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AMcoffeeLover · 05/07/2015 06:49

Posting here and in conceiving.
Do tesco express (the one in Amersham, bucks), sell pregnancy tests? I need to know asap

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AMcoffeeLover · 05/07/2015 07:26

I'm not going to make him stay. But knowing him it'll be better knowing all the facts, laying them out for each other and working out what to do than him leaving and then me telling him and having to re discuss

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Appleblossom82 · 05/07/2015 07:27

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AMcoffeeLover · 05/07/2015 07:27

I told him I missed 2 pills in the first week and he chose to still have sex and not use a condom. Its not like I've tricked him

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AMcoffeeLover · 05/07/2015 07:30

We were ttc last year, lost it. Stopped and went on pill till things settled with the bungalow and my job. I didn't stop him having sex with me as I though we were fine emotionally, would only be a few months earlier than planned and he knew I missed the pill and it was a risk (seemed to turn him on)

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AMcoffeeLover · 05/07/2015 07:31

But yes a part of me would like him to change his mind, he's done this before

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AMcoffeeLover · 05/07/2015 07:35

Should add that I completely missed the bleed, so over a week late, no cramps or spotting or anything other than sore boobs.
recently changed pillsand on the last one missing a bleed was common (never happened to me though) but read the leaflet to this one and it said if you miss one take a PG test, even if neg still see a doc before taking any again

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Eminado · 05/07/2015 07:35

Sorry you need to sort out the FIFTEEN THOUSAND POUNDS this man stole from you!!!

Stealthpolarbear · 05/07/2015 07:35

He sounds like he enjoys messing with you
What time is he due back?

Sparrowlegs248 · 05/07/2015 07:36

If it were me i would have the relationship discussion first, and see how that goes. Then you have a true indication of his feelings without bringing a possible pregnancy into the mix.

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AMcoffeeLover · 05/07/2015 07:43

Think I've written the deposit money off. But yes that is a discussion that I need with a solicitor before talking to him though. If I have a child to support he can bloody well give it back.
I didn't think he'd leave me though, after 5 years he wouldn't take my money, make love to me then leave.....

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Grewupinafield · 05/07/2015 07:49

I hope you get the test soon and you get the answer you want.
Take care of yourself and give yourself time to work out what YOU want!

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AMcoffeeLover · 05/07/2015 07:49

Yeah £15,000 in a property that's in just his name. His mates are dicks who all cheat ect so not surprised he's gone weird while with them. He was with them last weekend too...

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contractor6 · 05/07/2015 07:52

Go get a test, but don't be waiting for him when he gets back. My DH sent similar text when I was away on a different continent. I was upset and phone service rubbish so couldn't talk. Texted him saying flight lands at xyz in a few days if you want this to work come and meet me. He met me and was like different person. Sometimes I don't think men think before texting how much that will hurt you. So my point I stand up for yourself, show you are a pushover who needs look after and he might respect you more. On the other hand if this isn't an isolated incident then tell him to do one. As others have said above not worth ruining a childhood with arguing parents, good luck Flowers

differentnameforthis · 05/07/2015 07:52

The whole thing makes me a bit more than suspicious, tbh.

He borrowed your money & hasn't paid you back
He was all loving before he went away
Didn't care about a missed pill

Now things aren't working, he isn't happy...are you SURE that
1] he is away with who he says he is away with
2] something hasn't happened while he has been away (another woman, a fling etc)

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AMcoffeeLover · 05/07/2015 07:53

My life is a mess. yesterday morning it was great, now its shit

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AMcoffeeLover · 05/07/2015 07:58

I don't think he's cheating, but i'm not sure.

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tinyme135 · 05/07/2015 08:01

I'm sorry to hear what your going through, I have no experience in my ex leaving me and thinking I was pregnant but I know about how horrible an ex can be and know what your going through.

My ex dumped me on Halloween and told me over the phone he didn't love me no more and to stop contacting him. I was so upset as we beeb together three years and it was suddenly out of the blue. So the next day I booked a holiday with my friends and then my ex went crazy stalkery on me.

I went out clubbing with people from my new work and he followed me there. He followed me all round my work. And once I got a new partner (my current OH who I'm pregnant with) everything went crazy.

He blackmailed me with sexual pictures saying if I don't go back with him he'll show everyone them, threatening to hurt my OH and turning my family against me. I went to the police and they told me just to change my number.

I went on holiday with my friends and he ruined that too with all the threats creating a fake FB account of me and all that. I come home and my OH told my dad everything what went on and my dad threatened him and he didn't like it so as my OH drove back home he almost crashed as my ex wedged things into his break pads. Now I hear nothing from him and I'm really happy.

What I'm trying to say is don't go back with him, let him walk and stay strong don't cower and hide like I did as it's not good for you. After all this I found put he had been cheating on me and pretending I didn't exist, like some of the other posts had said...are you sure it was a lads weekend away?

I hope you sort it out hun, but don't try and get him back you can do better x

fhdl34 · 05/07/2015 08:03

Have you left to get the test? It's gone 8am. When is he due back?

Fluffycloudland77 · 05/07/2015 08:10

There is most likely someone else, dh's colleagues who leave relationships always have a ow on the side.

Unless there is a written agreement signed by both of you I cant see how a solicitor would go about getting the money back. He would say it was a gift.

He's treating you in a way no one deserves.

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AMcoffeeLover · 05/07/2015 08:11

Just got to the shop

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