possible delayed miscarriage or just am I just worrying?

[Allmychildrenhavepaws]

Hello everyone, I'm new on here and was hoping to get some advice from people who have had similar experiences......

So I tested on March 1st on my Husband's birthday with a Clear Blue early detection test....overjoyed to find a 2-3 week result! It's my first pregnancy and didnt know what to expect with all those new aches and body changes etc. I am a regular 28 dayer and am guessing we concieved around the 11th feb which would have made the test result correct. I had a little sharp pain that seemed to shoot up my cervix into my ueterus a couple of weeks after I tested, phoned the midwife who said I should go to A&E to get it checked.

They took bloods etc and hormones suggested I was 7 weeks which was correct to me, all other tests were fine. Booked in and had early pregnancy scan two days later whilst spotting very lightly (my mum bled fairly heavily throughout her pregnancy with me) the scan was TV and showed only the gestational sac and yolk sac, they said you may have the dates wrong or you may be a little slow with develloping but everything looked fine. They saw me again 10 days later (yesterday) when i was 9 weeks from my LMP and they saw an embryo that measured only 4mm, the lady said that the good news is that there has been growth, but the bad news is there is no heartbeat yet. Again she said perhaps I had my dates wrong, but if I had my dates wrong then why did the test indicate how far gone I was along with my blood HGC levels tallying with the Clear Blue result?
I have to go back next week when I will be 10 weeks, she said that if there is no heartbeat at the next scan then it is most likely a delayed miscarriage :(
Iam looking at both pros and cons: there has been growth between the two scans, but no heartbeat yet, some women measure small and then catch up later by week 12, I'm not far off week 12 and only 4mm though, although I'm spotting my mum did too very heavily with me........
Just so lost, cant help but think the worst but the facts dont look good, I suppose there is always hope, its not over till its over ay?

Anyone have any words of wisdom??? Xxx Leila

My first pregnancy ended in a mmc at about 12 weeks and it was awful. I waited until i had a normal period and tried again. Luckily I got BFP the first month after AF. I think you are quite fertile after a mc. Good luck and I hope you're ok xx

Thanks tattyI think we are just going by the theory 'if its meant to be then it will' congrats on your new pg x

Forgot to say tatty, sorry you went through a mmc, its such an emotional time. Glad you're in a better place now xxx

So sorry to hear what you've been going through . I had 2 miscarriages while ttc my DD, we were also told to wait before trying again but we went away for DPs birthday 2 weeks after my second miscarriage and she was conceived then. Hope you are feeling better soon and good luck

I didn't wait before trying again and fell pregnant straight away, no period in between. There's no medical reason to wait other than it makes dating another pregnancy easier, it's all down to how you feel mentally.

I needed to be pregnant again, so bought a clear blue fertility monitor from ebay and just tried again. Everyone is different, do what is right for you x

Madame & Bifs, thanks for your replies. Congratulations on your happy outcomes despite how bumpy the road may have been to get there.... I know it depends on cycle, but how soon after mc did you both concieve? Was it two weeks from start of mc or was it two weeks after bleeding stopped etc? Xx

Mine was 2 weeks from when the bleeding started so my midwife used the mc as my LMP to work out my due date. I miscarried on 4 Feba and DD was born on 12 November

Mine was about 4 weeks after bleeding started, I didn't get a peak on the monitor until then x

Thanks guys, wow, so I could possibly conceive anytime from this Wednesday, as I started bleeding on the 8th before they confirmed mmc at my scan on 9th.... Best get at it then a new baby will never replace what has been lost, but will give us a candle in the recent darkness. Thanks again ladies xxx

No problem, I understand what you mean. It doesn't take away from the pain of losing a baby, but it does give you some sunshine in the darkness.

Yep, get to it!! Every other day is best apparently! Good luck and hoping to hear some happy news soon xx

Thank you