking for bright, cheerful funky stuff, stripes etc. Thankfully the scandi type baby stuff offers better choice and some high street shops like next and h&m do a few rainbow type styles.

We have just said we don't know the Sex when asked as we want a suprise. I have to have extra scans at 28, 32 and 34 wks and know to let the sonographer know that we don't know and would like a suprise,they are generally good at making sure they turn the screen etc if you say you don't want to know. But if we accidentally see then so be it.

Weird thread.