They weren't very confident on the gender?!

[Treesandbees]

We just had our 20 week scan and asked for her to see what gender the baby was. She had a good look and said she thought it was a girl as she kept seeing the '2 lines' but wasn't really sure! We knew they can't be 100% sure but now we don't know what to think of whether to even announce it! Is this common? We didn't find out with DS1 so weren't sure what to expect.

You can't tell the gender of a child from a scan only the sex

Groan. I'm sure the OP is aware of the difference. Maybe if the companies change the name of the scan then people won't use it as much.

OP - I don't know how common it is but I know that the 20 weeks scan is more for checking everything is ok with the baby rather than determining the sex. You would probably be better going for a private scan if you can before announcing to other people.

Congratulations!

If the sonographer isn't sure of the sex, then you haven't got anything to announce.

So like previous PG, you (and everyone else) get the traditional discovery on the day.

Thanks Bicyle...I thought I'd used the right term Doh! We have another scan at 28 weeks so will get it double checked then just feels like awhile to wait!!

Why do you need to make an announcement at all?

If anyone asks you just say "We think it's a girl, but the sonographer wasn't completely sure." End of.

Well not an announcement as such but we haven't told many people yet about being pregnant and wanted to send a message to friends/family and it will inevitably provoke the sex question!!

To be honest I don't think they will ever tell you with complete certainty at an nhs scan due to the possibility of getting it wrong. I remember our sonographer being pretty vague with DS. They were right though!

We were told 70% a girl with my dd. They said they can never be 100% with a girl but if it was a boy it's normally obvious. By 32 week scan it was obvious she was a girl.

This pregnany they were sure it is a boy- and even showed me how obvious it was ( it was very obvious unless this baby has a third leg!)

They are Prob right- but never want to say for certain but I know that's fustrating!

I've had 2 friends be told the wrong sex, and one of those had paid for private scans. Our hospital doesn't tell you anyway. Just tell them they weren't sure on the sex.

Ignore the snippy posters asking why you have to announce it and correcting your use of sex and gender. It's lovely that you're pregnant- congratulations.

You can have scans privately, but very often NHS sonographers can't tell you for certain in case they are wrong. They can only give you a best guess.

I think it is pretty rare that it is wrong. They are just covering themselves for that rare occurrence. Congratulations!

We had a private scan to find our the sex, I also don't think there is anything wrong with announcing the news along with the sex of the baby to people you care about. It's a nice thing for some to share for those that wish to know :) Congrats :) Hope you get to find out at a later scan

Yawn @MorgansMummy. Gender/sex, the OP and everyone on here knew what was meant.

Shame they weren't able to tell you definitely OP, almost worse than waiting til the end!

Poor OP, getting a hard time! I'm just like you, I like to know the sex, each to their own, after years of infertility I don't need the surprise at birth

I was told with boys they're nearly 100% accurate, with girls it's 90% accurate. You could announce that it's probably a girl? If you're keen to know for sure so that only one set of names to think of etc you could always go for a private scan. When I had a private scan it was done by an nhs sonographer who worked privately in the evenings.

As a midwife, I've seen scans be wrong many times. I remember one labour, the parents talked to this baby boy the whole way through, using his name, everything they'd bought was blue, the nursery at home was blue, with his name on the wall, you've probably already guessed it was a girl!
We see it a few times a year, even when they've been 97/98% sure at scan!

does it really matter colourblind some people actually like to buy items deemed by some to be specific to the sex of the baby, and some don't! Each to their own. If you don't agree with doing that, then thats up to you and there is nothing wrong with that, but don't then jump on the back of those that might want to decorate their nursery in pinks for a girl and blues for a boy. Everyone is different

I can totally understand wanting to know the sex of the baby - OP, you could pay for a private scan, but until then say that the sonographer wasn't sure during your last scan.

I cannot fathom wanting to paint a nursery pink for girls or blue for boys though. This isn't the 50's.....

Why do people feel the need to be such arses?

Some people LIKE to know the sex, and they LIKE to tell people.

It's not hard is it.

If it's not your bag why don't you go away and find someone else's Easter bonnet to piss on.