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Talk about every stage of pregnancy, from early symptoms to preparing for birth.

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can't do it anymore

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Ladypug · 18/10/2015 18:30

I know this sounds crazy but I honestly can't do much more of this. It's still a few days till due date and I'm exhausted, fed up, in pain, massive, lonely and at Rock bottom. Please tell me it gets easier? I have no idea when baby will be here and I just can't handle waiting anymore! I have bad spd so walking/exercise is out, have no car, DH is working shifts so not seeing him much and I'm sleeping on and off as up so many times in the night! Can't afford all the things ppl recommend eg spa days, haircuts etc and just feel so so down and isolated. Can't watch any more daytime telly and have gone past the high energy nesting stage where I want to clean, tidy and cook! How are other people coping mentally???

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Llouh · 18/10/2015 18:35

Ladypug I could have made this post myself. I'm going insane with the boredom/ waiting/ uncertainly and I just want my baby now.

Work is done, my house is spotless, my family and friends like 150 miles away and I'm so bored all I do is sleep and wait.

5 days until my due date though but no signs either! It is rubbish and people keep saying 'you'll miss having this time to relax once the baby comes' groan!!

CishAndFips · 18/10/2015 18:40

6 days till due date. Went 8 days over with DS I understand how you feel I'm just trying to remain as positive as I can and enjoy the peace before baby arrives.

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Ladypug · 18/10/2015 18:47

God it's so so tough, I literally don't have the energy at all and mentally just don't think I can count any nor hours or analyse any more potential labour symptoms, baby doesn't want to come out! Losing the will to live :-(

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CishAndFips · 18/10/2015 19:20

I know pug it sucks. I feel like I wake up tired. Tomorrow by the time I have done the school run I will be exhausted lie on the couch, watch rubbish on the Telly pick DS up from school do the tea have a quick snuggle with DH then go to bed feeling like I've wasted the day. It's hard trying to remain upbeat and positive but not long now till I'll be having lovely snugly baby cuddles and this crappy bit will be just a distant memory. nearly there now.

Qwertybynature · 18/10/2015 19:21

I went +12. It is boring and you do you get really pissed off waiting. As it's not practical for you to go out, have you got a box set you can emerge yourself in? Sorry it's not a magic solution. But it's cheap and you don't have to move about!

I'd hide your phone too, people started to text me asking if I'd had the baby yet. It as nice to know they cared but

Reebok · 18/10/2015 19:49

It doesn't sound crazy at all. I remember watching the announcement that Prince George had been born and screaming/crying at the tv as that was my due date and I was nowhere near ready to goo to labour. My wonderful madam decided to arrive 10 days later. And this was during a heat wave...so not only was I bored out of my mind with nothing to do all day...but I was dying from the heat. I feel your pain ladies going through it now! At the moment I'm just trying to make it out of the first trimester!

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Ladypug · 18/10/2015 20:36

Ah glad I'm not alone, it's just so horrid! :-(

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SimLondon · 18/10/2015 20:38

have you had treatment for the spd?

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Ladypug · 18/10/2015 21:00

Got a belt as they recommended but caught it too late for physio :-(

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Skiptonlass · 18/10/2015 21:22

The last few weeks suck. They just suck!

I felt so rough the last month - I'm now 13 days post c section (an elcs but with some complications which meant they had to maul me around a bit) and even with that plus a newborn I'm feeling about a thousand times better than before the birth!

I had spd so bad I was housebound. The improvement even four days post birth was incredible. One week post birth we took the little one out for a spin in the pram and I could walk! We went about a mile and it was fabulous.

Just sleep as much as you can. If you've easy access to a pool (I didn't) go float around but otherwise just stay off your feet and rest.

good luck !

ispyfispi · 19/10/2015 09:48

Do you have a good book you could get stuck into? I find I could lose days when I've got a good book on the go! Hope little one arrives soon.

waxweasel · 19/10/2015 09:59

I sympathise, I was in exactly the same place with my first pregnancy and went a bit nuts with the pain/boredom/lack of sleep because of SPD. I was also really raging from all the people going 'ooo enjoy the rest!' and 'is it here yet?'. My DD arrived 5 days overdue - at 39+6 I had acupuncture to try to force her out, and was in the midwife's office sobbing and begging for a sweep on my due date. They took pity and gave me one but it didnt work. Worth a try though!
If it's any consolation, I found that having a newborn - even a difficult screaming non sleeping one like DD - was infinitely easier and better than that last stage of pregnancy. Whereas it was a bit of a shock for my my nct friends who had been having a lovely restful time, for me it was just such a relief to not be pg anymore that I could have dealt with anything! So that's a plus to look forward to.
I basically ate cake, cried, and went a bit mad, so no good advice here.

