Mother In Law being a Pain - Help!!!

[MumToBe2015R]

I'm 36wks, only have a few weeks left now, & mil is being a right pain!! She rang DH today demanding she is coming to the hospital with us when I go into labour & that we need to pick her up before we go (like she's royalty!)

Anyhow DH told her that's not happening, and only he is allowed in labour room (little white lie, I actually don't want her there)

She said she doesn't care & she's coming no one can stop her & she wants to be in the room when I give birth!

I'm so annoyed! Because since day one me & her have never got on, although my pregnancy all she's given me is grief, & bitch to other people about me! (As I've been quiet ill during the pregnancy, so she's been going around saying I'm not going to be a good mum!! )

I've made it clear since I got pregnant I only want DH there, and he will let my mum know, she lives quiet far so will take time for her to come. Even though she will come she will be in waiting room waiting for news.

My mother in law doesn't no this though, and she said to DH today 'if I can't be at the hospital, then her mum isn't allowed'
She's doing my head in with all this pathetic talk!

What do I do?

Am I doing anything wrong?

Can I let hospital staff aware when i arrive there, as i DONT WANT HER THERE!

Help......!!!!!

I'm just aghast that people would try to muscle in on a delivery... I totally understand people being excited, glued to the phone for updates and wanting a quick peek at the baby post delivery once you are happy to see folks, scrubbed up and comfy, but being in the delivery suite?? These women must be insane. The mere thought makes my cervix clamp shut!

Hope it goes well for you OP. You'll not regret putting good boundaries down early on. Start as you mean to go on. And maybe be renovating the spare room so she can't possibly pitch up and stay... ;)

I wouldn't let anyone know until you actually were holding new DC in your arms.

We actually left my DGPs house with all my DAunts, DUncles and 2 DCousins (children 4 and 5 months) after Christmas dinner, and pleaded exhaustion. Before practically going straight to hospital (only home to get changed). I had been laboring for 2 hours there without telling them (just the early stages, painful but manageable).

We didn't ring anyone until DD was there, about 15 mins after she arrived we rang DPs and DPILs, at 6am, and then sent text messages to the other wider families at about 9am - it being Boxing Day/Stephen's Day, we didn't want to wake them all too early and they couldn't come visiting anyway for hours!

We had a priest to visit about 3pm (my Uncle ), 2 Aunts to visit about 3.45pm, and both our families descended the next day - one in the morning the other in afternoon. And another Aunt who came on a mercy mission (DD was a messy pup, so we ran through our stock of babygrows and nappies in no time and she had that size clean and ready so we could borrow them - mother of the 5 month old ).

We always felt that the going IN to hospital and labour part was really only for us, it could take a long time, we didn't want others either worried or pressing for news, and I wanted to just concentrate on getting through that without worrying about anyone else. Later, yes, all welcome - but not for the labour part.