Anyone newly pregnant out there, keeping it a secret for another few weeks?

[Willow1331]

I've had my BFP now for exactly one week, so I'm only nearly 5 weeks. Only DH knows. What a struggle to keep a secret! All I can do is look forward to telling family and friends in a few weeks. Really hard...

Hi I got my BFP on the 15th and still only me and my OH know! I'm now 6+4. The only reason we've not told anyone else is because I want my dad to be the first to know and he's been out of the country! He gets home Monday so I can't wait to tell him and my brother. After that we will tell my OH dad and bro and sisters then my 2 best mates but that will be it until my scan! So it will be excluding me and OH 8 people that will know!

Congrats willow and cryingbabymess!

I am 12 weeks and found out I was pregnant the day before we were going on a ski hol with a group of friends. So unfortunately we had to tell them as there was no way I could hide it for a week with drinking etc. Hated having to tell people that early as I was totally panicking myself about risks of mc - would have been lovely to have it as our secret for a while!

Hello, I'm 8+3 and DH and I decided not to tell anyone until the 12weeks. First pregnancy so thought it'd be hard (because I'm excited) but actually it's been hard because I've just purely wanted the female support -i feel so I'll at times (DH is great...but can't comprehend the nasty side effects first trimester is throwing at me)...so I have told a pregnant girl at work who's just given me that boost to plough through.
It can drag but I just daydream up ways to tell the parents/in-laws/ work
Happy, healthy pregnancies to all x

I'm 5 + 1 and bursting to tell everyone. I told my mum and one person at work, a colleague who gave me some good advice while ttc as she is a specialist in fertility etc.

We've been trying for 18 months so I've pictured being pregnant and sharing the news lots of times. But I've also had a mc so I know first hand that it's too early. I will have an early scan at 6+5. Fingers crossed it will be fine.

I'm 7+5 and haven't really succeeded in keeping the secret. I was too excited.

lucy we have also been trying for 18 months. So surreal after all that disappointment. Congratulations, I hope this pregnancy goes well and congratulations to everyone with their BFPs.

Congrats :) I'm 9+2 and we're keeping it secret until after 12 week scan, maybe longer? Not sure yet. It's kinda funny sometimes, people say things and I'm thinking 'you have no idea...'

Thank you, the travelling lemon. Scatter, you amaze me! I don't think I'll last the 12 weeks without telling more people. Why do you want to keep it secret beyond the 12 weeks? I think I will show quickly this time round as I've got no tummy muscles to speak of and I had a bump around 12 weeks with my ds1.

So great to hear other stories. I'm in a real situation as my manager and I planned to go away for a wine filled night this weekend, and I really don't want her to know and stifle my career just now. She also is the biggest gossip, I definately don't want her to find out before I tell my parents.

To clarify I am not going to drink. Will say I'm on antibiotics and will see how far that takes me.

I'm 8+1 and only me and DH know!
Will tell everyone after 12 week scan but I really can't wait! I want to tell everyone! I look pregnant already as so bloated but just feel fat...

Willow I've often suffered with water infections and needed antibiotics so when night out with the girls cropped up and I knew saying no to alcohol was going to raise eyebrows the groundwork was already in place as the girls had seen me pop out to the loo ALL DAY to wee (they thought it was UTI again....nope, 1st trimester bladder!) and they fully accepted when I said I was on antibiotics and couldn't drink, I hate to lie but least I could enjoy the night with my cranberry juice...!

That's really great. My weekend slid by successfully, antibiotic excuse worked well. Does anyone have any plans for how to tell your parents? I can't wait to tell my mum and dad, they will be so happy. Was hoping to do it at 6-7 weeks over dinner.

Ah well done! Glad it worked well and you enjoyed yourself?

We had big plans to tell our parents together over dinner in couple of weeks under the ruse of our first anniversary. I've been so ill though that I've needed their support so told MIL/FIL last night and telling my parents today. Mum will guess as soon as I say "guess what?" so want to come up with something else....heh heh!

