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Why can't my partner be in the room

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Number3cometome · 25/02/2015 20:40

When I have a C-section under a general anaesthetic?

Someone, anyone can you please explain to me where this rule came from?

OK I will be asleep, but OH doesn't want to miss it?

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Dognado · 25/02/2015 21:40

I don't think its too graphic, I think the risks of CS, by GA or LA, are too often glossed over. This comes from someone who has had two by the way.

OP, I totally understand why you might choose a CS, but if you did want to try for a VBAC it is possible after two CS and there are studies and statistics out there if you need them.

PenguinsandtheTantrumofDoom · 25/02/2015 21:40

I don't think LadyBunnikins said anything out of order. I think the OP is fairly well aware that a section under general is major surgery, and that all surgery carries risk.

ImperialBlether · 25/02/2015 21:42

I thought it was a really good, informative answer.

Really, though, OP, you could have guessed at some of these. It's an operation; I can see why surgeons don't want bystanders there.

weeblueberry · 25/02/2015 21:42

I truly hope HQ don't remove the post. information was requested, it was given. Fair enough it wasn't sugar coated but when you ask the question you don't always assume people are going to be vague about their answers.

I, for one, found it really interesting. I know I'm not 'planning' a general section but I'm glad for the knowledge if an emergency one had to take place.

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Number3cometome · 25/02/2015 21:42

No don't delete it - it's fine, i asked the question and I can cope with the answer. I am glad to know the facts actually, it can't change my option of birth (other than having a csection without anaesthetic ha!) but it makes me aware of the risks. I'm sure it will be on the consent form anyway. I appreciate the honesty

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Number3cometome · 25/02/2015 21:43

dog - not an option. Other medical reasons and I have already discussed at length with my consultant

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sianihedgehog · 25/02/2015 21:43

Excellent and comprehensive answer, ladybunnikins. Can't really see how you could give all that information accurately without it being a bit scary, myself.

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Number3cometome · 25/02/2015 21:45

I've not said there is an issue with the answer?

Why would I guess reasons why OP cannot be there when ex was allowed to be there for my first GA csection??

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PacificDogwood · 25/02/2015 21:46

Number3, I have nothing to add to ladybunnikins excellent and comprehensive info - good luck to you and I am glad you are able to take the info as it was, I'm sure, intended: knowledge is power.

Complex childbirth issues are scary - been there, had the scary talks, done that. I think we should all have medals.

queenofthepirates · 25/02/2015 21:47

Good answer countess, I had a CS 4 years ago and I'm quietly curious about the whole thing

PenguinsandtheTantrumofDoom · 25/02/2015 21:48

Your ex was in your first GA section. That is really unusual. Is it the same hospital?

Dognado · 25/02/2015 21:48

I think it's completely reasonable you asked the question OP, it's still your body and your baby regardless of you being asleep during the procedure.

Lemondrizzletwunt · 25/02/2015 21:50

Great answer from ladybunnikins, I just learnt a lot! MNHQ if the post has been reported, please don't remove it. OP asked a question and it was answered truthfully and accurately. Lady you are a credit to your profession; I'm often so annoyed at how information is dumbed down for the public, like we're not capable of taking it. It's often also very difficult to find stats (risk factors) for various things...asking a lot of midwives about prophylactic vit K is like trying to get blood from a stone!

Good luck OP, and congrats!

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Number3cometome · 25/02/2015 21:50

Penguins - he was allowed but declined, it was 12 years ago different hospital.

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countessmarkyabitch · 25/02/2015 21:50

No Countess, there's a difference between giving info and being graphic

AuntieVenom · 25/02/2015 21:53

Thank you ladybunnikins. I'm having a c-section in about 6 weeks and that's exactly the kind of information that I want to have.

I'm hoping that I will be able to have a spinal but I have disc problems so have been warned that it may have to be under GA and reading that post about what happens has made me feel loads better.

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Number3cometome · 25/02/2015 21:55

Auntie - my last cs was a 'one try' spinal block and it did work. That was before my fusion.

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strawberryangel · 25/02/2015 21:56

Countess, who said it was because she was female?
She's due to have a serious operation and I thought the description ladybunnikins gave was very graphic and blunt.
It was wonderfully informative...but then I'm never going to have to go through it.

I honestly hate people who play the feminist card over everything.

PenguinsandtheTantrumofDoom · 25/02/2015 21:57

Oh Ok Number3 - I thought maybe if it was recent and the same hospital there might be scope...

Given that most sections under general are emergencies and this will be planned, might it be worth talking about whether there are options for involving your partner slightly more? Like maybe getting to stay with you longer during the preparation or the baby coming out to him more quickly afterwards? I don't know, it's not something I know much about, but I do wonder if the protocols for an emergency and planned might be a wee bit different

AuntieVenom · 25/02/2015 21:58

Number3cometome that's great to know! I don't have a fusion just scarring from a prolapsed disc so I might be OK.

PacificDogwood · 25/02/2015 22:02

I don't think it hurts asking whether your DH can be present IF that is what he wants and as it is a planned CS under GA - it may still be declined (for the reasons given by lady), but if it is important to you or him or you both, then by all means ask.

I have had a non-crash, v calm emCS under spinal and DH was present. He is a surgeon and spends half his life in theatre and it still scared the bejeezus out of him although with the benefit of 11 years of hindsight he is glad he was there.

V v personal decision and I v strongly agree that clear and non-whitewashed info is just what we need to make informed choices.

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Number3cometome · 25/02/2015 22:03

Aunty - my second cs was planned and I had previously had two discectomies, couldn't have an epidural so had the spinal. Didn't even feel it go in! If only it was possible this time, we live in hope.

I am glad lady was realistic about it, actually it has changed my view and best that OH waits outside.

He wouldn't cope seeing me fitting or anything distressing.

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countessmarkyabitch · 25/02/2015 22:04

I don't really care if its because she female or not. OP asked the question and is happy with the answer, It's quite patronising of you to decide on her behalf that its too much information.

BellMcEnd · 25/02/2015 22:05

Lady I've often wondered about this so thanks loads for your answer. (Why the actual fuck I've never asked considering I work with anaesthetists in ICU is beyond me ) I agree with a PP who said we shouldn't need to sugar coat things - you answered a sensible question knowledgably so can't see the problem.

Number3 congratulations and also to you, Lady!

karinmaria · 25/02/2015 22:06

Auntie I have a similar issue with my back - prolapsed L5S1 disc plus all the scarring that goes with it. I successfully had a vaginal birth with an epidural 23 months ago. No issues so far which has been a relief!

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