Why can't my partner be in the room

[Number3cometome]

When I have a C-section under a general anaesthetic?

Someone, anyone can you please explain to me where this rule came from?

OK I will be asleep, but OH doesn't want to miss it?

Excellent answer bunnykins!
Concise & factual!
Not all all shocking!
I'm glad OP agrees
I'd be happy to know all the facts if it was me!

Just to say that if you wanted, 2 caesareans wouldn't prevent you trying for a vbac.

I know someone who just had her fourth baby, vba3c.

Countess, you implied that my post was because she was female. You brought gender into it. I'm not patronising anyone- I simply offered my opinion. I haven't suggested that the post should be deleted. The OPs first replies after that one came across as slightly terrified, tbh, which is why I posted.

If OP is happy with it then I stand corrected. Apologies ladybunnikins. I did find your post interesting, just thought it was a bit much.

I agree that Lady's answer was very informative. Not at all graphic and was based on facts.

I'd rather know what the procedure involves, as it helps relieve anxiety.

I've had several medical procedures and felt better about them knowing what to expect. And much prefer the facts rather than being told 'it will be fine' although that is reassuring when you're anxious

Asked- and answered. Fantastic- that's what Mumsnet is for.

VBAC not an option, even if it was it's not an option I would choose due to previous labour ending in seizures

Thanks for raising this issue Number3 and for informative answer ladybunnikins as I had to have an EMCS under a GA for ds and may need to same with dc2. What helped was the fact dh could sit as near to theatre as allowed and when ds was stable he got first skin to skin - which we agreed. Also photographs were taken in recovery for me. In fact the anaesthetist kindly took photos as soon as was safe for them to do so in theatre of baby for me - which was most unexpected and welcome.

Number3 - perhaps write a list of questions/concerns that you have, ready for when you speak to your consultant. That way you and your dh will be clear on the options avilable for things like skin to skin, and if it's possible for your dh to do while you come round from the amnestic x

I had a good think about this on the train to work this morning.

Him being in the room is certainly not a good idea, I don't think he will cope well and it's best that baby gets all of the help and attention and not OH fainting all over the shop!

I will ask them if they can put baby next to me and take a picture (I don't care what I look like) if all is ok and they have the time, then if baby is well hand to Daddy for a cuddle until I wake up.

I am a total grouch after a GA so them two can have a bit of bonding time!

Have you had a chat with the anaesthetist yet? I had to have a spinal due to back injury - the anaesthetist said that with a spinal they know very quickly if it's working, whereas the epidural can take up to 30 minutes to be effective and may not work.

Good luck with the birth, whichever option you end up going for.

World appointment is next week.

I have seen a consultant and my spinal surgeon who both think unlikely (I did have a spinal for DD, but didn't have the fusion then)

I am fused from l2-s1

Good luck when the time comes

IMVHO how we end up delivering our babies is such a small part of being a parent that it is important to be happy about how things were managed and HOW decision making happened, but less so what the exact mode of deliver was.

Sounds like you've got a good plan in mind and soon you'll be sniffing a newborn's little head

Oh don't, it's been 8 years since my last and I just can't wait to meet the little fella.

Only 18 more weeks to go!

lady I thought that was a very informative list, well presented, thank you. I'm not a medic but work in the medical field and finding getting real information difficult.

Thank you for the info ladybunnikins! This site is not short of extremely detailed descriptions of the gorier complications of labour, I'm not sure why those of us lined up for sections need to be so protected - and for women with a choice, the imbalance of information cannot be helpful when in trying to weigh up between what can seem like a 'clean' section or a 'scary' natural birth. There are pluses and minuses all round and more factual information is a great thing.

That's a good list of the facts. Wish there was more of it!

For what it's worth, I look after patients post surgery and the amount of patients/families who don't realise what can go wrong, or even just what they need to go through to recover, is shocking. Makes me wonder what surgeons are saying to them!!

Also, seeing your loved one sedated, intubation and with wires/lines everywhere distress people so much, you can practically have two patients to care for.

But the one having/had surgery is far more important.

Good luck when the time comes OP

Thank you! I have decided not to push OH being present.

It's not fair on anyone, and best they just focus on getting baby out safely and me in recovery, then we have the rest of our lives to be happy together (all being well)

Thanks ladybunnikins for your post.

I am having a ELCS in 4 weeks but hopefully I won't have to go under GA (but did for two ERPCs) so I hope my DH will be allowed in.