When is the best time to announce your pregnancy?

[Andie92]

I'm five-week pregnant at the moment. My partner and I have known for nearly two weeks and we decided to keep it between us until 12 week because the 1st trimester can be a bit risky. I can't help but wonder if we are doing the right thing because every time we see our friends and families we feel like we're lying to them.
So I was wondering when you made your announcements, what kind of reception you got and whether you wish you'd waited or told everyone sooner.

I would go with when you feel comfortable. Following losing a baby previously I've been much more cautious this time. Be honest if the unthinkable happened who would you want to understand & support you? They're the people to share your lovely news with as soon as you want to.

Congratulations

We told family and close friends very early. Didn't announce on FB until 20 week scan.

I'm about 6 weeks. Told all my family when I got.the bfp as we are very close and if anything did happen then I'd want their support. Told my manager last week and will likely tell the team in about 2 weeks. I'm a mental health nurse on a ward so can't really keep quiet without potentially putting myself and my colleagues at risk.
I won't do the Facebook announcement till I have my 12 week scan.

6 weeks onwards here. I have awful hyperemesis though and needed help from family and friends with school runs, etc.

Agree it's hard not to blab it to everyone. I've been outed by a few people at work who knee we were ttc and twigged when I started swigging straight from the gaviscon bottle 2 week ago.

The best time is when you are ready.

In days gone past, people routinely didn't't tell people until 12 weeks (i didn't) and is only relatively recently that people tell people a lot earlier.

I'm 15 weeks and not 'announced' mine yet. The very closest of family and friends know, and I told them fairly quickly after finding out. My head of department, line manager, and PA all now know at work, because I felt from a duty of care perspective I needed to tell them. It's not general knowledge though. I don't think I'll announce it as such at all. I'm not unduly worried but I am about to turn 40 and am on the wary side. I also don't like a fuss and am quiet private about things like this (e.g. the thought of putting a pic of my womb and unborn baby on facebook fills me with absolute horror. I know it's really silly, but it just feels so utterly and completely private to me as visual thing.) I think I'll just individually let people know as and when I speak to them or think of them, and I imagine at some point in the next couple of months it shall start to become apparent!

We told my mum straight away, family and close friends and work at 12 weeks. Others will find out through the grapevine. 22 weeks pg now and we won't be putting on Facebook

My view is people that would support you if anything went wrong then by all means tell them. For example your family.

But it's heartbreaking to have to "untell" people - it's happened to me 3 times and I'm very cautious.

But every time, I told my family as they've been incredibly supportive

I told close friends and family pretty soon and work straight away due to nature of my job, told most people after 12 week scan (but because I felt like they wouldn't want to know before) I'm 34 weeks now and still not on Facebook but that's for my weird Facebook issues nothing about telling people. Congrats abd tell people when you are ready.

With dd, we told our parents and siblings straight away. This time, we aren't telling anyone until we have told dd, and we are waiting until the scan to tell dd as I don't think I could bear to explain it to her if something bad happened. I've told one person at work (the person who is have to call to say if I was sick) and dh has told his boss for the same reason. But that is it. Agree with pp who say go with what you feel comfortable with.

You are not lying it is your own business. How did you know you were pg at 3 weeks, I think you might be getting your dates a bit mixed up!

It's because I'm near enough six weeks and I just double checked when I tested it was just over a week ago, feels like longer =]

Thank you for your responses and I think I will suggest to my partner telling family and close friends when I get the date to meet my midwife in a couple of weeks.

We didn't tell our families or anyone until after 12 weeks. I would have hated having to then tell them bad news but still could have told them I'd had a miscarriage and got support had I needed it.

We didn't plan on telling anyone until 12 weeks but we were on holiday to where BIL lives and decided to tell him in person. We are not telling anyone else until 13 weeks (provided all goes well it will be a Christmas Day announcement).

Thing is I had a miscarriage 3 months ago and we told PIL. I didn't actually tell my own DM as she's elderly and it would have upset her.

Our hand was forced into telling family at 6 wks as we had a couple of social engagements with friends who would twig as soon as they realised I was going alcohol free! But otherwise have kept it all very quiet. It was nice to share it with family sooner. Agree on not making a big FB announcement, it means when the time comes I won't be inundated with messages asking if there's been any 'movement', plus the complete shock of people who didn't know when you finally announce the arrival on FB is priceless!!!

With dd i told everyone when i was about 4-5 weeks pregnant.

Next time im going to see if i can get to 20 weeks without telling anyone

We told parents at 5 weeks and immediate bosses at work at 6 weeks. Then kept the very difficult secret until the scan. Told work friends at 12weeks, then siblings at 13 and 14 weeks (in person) as well as close friends. Put an announcement (not scan picture) on Facebook at the end of week 14. No way could I have waited til 20 week scan!

I told parents right away. GP placed me 4 weeks further along than I am, (long story). Iv told.a few close friends and boss in work as I'm.off sick at min. Told ds after gp visit, he is 15 and has Aspergers, v v smart and knew something was 'different' as he said, and was getting anxious something was wrong. No heartbeat was found at ep scan, I was devastated, but still feel pregnant and doc said could well be I was just too early to detect. The ppl.i.did tell have been fantastic with their support.

Told parents at 5 weeks, close friends around 6/7 weeks and my bosses at 10 weeks. I never did the FB announcement thing but people figured it out from photos when I started showing.

Someone I know vaguely actually messaged me to ask if I was pregnant after seeing one photo where I was 35 weeks and flipping huge, thanks 9lb1oz DS . I typed out a message saying 'Gosh no, what made you think that' but my DH wouldn't let me send it. Meanie.

We weren't planning to tell anyone until 12 weeks, but I've got hyperemesis which forced my hand so various people know now. I don't really mind - probably would have told them if I had a miscarriage.

I'm 10 weeks and other than close family no one else knows. I didn't even really want to tell them to be honest, we didn't tell them until I'd had my early scan at 7 weeks. If I had had an early loss we would have wanted to keep if to ourselves. All that "well you can always try again" would have been too annoying to comprehend.

I'm waiting until after my scan to tell everyone else. Although you won't catch me posting a scan picture to Facebook!

Our parents knew very early on. We needed their support. Didnt tell anyone else until over 20weeks due to a family emergency that happened in the meantime. Still not Facebook announced it and I'm 35+3!
I know it's assumed you shouldn't say anything until 12 weeks but I do hear more and more about how you should tell people earlier so that if something does go wrong then you don't have to cope with it in secret, and that you have support around you.

I'm a bit funny about announcing this kind of news on Facebook, but only because I've had lots of miscarriages and think everything is a terrible jinx.

With my first though I told loads of people straight after I peed on the stick lol. I was such an idiot! This time the only people who know are close family and people I see every day. Otherwise extended family and people I only see occasionally are going to get quite a shock in a few months (touch wood)