hello again, sorry for not posting but ended up in Germany and then there was the trouble with the passwords and ... well anyway the thread's moved on a long way!
Have not quite caught up but heavenscent and freshbread welcome (and anyone else I missed sorry).
heaven, do feel for you. Please let us know how it goes. Take it as easy as you can. Keep in mind that quite apart from worries about the bleed, HG itself severely depresses your mood.
About ondansetron. ealli is quite right, no firms will test meds on pregnant women so no firms will say that their stuff is safe for preg women, with one exception (the US & canadian equivilent of cyclizine + B6).
This means that the meds that are used now have been tried out gradually over a long period of time. The ones used now are considered effectively safe. Agreed there are no absolute guarentees - but severe nausea and vomitting also poses a risk for the baby and for the mother. In the weigh up, it's usually better to take the meds and remain as strong and able to drink / eat as is possible, rather than struggle through without meds and end up dehydrated and with your physical system on it's knees.
In the long term, and I speak from bitter experience here, if HG wipes you out for many months then you can be in a much worse position to look after your baby than if you took medications and reduced the HG to as low a level as possible. I happen to have ME too but without doubt, the untreated HG the first time had such a bad effect on me physically that I was not able to give our son the care he needed post birth. Deeply, deeply regret that and I -wish- I'd found this thread then and fought for meds.
A lot of the fear around the meds come from the old and dreadful problem around thalidomide, but that was sixty years ago now and the testing procedures are far tighter. it owuld never have been okay'd nowadays.
Ondansetron - there is a huge Danish study dating from feb '13 in the NEJM. There have been two analyses of the data. The first found no adverse effects. The second picked some holes in the methodology of the first, which is worth bearing in mind but the overall consensus, as far as I can tell, is that it's not going to have a bad effect on the baby and it can really help you, the mother - which also helps the baby.
ahem. Essay over. SOrry!
foodmention - lilac (it was you asking about high-cal food?) - if you can eat some of these, then avocados, unsalted nuts (maybe lightly roasted?), dates or figs with cream, salmon, hummous, full fat greek yoghurt, high-cocoa chocolate is all high in calories.
Won't make this post even longer but just to wish everyone a quiet and surviveable day