Ok I know I'm being over sensitive but omg

[Pyjamaramadrama]

I just want to have a moan, feel free to join me.

I know I'm being sensitive and I know it's just what people say but..

When I was pregnant with ds I didn't have much of a bump, I wasn't in maternity clothes until way after 20 weeks and even right at the end I wasn't massive.

All the way through all I got from people was how unusually small my bump was, how I must be having a really small baby, how was I sure that I hadn't got my dates wrong. The day I gave birth somebody commented that I only looked 6 months pregnant.

Because it was my pfb it gave me such a complex and I was really worried that there was something wrong. Ds was born healthy and was actually a massive baby.

This is my second and I'm a lot bigger this time, I'm well settled into maternity clothes at 26 weeks. I wouldn't say that I'm enormous but I'm definitely obviously pregnant. All I keep getting is comments about me being really big. People have called me a fat lump, comments about how they weren't this big, people they know aren't this big, how the baby must be massive. Often contradicted by someone else saying that I'm pretty average sized.

It just feels as though everyone's got something to say.

I haven't got any control over how big/small my bump is and it means nothing whatsoever to do with the size of the baby. It's all water/muscle control I expect.

Feel like telling them all to bugger off.

You will need to prove you have taken every step to cover yourself so a new phone outlining in a text you will only answer about the kids, it'll be turned on at 6pm and off at 7pm.

Change your number, block or set up a separate email address for him And tell him you'll check it with your phone.

If you haven't taken all the steps you can to stop him from contacting you you'll be unlikely to get one

Conversation today with colleague:

Her: "You are so having a boy"
Me: "urm, we've been told she's a she at the scan, but I guess they could be wrong"
Her: "they are definitely wrong, you are carrying just like I did with my son, you are all wide and all hips. You are so wide, you can really see it from the back. It's a boy. You are going to have to take all those girls things back."

How the F does my shape (or more to the point the scary amount of weight I seem to be piling on that I am aware is my own fault!) have anything to do with the gender of my baby? It's ridiculous!

Now I feel paranoid that I will have to return everything AND I feel fat. Cheers.

Omg pepperfish. I get that too, I've been told it's a boy but some people are still adamant that it's a girl.

Fat lump?? What an absolutely horrible thing to say. Seriously, some people shouldn't be out in public . I've noticed that pregnant women seem to be everyone's business. I think the "ooh, love,y big bump when are you due " comments aren't so bad, that's just people wanting to express some sort of cheerleading feeling for you...but fat lump?? Ye gods. Is she normally so bloody rude?

I'm not sure how I'm going to cope if people comment, or worse, touch my bump. Actually, I may vomit on them. Weaponised vomit.

Suggest you hit back with a dignified, "how rude" how did people around you react?

Also I've been looking everywhere for a nice fine knit dress like that - where'd you get it?

That particular person is generally very tactless and I normally take no notice but I was miffed.

I'm quite sure that I am very tactful around pregnant women, I never give unwanted opinions and only ever make positive comments like 'you're looking well'.

The dress was from H&M although I realised Saturday that it has a huge hole in I think somebody's trying to tell me something!

At 20 weeks with my ds someone asked if I was nearly due. When I said no I was only half way through they looked shocked and then said I must be having twins. With a deadpan face I stared straight at her and said actually I'm also fat. Red faced and shamed and it certainly shut her up!

Every day people ask me when I'm due as I look like I'm about to 'pop' ! I still have 4-6weeks to go and I have 4-6 weeks of people telling me I'm huge, waddling etc etc.......

I am a freaking Saint

I will in turn talk about myself and very probably go on about my leaky boobs and gory labour !!

Update. Well over the past two days two people have now told me that my bump isn't very big, so that tells me that either my growth is slowing down, or that people just talk rubbish about being big/small.