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has anyone on here who has taken cocaine during pregnancy, either had problems with the pregnancy or even had a fine pregnancy /baby? pls don't judge

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thatsnotmyname17 · 16/03/2015 15:10

I am amazed being Mrs sensible I have even found myself posting this.

I have just found out I am pregnant.

I was out drinking with friends mistake 1 but most people will have been drunk before finding out they are pregnant!! This I'm fine with and drinking stops.

However the group of people I was with were doing coke. Not a bother to me, it's their life.

However there were canapés on offer which I thought nothing of and ate. One of the guys had put some on a flipping salmon snack?!!!! He says wasn't a lot, less than a line or thereabouts (I'm not a coke user so I've no idea what a line would look like quantity wise) anyway I did feel the effects of it. I have no idea if I was off my head or just a little bit high.

The morals and issues with that aside (he has been dealt with) I'm worried what that will have done to the development of a five week old baby?! Such a small amount as a one off I would have hoped would not cause an issue I hope however Dr Google tells me I'm going to hell and have done irreparable damage. I don't want to raise this to my gp as it'll be put on my record as I'm a user when I'm not at all.

Has anyone done this during early pregnancy and if so what were the consequences For you/baby.

I really don't need the judging etc as it's not needed. my biggest concern at the time is that I still bf my youngest (nearly two years old) occasionally at night and I've temporarily stopped as I've no idea how long it takes to leave your body. None of these people are regular users, city workers letting loose but have learnt a lesson from this I hope. They now know I'm still bf but not that I'm pregnant.

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LaLaLaaaa · 17/03/2015 13:29

Bless you OP what a worry for you, but I agree that it's highly unlikely any damage has been done from a very small amount of coke.

As for talk of at risk registers - I have never heard of this and at my booking in appointment (I'm currently pregnant) I told midwife of the various silly things I did when I was younger.

That person needs a slap for putting drugs on other peoples food. It should be a choice whether to take drugs, that's not acceptable.

I don't think you should worry but if you are concerned then speak to doctor confidentially

smellyfishead · 17/03/2015 13:34

I think you will be fine and baby also. I have a older friend who was taking coke every day back in her youth, she found out she was pregnant at about 8/9 weeks but the baby was fine and suffered no ill effects, in fact hes a very successful young dj now Smile

PilchardPrincess · 17/03/2015 13:41

Personal opinion:

Extremely unlikely foetus will be affected. It's a one off and a small amount
From poster upthread & from what sounds reasonable I think if 24 hrs have passed you will be fine to BF your other child

Personally I would only seek advice from anonymous sources.

I think you will be fine basically.
If you want to report to police that would not be an over-reaction IMO that is up to you obv.

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thatsnotmyname17 · 17/03/2015 13:45

Thanks for all the replies.

I'm going to call the anonymous line suggested. I don't want anything untoward put on file that might affect me and my kids. But I also agree that associating with eople who do drugs is not an offence so will see what is said on the phone today.

Gamerchick - that's partially where my concern is. I imagine it would have been more than I've been told as surely a wet food would absorb it too? It definitely tasted strong and bitter and definitely something present. So my worry is they've played it down when he was arsing about and didn't really think about what he was doing. On thw flip side I do know it's a costly habit so seems odd to me for that. However I don't think I can try and see any logic in anyone who is under the influence.

This would have been at five weeks, so 21+ days past conception so possibly at risk according the consultant comment? Of course I do realise if I want to go by anything, it does also need to be said to me by a professional.

All in all I have found this Useful. Amazed at how alcohol is considered worse when I had drunk following conception with my other pregnancies having given up trying as not falling pregnant for a long time.
I don't drink at all during pregnancy (once found out obviously!)

Glad to hear of others that have made similar errors! Thanks for your honesty

I'm really struggling with it today so I'm even going to call my local midwife clinic and not give details, see if they'll advise.

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thatsnotmyname17 · 17/03/2015 13:48

Ps bf is not condoning his actions at all. She was the intended recipient too.

Having reflected on it all I am distancing my self from them all permanently. probably sounds over dramatic, but they could have changed mylife ad with kids already I'd never EVER forgive them.

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ShellyBobbs · 17/03/2015 14:01

I'd definitely call the police!

wildpoppy · 17/03/2015 14:08

I'd say being a successful dj could well be a side effect of the cocaine! Wink

geekymommy · 17/03/2015 14:15

I think distancing yourself from someone who thinks it is OK to give someone drugs without their consent is an entirely reasonable thing to do. (And I say this as someone who thinks it should be legal for adults to take most drugs that are currently illegal.)

gamerchick · 17/03/2015 15:01

I don't think from what you've said that you were spiked with coke. You would need a lot of coke to get a buzz by injesting it and then it would take an hour or something to kick in.

