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Boyfriend hasn't told any of his friends I'm pregnant!!

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nicolah132 · 21/07/2015 14:25

So I'm 26 weeks pregnant... Our families know we are expecting as do all my close friends, as far as I know my boyfriend has told his best friend and that's it, we don't see his friends often so they wouldn't know unless he told them but he hasn't! Re pregnancy was a shock for both of us as we wasn't officially together then but we are now! He hasn't told his work either! It's starting to get me down!! Also he has said he doesn't want anything in Facebook about the baby.. I
feel as though it's almost as if
he's ashamed that I'm
pregnant! Even though when we are together he is constantly talking about the baby! Ive spoke to him and asked why he hasn't said anything and his said his work don't need to know but why wouldn't they!!! Im starting to lose my cool and need some advice please!

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blowinahoolie · 22/07/2015 16:28

Not an issue. DH doesn't talk about my pregnancies unless there's a reason to say something...some of his friends don't know I'm pregnant and I'm 35 weeks pregnant at the moment. I prefer it that way and have asked him not to broadcast it. Only certain people locally know I'm pregnant and obvious family members. Many far away friends don't know I'm pregnant as I don't want them to know until there is a birth announcement.

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jaykay34 · 22/07/2015 19:46

My DP was the same.
And when he did eventually post a facebook pic of him and his new baby, and everyone was like "wow you kept that quiet", he replied "i wanted to make sure he got here safely first".
My DP isn't a showy person, and I quite liked the fact that we weren't yet another scan photo on the newsfeed on facebook .

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Cornberry · 22/07/2015 21:16

I wouldn't necessarily worry. Some people are more private and frankly men are weird. I'm 35 weeks and discovered that my dad hadn't told any of his family the other day. I actually didn't feel like announcing it so I told people as I saw or spoke to them.

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ARV1981 · 22/07/2015 21:25

I don't think it's strange. My dh hasn't really announced it, though he has told work so he gets paternity leave (I think he thinks it's a holiday...)

We've told friends when we've seen them, but not done the whole fb thing. Family knows obviously, which is the main thing!

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Cheshirehello79 · 24/07/2015 18:47

I think you're just over reacting and it's not a big deal. Both your close people know so it's not like he's ashamed - I'm sure they are the most important people to you guys. What will you gain from him advertising it on fb and going round texting all his mates? Congrats? Baby grows ?

I think you need to come down don't stress yourself over nothing and enjoy your pregnancy. If I were you though I would have a conversation in regards to if he wants paternity leave at work and when he's going to tell his HR that's about it !

Congrats :-)