RANT! Am I in the wrong here?! RANT!

[sjd114]

Well, basically.. I'm 6 weeks pregnant, VERY tired & hormonal.. so not sure if that's why I'm so worked up about this..

Basically, I have told my sister I would have my niece and nephew (6 & 10) for 3 weeks of the summer holidays, while they're dad has them the other 3 ( they're seperated) I did this because I obviously love spending time with them, and so she could earn money instead of having to take time off!

Before I start this rant.. my sister has JUST come out of a marriage, and jumped straight in with a guy she just met.. moved him in straight away. And she is just very very self absorbed. Which is sad to say, she doesn't ever bother with the family, unless in need of something. :(

Well, I'm saving every penny I can for this baby.. and only my partner is in work. We manage and we get by with plenty left over. But it's a bit different when you are use to feeding 2 people, washing 2 people's clothes, bathing 2 people, electric etc has gone THROUGH THE ROOF!! Whilst they've been here, (not begrudging them watching a bit of TV etc) and we have had to get more food in, which all adds up.. to a lot. And I told them I would take them to Crealy fun park.. which they have a pass to get in free ( if they're dad gives it to me) but it's £17 for me to get in and go on NOTHING! BOO! :(

But I told her that I'm skint, so need they're passes or can't really pay for all 4 of us to get in. And she just continued talking about her new boyfriend. . (Which is all she seems to care about atm) & she just hasn't offered us a penny.. I wouldn't take it if it was just a weekend I was having them.. never ever have done. But she has a job, good money & just did a bit of cash in hand work... so she has extra.. surely if I hadn't of had her children she would have taken them to these places.. etc, but she can't even offer a fiver towards any of it. But I don't dare ask. I'm not like that!

Obviously I sound like a total bitch right now, but a little help?!

Well, she just popped round with the £20 & kids crealy passes.. I couldn't bring myself to ask her for more. I know im stupid!! I was dropping an unbelievable amount of hints.. "I have no money left to do anything else with them" - " I wish I had a bit of cash in hand work like you!!" Etc etc.. she stood in front of me and said . . I only have £60 until next week.. and the cash in hand work, only gave me £60, as all they had.. They still owe me another £20.. surely that money wouldn't of been missed if she'd of given it to me / her children?! She does that job once a year.. so why does she think it's acceptable to tell me about the money? I even TOLD her that I'm £40 overdrawn until next Friday. And THEN, THEN... she told me to get the kids stuff ready as she's taking them out for dinner tonight?!?!?!?!?!?! I shouldn't be getting this mad/stressed when I'm still so early into my pregnancy. My cousin (who I think of more of a sister) has told me she will be texting her tonight, a polite text.. and give her the facts as I'm too bloody scared to do so myself. :(

update 2 my mum saved the day! She rang to tell her shed given me £20 to have them, but mum said "what, a week yeah?" & sort of guilt tripped her into agreeing. £20 a week will do us! Yay!!!

I don't think that's enough. AIBU?!

She's giving you roughly £1.40 per child a day. For full care, including overnights. That's shocking.

And to tell you she can't afford more, when you are pregnant and overdrawn, before announcing she's off for a meal out... OP, you have ALL the power here. She needs your childcare, and you need nothing from her! All you have to do is tell her you can't keep subsidising her on top of doing the childcare favour, and that is what you are doing. That won't even make a dent in what they cost to feed!

No Achieve.She needs a family shaming! Some people amaze me! And WTAF is she doing moving some random bloke in with her? Does she have no scruples or common sense??