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DisneyMillie · 19/03/2015 10:26

I just want to vent somewhere really so here goes... Cd1 for my last cycle was 14 Feb so I'm guessing AF was due 14th Mar. This was my first month off the mini pill was was ecstatic to get a BFP on Friday. Tested again Monday to make sure and still positive but last night started light pink spotting. I know this in itself isn't always a bad sign so went to docs today feeling semi-hopeful but not good news ??. The nurse did a preg test and said the line was only faint when it should be dark by now and so now I've just got to wait basically to miscarry. She said to come back in a week whatever to check it's all done. I'm so sad and have gone home crying which i know is ridiculous since we only knew for a week.

Now also stupidly worried I won't get pregnant again - anyone got any nice positive tales of falling pregnant easily and keeping it after early m/c?

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sunnydaylucy · 19/03/2015 10:30

I am no expert but didn't like to read & run.
Isn't spotting quite common at this stage? I have plenty of friends who spotted (or more) throughout their pregnancy.
I would buy some home tests and check yourself over the next few days.
Hope all turns out well for you.

Bogal · 19/03/2015 10:35

Disney I'm so sorry to hear you're going through this it's such a shit thing to happen Flowers

I had a miscarriage last October before 12weeks and was pregnant again by the beg. December (this one has stuck). At the time the midwife at the hospital told me you're actually likely to be more fertile for a time after your miscarriage

Just because you only knew for a week doesn't make it any less raw - it's still a bereavement. Take care of yourself Flowers

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DisneyMillie · 19/03/2015 10:40

It's not the spotting that means I'll miscarry - it's the faint line on the test which means HCG levels aren't high enough.

Thanks Bogal - that gives me a bit of a lift - did you have to wait until a proper period before trying?

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GuybrushThreepwoodMP · 19/03/2015 10:55

I think it is bizarre that they formed a conclusion based on a line on a test. The line is meaningless and the ones the doctors use aren't very sensitive.

Unfortunately however there is nothing else to really do at this stage other then wait and see what happens. If you haven't had anymore bleeding in a week or two, I would maybe but a digital test or request blood tests at the doctors.

If you are having a mc, it is good that it is early and you will be able to ttc again as soon as you like. Having one mc doesn't make you any more likely to have another.

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DisneyMillie · 19/03/2015 11:06

I was expecting them to maybe examine me to see if my cervix was closed or something and I did ask about blood tests but the nurse said there was no point.

I think it's the just waiting and feeling that faint hope that maybe they're somehow wrong that's so hard.Sad

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chasingtherainbow · 19/03/2015 11:26

I'd be demanding a hcg blood tests. . I can't believe she just concluded a mc based on her test! There's so many reasons that her line wasn't dark.. and dark is so subjective. I ended up demanding to see the test when the dr tried to tell me it was only faint. It was stronger than mine at home!

I am cross for you. And sad that things aren't much clearer and I don't wish to get your hopes up either but I think I would continue to test at home.. If your lines get lighter as it goes on then it's a bit more to go on. Don't give up hope yet and spotting is do common. If you get pain. . Heavier bleeding or feel at all scared reach out to your epu or a different dr. X

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DisneyMillie · 19/03/2015 11:32

Thanks for all the support and advice. I think I'll test again at home in a couple of days if I don't start bleeding properly and see how it looks as I'll know compared to the last of my tests. I did see her test and it WAS definitely lighter than the control line but dark enough that I could see it across the desk. I guess it's just a waiting game SadAngry

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happygojo · 19/03/2015 11:55

EH!? I did so many tests (test a holic) and i only got a line darker than the control ONCE! and I was like 7 weeks preg on an internet cheapie super sensitive one. You are only 4 days late for your period. Now I am not saying that everything will be ok because having had an MC I know it doesn't always end well but that is just ridiculous that she has based it on the darkness of a line.

Spotting is pretty common in early preg.

like PPs have said, if you are in pain or feel scared or whatever then call your GP or early preg unit or even go to A&E

Btw my MC was in September last year, we started trying again in November and I got my BFP on the 6th dec. I am now 19 weeks.

Teeste · 19/03/2015 12:06

My GP took blood to check HGC levels, you have to do it twice over a couple of days to see if/how they're increasing. I have a serious sceptical at a nurse using the faintness of a line to diagnose an mc! I had two scans and numerous blood tests at A&E to diagnose mine. It was a bloody horrible, stressful and deeply emotional time so Flowers and fx for you OP.

I mcd in April last year, and got my 2nd BFP in October, now 27 weeks. That's with PCOS and extra long cycles.

chasingtherainbow · 19/03/2015 12:08

Mine was also diagnosed following hcg blood tests and 4 scans.