InFrance2014 · 19/10/2015 14:03

You might not feel like doing anything useful (or have the energy), but if you do, then freezing as many meals as you can in advance of baby's arrival will be something you thank yourself for later! Good luck

Fugghetaboutit · 19/10/2015 14:07

Imagine that with a hyper toddler in tow! What I would do for a lie down!

waxweasel · 19/10/2015 15:25

Oh goodness, I can barely bring myself to make us both a sandwich atm! DH will be the one making batches of freezer meals they were amazingly useful last time round. I also loved the thoughtful guests who turned up with an M&S ready meal so our dinner was sorted not like ILs who turned up and ate everything in the fridge and sent DH out for beer

waxweasel · 19/10/2015 15:27

Oops wrong thread - thought this was the one complaining about being pg with a toddler! Sorry OP.

Fugg that sounds like utter hell.

sophiaslullaby · 19/10/2015 15:38

I fully sympathise - have 10 days until due date and suffering with leg pain, exhausted because I'm not sleeping (due to pelvis/leg pain) and on top on that DH is all stressed and so there's tension between us and I not feel very hormonally irrational and like i don't have any support.
People keep saying to me "oo, you'll be exhaused when baby is here" - yes but I'll be able to sleep with some higher level of comfort than I can do now. I like what waxweasel said - that we may not be the happiest or in the best of comfort now but it'll mean we'll hopefully have some relief from the birth and coping will be easier.

Actually ladypug can I ask what you meant about you catching SPD too late for physio? Mine's come on in the past 3 weeks only, does this mean physio won't do a lot?

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Ladypug · 19/10/2015 15:47

Hey Sophia, no I knew I had problems but didn't know it was a 'thing' thought it was just pregnancy so by the time I flagged it up the referral time wasn't quick enough, my fault entirely!

It is horrid isn't it? I'm being kicked left right and centre, can't bend, hurts to sit, stand, walk and people keep telling me 'wait till baby is here, you think it's hard now!' And 'you need to man up as birth is way worse' - you know, nice constructive things!!!,

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Fugghetaboutit · 19/10/2015 15:57

Did I mention he's been vomiting too?

Stampynono · 19/10/2015 17:34

I am 4 days past due date now and I'm feeling less and less despair! This is probably because I know that I will agree to induction so have 8 days at the most which seems more do-able.

Hopefully you will start to feel the same soon. This time last week I was so so fed up.

sophiaslullaby · 19/10/2015 18:31

Ah, well ladypug I hope the pelvic pain subsides quickly after birth (PP mentioned a week after and they were walking far with baby - sounds good to me!), it can't last forever and WILL get better.
And if the night time brings little sleep - see you all on mumsnet at 3am! I nearly came on for a chat last night but not sure my post would have been as calm!.
Fugg You win! First baby so I can't compare but guess I should feel greatful I can take a nap when I want. I still plan to have more children though so will have the toddler &pregnancy situation to 'look forward' to!

Buttwing · 19/10/2015 21:02

The end really is crap. I had really bad spd with dc3 so I know how hideous it is, you have my total sympathy. With all four of my dc I've been on such a high after they've been born obviously partly because I've had my baby but mainly because I'm not pregnant anymore!

Do actually kept me going through labour by saying " just think buttwing in a few hours
you won't be pregnant anymore"

Buttwing · 19/10/2015 21:05

Oh and my spd went really quickly I was very achey for about 4 days but think that was more down to labour ( felt like I done worlds biggest work out!) once that died down I was pretty much back to normal just felt a bit weak.

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Ladypug · 19/10/2015 21:10

Aw buttwing, you've made me feel so much better :-)

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carbolicsoaprocked · 20/10/2015 00:31

Ladypug - labour isn't always terrible, can you have an epidural? Thanks to epidural my labour was easier than my pregnancy - I couldn't feel pain and I was actually able to sit for more than 5 mins! Bliss! You are so close to meeting your baby and that will give you a massive boost. I know it seems so far away but it could be any time now. You can (and will) do this! Congratulations for when DC arrives!

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