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They weren't very confident on the gender?!

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Treesandbees · 30/03/2015 16:55

We just had our 20 week scan and asked for her to see what gender the baby was. She had a good look and said she thought it was a girl as she kept seeing the '2 lines' but wasn't really sure! We knew they can't be 100% sure but now we don't know what to think of whether to even announce it! Is this common? We didn't find out with DS1 so weren't sure what to expect.

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Tranquilitybaby · 31/03/2015 12:26

Then you can't tell anyone as its not certain at all.

We've known what we're having since 12 weeks but haven't revealed it to anyone. The knowledge is for is only as we had a rough ride last year.

Certainly nobody will be invited to see the nursery or anything I've bought.

You can have a private scan if you're desperate to know, they may be able to tell more easily.

WindYourBobbinUp · 31/03/2015 12:27

My mum never had ultrasounds with me or my brother in late 70s / early 80s as they weren't routinely available. So I think nursery painting pink/blue is modern rather than 1950s. Actually in the 50s my Dad shared a bed as did most kids, there was no nursery or own room unless you were, I'd imagine, very wealthy, which was rare in the postwar era.

Yes, I realise I've gone off on a tangent!

Congratulations and do what you like OP!

TerryTheGreenHorse · 31/03/2015 12:27

There is nothing wrong with showing interested people your nursery decoration or any clothes you have bought.

Everyone's individual choice at the end of the day.

Gemerama · 31/03/2015 12:28

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Tranquilitybaby · 31/03/2015 12:29

I'm surprised we've managed it lol! But glad we have as having an ELCS too so otherwise there's not much to tell.

ImpatiencePersonified · 31/03/2015 12:34

You know... there are times where I LOVE this board and then there are times when I'm reminded why group of hormonal women (deny it if you like, you are) chucking their opinions all over the place like loaded guns is a fricken nightmare.

Ladies, for the sake of good grace and not coming across ever so slightly antagonistic try, really try, to be pleasant to people. If you're unsure follow some basic rules;

RULES ON HOW NOT TO BE RUDE

Rule 1 - Stop being curt - its rude
Rule 2 - Stop being rude - it's rude
Rule 3 - Stop thinking everyone else is an idiot because they aren't you - its rude
Rule 4 - Stop picking people up on grammar or turn of phrase when there really is no need - it's rude

and finally

Rule 5 - Stop picking arguments... guess what... IT'S RUDE.

Rant over and ready for the tirade

Also, OP - congrats on your pregnancy and I hope you find out if its pink or blue because it's not unreasonable to want to know.

Miele72 · 31/03/2015 12:37

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croon979 · 31/03/2015 12:41

totally agree with ImpatiencePersonified...whatever happened to tolerance and respect for other opinions/decisions?

congratulations OP. We chose to find out the sex and are really glad we did. I hope you are able to get a definitive answer if you want to know. We actually had a harmony scan and the revealing of the sex was part of it. I couldn't give a stuff whether others choose to find out the sex or not, it is totally their decision.

TerryTheGreenHorse · 31/03/2015 12:44

Well said that poster.

It's just an excuse to try and look superior at someone else's expense, I think it's actually too kind to blame the hormones some people just love to do that.

CoffeeTwo · 31/03/2015 12:51

I understand the wanting to know. With my last pregnancy finding out we were having a boy really kick started the bonding process, I didn't enjoy many aspects of pregnancy and thinking and dreaming about my son got me through it. Even then the sonographer wouldn't say 100% but DH was certain he saw boy bits!

With this pregnancy all being well I hope to find out the sex. If it's not possible we will pay for a private scan. The sex itself isn't important but I just like to know who's in me :)

SantasLittleMonkeyButler · 31/03/2015 12:56

"The sex itself isn't important but I just like to know who's in me."

Well, it's only polite CoffeeTwo

CoffeeTwo · 31/03/2015 12:57

TerryTheGreenHorse · 31/03/2015 13:15

My sonographer said I can't always be sure of the sex but this baby has the biggest scrotum I've ever seen.

I was a trifle nervous.

Number3cometome · 31/03/2015 15:19

I was told boy at 12 weeks, was a boy.
Girl at 12 weeks for next baby, was a girl.
This time, was told possibly a boy at 20 week scan, 99.9% boy at private scan.

NHS will not commit to the sex of the baby, i've had a sonographer (NHS) say she would put her career on the line with a guess that it's a boy, but is not 'allowed' to say for sure.

Yes they get it wrong sometimes, but I personally only know one person out of tons who have been told incorrectly.

As for pink / blue - I don't get why people get all high and mighty about this.

I wouldn't make my son's nursery pink, i'd make it blue.
And that's my choice, so fuck off if you don't like it!

TerryTheGreenHorse · 31/03/2015 17:28

There isn't anything wrong with the colour pink, at this age I,e, NEWBORN we get to choose their things.

When the child is older they might well express a preference for blue, green yellow or whatever colour, but even if you paint the room stark white, it's still led by the adult.

Encouraging a child nit to be limited to their gender goes s lot further than dressing them in blue babygros as a newborn, to be honest seeing people getting lambasted for having a bit of pink really grips my shit.

VikingVolva · 31/03/2015 17:33

The problem isn't pink, it's pinkification.

And of course, the additional consumption required to maintain it (eg reduction of hand-me-downs, more redecorating etc).

Gemerama · 31/03/2015 17:42

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GingerCuddleMonster · 31/03/2015 17:58

congratulations

my friend had this, they really weren't sure. So she announced but when asked said "bugger Won't show us..." bump's nickname was bugger turned out to be a girl.

MaryWestmacott · 31/03/2015 18:04

OP - in your case I'd just say the sonographer couldn't tell because of the angle. Don't say they think it's a girl, because the message everyone will get is "it's a girl" and you'll get lots of pink things, if it's a boy, you'll get comments about the sonographer getting it wrong and wasting money etc... just leave it as 'don't know' - and use hand-me-downs from your DC1. (My DC2 is a girl and we had a boy for DC1, but she still wore a lot of blue sleep suits, I could pretend it was for strong feminist reasons, but really it's just I'm a bit cheap... She doesn't wear much pink now, but then she looks really peeky in pink, she's got very pale colouring and it's not a very flattering colour!)

TerryTheGreenHorse · 31/03/2015 19:09

Pinkification?

Oh good grief. It's attitudes not colours. OP I think a woodland theme is suitably neutral as long as you include some big manly rabbits.

VikingVolva · 31/03/2015 19:23

Pinkification is an attitude

Gemerama · 31/03/2015 19:26

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TerryTheGreenHorse · 31/03/2015 19:32

No it's not, it's a colour and a made up word.

VikingVolva · 31/03/2015 19:34

I'd agree it's a neologism.

But it's not a colour.

TerryTheGreenHorse · 31/03/2015 19:37

I think you will find it is a colour.

Anyway, the OP has confirmed to you that she is doing a woodland themed nursery so you can relax.

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