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Ok I know I'm being over sensitive but omg

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Pyjamaramadrama · 26/02/2015 18:56

I just want to have a moan, feel free to join me.

I know I'm being sensitive and I know it's just what people say but..

When I was pregnant with ds I didn't have much of a bump, I wasn't in maternity clothes until way after 20 weeks and even right at the end I wasn't massive.

All the way through all I got from people was how unusually small my bump was, how I must be having a really small baby, how was I sure that I hadn't got my dates wrong. The day I gave birth somebody commented that I only looked 6 months pregnant.

Because it was my pfb it gave me such a complex and I was really worried that there was something wrong. Ds was born healthy and was actually a massive baby.

This is my second and I'm a lot bigger this time, I'm well settled into maternity clothes at 26 weeks. I wouldn't say that I'm enormous but I'm definitely obviously pregnant. All I keep getting is comments about me being really big. People have called me a fat lump, comments about how they weren't this big, people they know aren't this big, how the baby must be massive. Often contradicted by someone else saying that I'm pretty average sized.

It just feels as though everyone's got something to say.

I haven't got any control over how big/small my bump is and it means nothing whatsoever to do with the size of the baby. It's all water/muscle control I expect.

Feel like telling them all to bugger off.

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applecore0317 · 26/02/2015 19:06

I keep being told that my bump is huge and that I am going to be massive... am currently 27 weeks measuring 25cm and mainly bump, hard not to get defensive.

I do get oversensitive though, but then I wouldn't make those comments to another pregnant woman, even pre pregnancy. The most I would say is awww what a neat bump...

WrappedInABlankie · 26/02/2015 19:08

Eurgh I hate this! My massive bump I'm sure it was 50/50 between bump and fat and my obviously massive baby was 6lbs 13oz even the midwife and growth scan was telling me he'd be 11lbs

Fleurchamp · 26/02/2015 19:11

I get this too,particularly from some women at work. I am constantly told how big my bump is, am I only having one etc. etc.

I find it really hard to deal with. I take it that they are calling me fat.

I don't know why pregnancy seems to give people carte blanche to comment on your size and shape when that topic would usually be off limits.

Foggymist · 26/02/2015 19:38

I keep being told how small/neat/not pregnant I am, I don't get offended, they don't mean any harm, they're just stating surprise. And even the odd time someone has said it in a "oh you're too small" way I just ignore them, what do they know? Midwife and scans say all is fine, some people just don't get very big. You'd never hear someone go up to a pregnant woman who had put on way too much weight and was causing problems for herself/baby and say that, it's the same as how it's "ok" to tell a woman she's too skinny but never ok to say she's fat!

hodgepodgepanda · 26/02/2015 19:46

Only the past few days have I started to 'look' pregnant & tbh I only look around 5 months at the most even though I'm 35+4 & I keep getting questioned about my dates as though I'm making it all up , I snapped at a random person yesterday after they were a bit too nosey which cheered me up a little
We all carry different each & every time so just ignore them all

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rootypig · 26/02/2015 19:53

People have called me a fat lump

This is absolutely unforgivable. Who the FUCK said that to you???

Feel like telling them all to bugger off.

You bloody should. Or a mild but truthful comment like "You've made me feel self conscious" or "I feel awful now you've said that" should telegraph how rude and personal they're being.

Bloody twats, who on earth do people think they are.

Grewupinafield · 26/02/2015 19:57

I had this with both my pregnancies. With ds1, when they broke my waters I couldn't believe the amount that came out!! They said that was why I looked so big and measured 42 weeks at 39 weeks! They kept saying he'd be 9lb + but he was 8lb 4oz.

I know it's easy for me to say, but try to ignore it. Everyone thinks they have a right to say what they want about bumps, when they don't!! I used to just smile and nod!

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Pyjamaramadrama · 26/02/2015 21:13

Rootypig it was actually a friend at work. I was quite miffed as I'd worn a maternity dress which I thought was really nice. It was quite fitted so showed off my bump but was long sleeved, fine knit winter dress.

Someone else commented on the colour of the dress and she burst out laughing and said bloody hell you look like a right fat lump.