Could it have been speed instead?

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thatsnotmyname17 · 17/03/2015 17:01

At the risk of totally sounding like I'm not being down with the kids....

What is that, and would I know? I have asked them and adamant only coke and they were snorting. Speed is a tablet isn't it?

I'm clearly rubbish at drug taking!! At college at worst I'd smoke pot but I never liked smoking so I stopped that too (way too many years ago)

To describe my feeling....I had numbed mouth where it must have touched mostly on one side,I tried to wipe out my mouth but in hindsight I'm guessing water would have been better. I don't remember it taking an hour (pls remember I'd been drinking too) but I don't think it was

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thatsnotmyname17 · 17/03/2015 17:04

Too long after. I was buzzing for sure and it didn't last all too long but must have been for an hour max maybe? I stayed there until I felt more with it as I couldn't go home like that.

Next day had an awful head. I was tired but body and mind unable to switch off for about 24 hours.

But Maybe because I was worrying.

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Gemerama · 17/03/2015 17:11

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sianihedgehog · 17/03/2015 17:53

Speed can come as a powder, too. And most coke you buy contains some speed because speed is cheap. Numb mouth sounds like coke, though, and I see to reason to doubt that it was coke.

OP, you probably just felt awful the next day because of worry. I really don't think you need to feel that afraid. The risk to your baby is tiny, no worse than smoking or drinking before you found out. And it's good to find out what a cocknugget that guy was this way, rather than something a lot more severe.

CactusAnnie · 17/03/2015 17:59

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geekymommy · 17/03/2015 20:36

I'd say being a successful dj could well be a side effect of the cocaine!

It's not the side effects of the cocaine, I'm thinking that it must be love...

goodnessgraciousgouda · 19/03/2015 12:41

Hi op I'm so sorry you went through this. It would be a nightmare even,considering it.

my advise would be to speak to the police but say that you don't want to press charges. For pow level drug use they probably won't be very interested anyway. However, if you do then want,to raise,it with a,doctor you can say that you have spoken to the police and they will find you much more credible rather than assuming that you are yourself a drug user and are just trying to devolve responsibility. Personally I would speak to your doctor about this. If you had a police report number it won't reflect badly on you.

I,would also strongly advise that you use this opportunity to completely cut ties,with anyone involved. This,is a very dangerous lesson as to why hanging out with drug users is a bad,idea. They might be lovely when not high, but after taking drugs they are potentially extremely dangerous.

spiking someone is illegal and it isn't funny.

this,is absolutely in no way your fault. However I hope you take note that drug users very often don't tend to respect the boundaries of other people who disagree with drugs.

I had a friend,whose,cigarette was spiked,with lsd before. It,was awful. Truly,awful.

Doody85 · 06/11/2015 01:56

coming a bit late to the thread, but just doing a bit of research online. I feel terrible that someone did that to you so in other words ingested without your knowledge, but agree with other posters, dont hang around pricks like that.

GrizzlebertGrumbledink · 06/11/2015 02:04

Yes, quite late. The baby is probably due around now - let's hope all is well with OP and her little one

readyforno2 · 06/11/2015 02:06

Hope everything worked out for you op

April2013 · 06/11/2015 08:00

I would report him to the police and then once that is on file, speak to the midwife - you can say it was reported and even give them the crime ref number. He clearly needs to learn a lesson here in case he does it to someone else, it shows he thinks drugs are equivalent to just a sip of wine or something. Am raging on your behalf but it does seem highly highly unlikely this could have caused a problem with the baby. I think in your position I would also be thinking of speaking to a solicitor, his workplace. It is just so so so wrong.

April2013 · 06/11/2015 08:02

Ah just realised this is an old thread.

ToffeeForEveryone · 06/11/2015 08:05

I would report him to the police, and speak to your doctor.

Slipping someone drugs without consent is assault. You owe him nothing - and if your friend is really your friend she would support you in this. What he did is dangerous and unforgivable.

YouBastardSockBalls · 06/11/2015 08:05

Have you been researching since March doody?

Sunshine511 · 06/11/2015 08:55

I think that you must report this to the police. You can then inform your midwife of the situation without worrying about the possibility of them classing you as a drug user in any way shape or form. This is especially important since you already have children in your care. As a previous poster said, your midwife will have nothing but sympathy for you. If you don't report the fact you were drugged however, that may make your midwife question your judgement and why you think its acceptable for someone to have done this to you. This is a time for you to put yourself and your unborn child first, regardless of the implications for your friends bf. If you don't put yourself and your baby first, it could implications for you and that just isn't fair! I think you should contact the police as soon as possible! Hope this helps and good luck with everything x

Sunshine511 · 06/11/2015 08:57

Woooops... Old thread Shock