Am now 5+3 4 months on. Xx

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DisneyMillie · 19/03/2015 12:14

So nice to hear of all the babies post m/c. I'm a little cross at the nurse now and am not sure what to think. Who knew ttc would be such a highly emotional experience. I'm not sure how I'm going to concentrate at work for another week if nothing changes and I'm a little concerned we're supposed to be going abroad next Saturday which I'm not sure I'll be able to do now? I guess I'll just throw myself into work and try and do the impossible and not think about it. (So not going to happen)

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carbolicsoaprocked · 19/03/2015 12:39

So sorry to hear you're going through this, but I do think you have to ask for a second opinion, never heard of a mc being diagnosed by a pregnancy test! Please don't feel silly for being upset - I only knew for a few hours before my mc and I was devastated. Just let yourself grieve, it's important. For what it's worth I conceived 2 cycles after my mc, and now 29 weeks :)
I hope it turns out good for you too.

scarednoob · 19/03/2015 12:47

Massive hugs for all the stress you are going through. Really hoping that you get good news x

dinodiva · 19/03/2015 12:56

I had spotting at 4, 8 and 11 weeks and last week saw a wiggly baby on my 12 week scan.
Spotting is incredibly common, and tests are notoriously inaccurate. I know it's incredibly terrifying, I felt exactly the same, but look after yourself and take it easy.
Try and get a second opinion and get a transfer to your EPU where they can check things out properly.
Fingers crossed for you that it all works out.

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DisneyMillie · 19/03/2015 13:10

I caved a did a frer so I could compare myself to the one I did Monday. It's darker than Monday and I don't think it's that faint but am I just looking with hopeful eyes?

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scarednoob · 19/03/2015 13:11

It's darker than mine ever was! Keeping everything crossed for you!

Baddz · 19/03/2015 13:18

Looks pretty dark to me....
Surely the only accurate way to tell is the do hcg bloods?

chasingtherainbow · 19/03/2015 13:19

That's a perfect line xx

Allstoppedup · 19/03/2015 13:19

That's a nice dark positive to me, much darker than my first FRER, I honestly think it sounds like implantation bleeding and that the nurse was crazy to diagnose a mc based on that 'evidence', especially this early in the game.

Some women in here have negative tests with some brands and positives with others, it really is so dependant.

Also conversely, a pregnancy test can remain positive for weeks following a mc so a light one isn't really a diagnostic tool, the only way to confirm is a scan.

I'd honestly book another appointment and insist on an early scan, it may not be the news you want but the picture you have put up looks like a strong positive to me.

Good luck. Flowers

Allstoppedup · 19/03/2015 13:20

ooh, or as others have suggested, insist on blood tests.

Iggi999 · 19/03/2015 13:20

Especially with your travel plans you need HCG tests done. Have never encountered use of a pg test to diagnose mc, nor indeed examination of cervix. At this early stage of pg the blood tests are all that count. Obviously if the test went from postive to negative that would be fairly conclusive, but all tests can be different in terms of lines. The digital ones are quite good, I find they don't show up too quickly (ie later the FR ones) and there's no squinting to find the line.

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DisneyMillie · 19/03/2015 13:24

Going to try and assume the nurse doesn't know anything and will try and relax and hope for no more spotting. Have made an app with a different actual doctor (insisted) for next Thursday so will hopefully get a better answer either way then.

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HazleNutt · 19/03/2015 13:37

that is a very nice strong line! A faint line is one like mine were, where you have to squint and guess. And I have never heard that one can diagnose miscarriage based on pregnancy test lines, so don't panic just yet.

To answer your original question - I had an early miscarriage, 5-6 weeks, and got pregnant again the very next month. Early miscarriages or chemical pregnancies are very common and having one does not mean you are more likely to have another, or any other problems with conception or pregnancy.

happygojo · 19/03/2015 13:39

Just for comparison. To be fair this was still a day or 2 before AF was due but I have dated a week ahead so I obviously ovulated early. Mine is sooo much lighter than yours and I am now 19 weeks. You ARE pregnant. If you keep spotting or have cramps then worry until then.... Assume everything is ok

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mrstothemr · 19/03/2015 13:42

Disney, I'm so sorry you've had to go through that. I too am cross at that nurse, seriously, I'd have thought they'd done more than that.

For the time being just focus on yourself, how you feel etc. It's so early it doesn't sound a reliable diagnosis to me

And if it turns out to be right, both times I've mc I've got pregnant again immediately after (ie within 6 weeks). One ds currently sleeping, one 6w bean nesting down in there right now. Don't lose hope Thanks