That sounds like so much fun, even planning what you might say.
The illness though, when did that kick in?

I felt really nauseous in week 7. Luckily there was something going round at work anyway so I just joined in with the symptoms of everyone else!! We are considering not telling our parents til week 14 as it is my FIL birthday so we thought we might tell him by giving him a happy birthday grandad (to be) card!

My nausea started at 7 weeks. Now nearly 9 weeks and its got stronger but not actually been sick. It's the fatigue that's been really bad. Had to take couple of day off work just to sleep which felt guilty about.

rev2g08 I think that's a great idea for FIL!
Both set of parents know now -I wanted to be all cute and do nice surprises but in the end just said it, too tired to think up any surprise and just wanted Mum-cuddles!

I am 6 + 2 and really want to keep it fairly quiet til 12 weeks but it's going to be so hard. We have told my parents and are going to tell DH's parents at the weekend, I know my 2 best friends will guess immediately when they see me as I've given up smoking and drinking which will be a massive give away!

The thing I'm most worried about is work guessing, they are great but I really don't want everyone speculating in case something goes wrong...I work in quite a social industry and it's really hard to keep making excuses as to why I'm off the wine...

threebean One of the best reasons I've seen people use in your scenario is "I'm trying to quit smoking, but if I have a drink it'll go to hell, so I'm having to stop both for a while until I'm really convinced that it won't give me any cravings".

I think the antibiotics excuse is so done that unless you really ham it up people will guess you are lying!

One of my friends said a few times recently that she wasn't drinking as she was so hungover from a party the night before. She is pretty social, and she looked a bit rough as well (normal in the first trimester!) so we didn't suspect a thing!!

So we told both our families today and everyone is delighted!

1 of his sisters said she knew as I looked different....she speaks rubbish most of the time and this was no different as I look exactly the same!

I'm now panicking that something is going to go wrong as we've told them! Still another 5 weeks or so till I get a scan!

Oh that's so nice cryingbabymess
And I'm sure your first trimester will go smoothly, lower chance of risk after 5-6 weeks.

Hi!
I'm 10 + 4 and found out at 4 wks. I phoned my sister before the pee was even dry because I had no idea what the next step was and needed big sis! I live overseas so I told my best friend here for a bit of female support and advice (she has 2 DSs). I told my parents over FaceTime a couple of days later and that was it until we had a scan at 9wks and heard the heartbeat (the OB said there's a 95% chance of successful pregnancy if you hear a heartbeat at 9wks).... Now, my in-laws and our very closest friends here and at home know the news. We're having the 12wk scan next week, so we're just going to tell people as and when we see/speak to them, plus a letter to the aunts and uncles.

It's been very difficult keeping a secret and have resorted to filling up red wine bottles with Ribena to fake drinking and suddenly have a love of driving everywhere!... Plus discreetly scraping blue cheese from my plate to DH's.... I have found that the drunker you get other people, the less they notice!! Get filling everyone's wine glasses!!

goodnessgracious that's not a bad idea, as it certainly would be the case if I had given up smoking before...I have a couple of lunches with colleagues and clients where there will be pressure to have wine so for those I think I'm going to have to be driving later in the evening. It's really making me notice how much of an expectation there is for people to drink all the time! Feel like I'm on a major detox

I'm 8 weeks and found out 2 weeks ago. It was Mothers Day the following day so I couldn't hold it in Mum and Dad cried with joy. We told our best friends who have all had kids and know we are excited because we got pregnant. I couldn't bear to tell people if we mc without them sharing the joy first. 2 weeks till private 10 wk scan but won't make it public knowledge until the 12 wk nhs scan.

Hey ladies.
I'm now 25 weeks and only close family and a few in work know I'm pregnant, and I'm bloody huge already! I think people are definitely starting to realise now though haha.

So excited, going out for dinner with my parents tonight and will tell them the news. I hope it's as fun in real life as it is in my head. Eeee!