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Cockbollocks · 26/02/2015 21:27

A helpful lady in boots commented that I must be having "a right monster"

Elledouble · 26/02/2015 21:32

I've been told I'm massive quite a lot. And I'm measuring slightly big (33cm at 31 weeks) and now I'm terrified that I'm going to have to give birth to a giant baby

Treesandbees · 26/02/2015 21:37

I had that with DS1 who was 9lb and I had the equivalent of Niagra Falls in water!! I'm only 5ft 2 and I guess it looked out of proportion!! I just tried to swallow it but it was literally every time I saw someone who I hadn't seen for a couple of weeks and they said 'Ooo your massive'. This time I started showing at 10 weeks and now look 20 weeks pg at 16 weeks!! I'm a bit more out front rather than spread like before and people are being kinder but I've got a complex now. It's not mode is it!!

theaveragebear1983 · 26/02/2015 21:48

I had this with my son, I was massive, people would stop me in the street and ask if I was having twins, or say 'not long now....' with a pitiful look on their faces when I still had a whole trimester to go! This time I'm 8.5 weeks and think I need to break out the maternity jeans because I'm already feeling a bit restricted round the middle....so I reckon I'm in for another big one. People just like to be 'involved' with pregnancies, everyone's got a story haven't they....

Interrobang · 26/02/2015 22:17

They are usually just trying to sound interested.
Apart from the obviously rude, like calling you a fat lump, most of it is just smalltalk.

FTRsGotAShinyNewNN · 26/02/2015 22:24

People are dicks.
When I was pregnant with DS I only put on a stone but I definitely got bigger all over he was 8lb6oz
I've recently had my DD and put on around 20lb but I lost some weight while I was pregnant so I was mainly just bump (I hope that makes sense!) someone I work with was saying all through my pregnancy how big I was and id probably have a bigger baby this time, DD was 7lb13oz and 11 days late so not at all massive.
Take all comments with a massive pinch of salt because basically, people are dicks

CunningCat · 26/02/2015 22:46

When pg with twins random people would often comment on the size of my bump! I loved it when people said "cor you look like you're having twins' and I replied actually I am!!! Of course it gets tiresome, just ignore. For some reason pregnant women seem to be public property?

countessmarkyabitch · 26/02/2015 23:11

26 weeks, HA! Wait until its number 4, then you'll be in maternity pants by 13 weeks. I'm looking at a bump that would have been at least 6 months if it was my first.

Bondy83 · 27/02/2015 05:14

I've just had my 3rd baby everyone commented how small I was and that baby would only be tiny. Even midwives and consultants asked about my previous baby's weights and I was only measuring 36wk at 39wk however he arrived at 39+3 & weighed a healthy 7lb 4. Similarly my friend was told at 38wks the baby was well over 9lb she didn't have him til 42 wk and he was only 8lb. A lot depends on how the baby is positioned how much water there is etc etc

Thumbwitch · 27/02/2015 05:28

You say it was a "friend" at work who called you a fat lump?? Worrabitch!

You could maybe quip back next time "yes but at least I have a baby in here, what's your excuse?" if she says anything else.

Chottie · 27/02/2015 05:32

How very rude!!!!

I would just ignore that person at work. Let her bitchy comments go right over you. You are not a 'fat lump' you are expecting a baby. Congratulations by the way

rootypig · 27/02/2015 07:32

A friend - wouldn't say such an appalling thing. Plus in the workplace?! Has everyone completely forgotten themselves? I was raised not to make ANY personal comments, unless it was a suitably general compliment.

hippymama1 · 27/02/2015 08:15

I'm being rude right back as far as I am concerned, what's good for me is good for everyone else and if they people think it's ok to continually ask me whether or not I am having twins etc (when it is widely known I am not) then it's fine for me to comment on their weight. A handful of people have had complimentary things to say about me since my bump started to show and to them I am eternally grateful...

wawabear · 27/02/2015 08:51

Bollocks to everyone. Your midwife will tell you how you are measuring. Everyone else is just being a dick and have absolutely no qualifications other than a motor mouth to pass comment.

I have been told I am small/neat and colossal on the same day. It says more about the levels of jealousy and emotional intelligence of the person passing comment that it ever will about you and your beautiful bump.

Marchhairy · 27/02/2015 11:06

That is so rude!
Both times I've been pregnant there has been someone at work about the same no of weeks and I think we both hate the comparisons. I didn't look massive but DS was a decent size and I was definitely over weight for the year after having him.

geekymommy · 27/02/2015 13:57

You know, at least here, it's hard to get a conviction against a pregnant woman at a jury trial. Just sayin', for the next time some idiot calls you a fat lump.

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