Weirdest reactions when you told people you're pregnant?

[tindel]

As I'm now 17 weeks, I've pretty much told everyone that I'm pregnant. Most people have been lovely about it - even had a couple of people crying because they were so pleased - but two reactions have definitely stood out as being a bit odd and one slightly rude, imo.

First one was when I announced it at my team meeting, which was mainly done over teleconference. After I'd said it, I had people saying their congratulations and then my boss said "Yes, well done Tindel". Well done? For what? Getting knocked up? I know it was meant nicely, but it just seemed a bit weird to be praised in the same way as if I'd finished a work project!

The other one, I'm still not sure if I should have taken offence at. When we went to tell DH's parents, MIL's first reaction was to turn to him and say "And I suppose this is your doing?" FFS, who else would it have been, given that we've been together for more than 10 years?

So share - what has been the weirdest reaction you've had when you've told people you're pregnant?

The very first words from my MIL were, "So are you having the swine flu jab?"
That was it. No congratulations, expressions of excitement or anything. Bizarre.

lorelai, I was always the youngest in my year and I absolutely loved it!

My dad's reaction (while scratching his head with his mouth open) 'are you pregnant?'. He hadn't seen it coming!

My MIL took forever to understand what we were telling her. We had given our nieces and nephews a very pretty Christmas bauble a few weeks before Christmas. On Christmas Eve, we were at my inlaws and told them there had been baubles for all the grandchildren and I pulled one from my bag, saying we had gotten one too! MIL commented by saying 'they are so pretty, now shall we eat?' while the rest of the family had gotten the clue and were 'OMG!'. So we showed MIL the scan pic, after which she asked 'what does this mean?'. It was my FIL telling her 'she's pregnant' that made her understand!

One of our BIL to DH: 'so you can do it as well!'. Not sure if he meant sex or knocking a woman up, but we found it funny.

I gave my friends a home made Christmas cracker each with a scan picture in it. Their faces were priceless.

We told DH's friends while dining out. Another couple is expecting as well, they are a few weeks ahead of us but had told way earlier (we had waited until 13 weeks). DH said 'well, last year I got married around the same time a X and this summer I will be doing something together with X as well, because I'm going to be a dad too!'. They all sat openmouthed staring at us, as they hadn't expected that!

My friend wanted to send me a card saying 'congrats, you had unprotected sex'. That is totally my humor, so I wouldn't have minded. She told me her boyfriend would have sent my OH a card saying 'congrats, your balls work'. It's a shame they didn't, as I would have laughed so hard!

"How do you know this one is ok?"

This was after I'd had a miscarriage Said I didn't know but was obviously desperately hoping it would be ok (it was, praise be). Still can't believe how insensitive some people can be.

We had congrats from family and friends, however some friends reacted with 'Well, that's your lives over' or 'Being a parent is really hard/tiring/boring/miserable etc.'

We know it won't be a walk in the park, but hearing those comments from friends that are already parents makes us even more nervous (this is our first child).

My FIL said "Congratulations! It's serious then?" he meant our relationship - we've been together 13 years and married 1 year ago.

My mum upon finding out seemed please but the first words out of her mouth were "well, that was inevitable".

People are strange

^ This is DC1 (currently pregnant)

My step-mother takes the biscuit for awful replies.
When I told her and my dad about being pg with DC1 she wrote me a diatribe about how schizophrenia was triggered by poor nutrition during gestation and implied I would be a terrible mother due to my mental health (not to mention how I was ruining my life forever, funnily enough she never had children).

We are nc now, thank god. I've kept the e-mail as a reminder of why I never wish to speak to her again.

Sorry for your loss GetMe

My dad and his parents (my GPs) just whinged about how old they felt.
Me and DH were engaged after 5 years, married at 7, had DS at 8. It wasn't a surprise to anyone.

My sister (looking angry): "Well it's not viable until 24 weeks you know"

From my best friend, of all people: "What are you going to do with the dogs?"

I had an Easter card from my grandma, inside she had written "congratulations on your lovely news" which is very nice, except she followed it up with "never thought it would happen". Rude!!

pineapplemilkshake that was HORRIBLE of your sister...

My mum knew we were trying to get pregnant, when I rang her to tell her my test was positive she just whispered 'aw shit' :D

My nanna was the best reaction though, we have had lots of losses in the family over the last few years and she was secretly hoping one of us would make an announcement soon, when we gave her the scan picture she has hysterical, crying, hugging both of us, the works..

2nd pregnancy - "I thought we were waiting a while..."
a) The only "we" involved were DH & I, no-one else.
b) I'd been pretty vocal about waiting "a minimum of 9 months" & that we wanted them close together. DS1 was 10 months when DS2 was conceived.

ooh and my best friend sent me a text saying 'congratulations on the successful sex' totally our humour so I thought it was hilarious!

'panda.. That's not exactly a puppy'.

From my friend after a couple of weeks before I said I never wanted a baby but would rather have a puppy..

my sil txt dp saying what are you going to do? unfortunately mmc'd that pregnancy but fell again 6 months later and she has been absolutely lovely txting for regular updates etc. i am hopeful it was just shock the first time round, dp used to be a bit 'wild'

my colleague: "was it planned"?
my gran: "cant dh keep his hands off you"? (didnt want to say that it wasn´t his hands that did it! ) and
my father: "nobody asked me if I wanted to be a grandfather". (was joking)

lots: are you hoping for a boy? (we had two girls but didn´t have a third to have a boy, in fact we were convinced it would be a girl).

A family member quizzed me 'is it one baby' then asked 'if I was sure, had I seen a scan'. I still don't understand what the implication was - were they trying to see if I'd had IVF?

A work colleague - "You'll never be the same downstairs again."
An acquaintance of dH - "Congratulations, wondered when you'd get around to it!"
We had waited a while before trying for ds1 and after I heard that comment I felt a little irritated - if we'd had fertility problems it would have made me very upset!
The biscuit taker is my neighbour who upon meeting ds2 for the first time asks me - "Are you going to have any more?" ds2 was barely a week old. I said a flat no and her response was "You're not going to try for a girl?"
Why? Given the gender balance (or lack of it) in DH's family I'd just end up with another boy anyway. Two is enough!

" thank God for that, I thought you were going to resign".

My DM: "who is pregnant? You? You don't want kids. I hope it is a girl because I have a grandson already". It was a boy. She never forgave me.

ollieplimsoles I love that!

My step-dad said, without missing a beat, after we told him:

Congratulations. Can I go and watch the tennis now?

I loved it!