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How do people not tell anyone?!

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Ladypug · 22/02/2015 13:24

Don't people find it really hard not to tell people they are pregnant? I'm one day in and it's sooooo hard! X

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cookielove · 22/02/2015 13:25

Ha ha, I found it quite hard to be fair as I just wanted to shout it from the roof tops. I told a select few then told everyone at 12 weeks.

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Ladypug · 22/02/2015 13:30

I've told 2 - my brother and sis in law. That's it! Oh, and obviously DH, but I'm like - omg I have 11 weeks, 6 days to go!!! X

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PannaDoll · 22/02/2015 13:35

I couldn't keep it quiet. I'd tell strangers who couldn't care less when I was trying to keep the news from friends.

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Ladypug · 22/02/2015 13:37

Hahahaha I love that!

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Ragwort · 22/02/2015 13:41

No .......... I actually found it a bit embarrassing to tell people - I didn't even know I was pregnant myself until 10 weeks. .

lastnightiwenttomanderley · 22/02/2015 13:49

It's bloody difficult! 10 weeks tomorrow and only 2 people other than DH know - very good friend who is Obstetrician and other very good friend and work.colleague who is also pregnant.

Can't wait for it to be out in the open.

lastnightiwenttomanderley · 22/02/2015 13:51

PS. If you're one day in then you've got more like 7 weeks 6 days to go, no?

Stinkersmum · 22/02/2015 13:56

We've only told our parents so far. Not telling any else until 16 weeks. I do want to tell others but I just don't want to tempt fate....

mumxof3x · 22/02/2015 14:03

My 3rd baby I told only dp and his mum and no one else until I was 21 weeks and this pregnancy my dp knew and my mum and his mum until 23/24 week which is when I told, my dad and rest of family...now almost 28wk and only family know still

GotToBeInItToWinIt · 22/02/2015 14:09

I loved having the secret between me and DH, I didn't really want to tell anyone else!

londonlivvy · 22/02/2015 14:18

I remember that feeling. like I wanted to burst with the news. I told several people - just couldn't hold it in- but then after eight weeks or so of silence I'd kinda got used to our secret and didn't want to tell anyone. My DH had to talk me in to telling people, including work, around 16 weeks as I keep saying "next week, I'll do it"

dy14 · 22/02/2015 14:21

I am 27w pregnant with 3rd and only family and work no and couple friends thats it. I am huge let them ask for themselves if they like

ISolemnlySwearImUptoNoGood · 22/02/2015 14:28

I've found it so difficult this time!

We've told about 6 of our closest friends, it was only 3 but 2 told partners and one I felt I hadn't got a choice because I was invited on her hen do and she wouldn't take no for an answer without a reason. Our parents also know and I've told 3 mums that I'm close to at school but that's only because I was having a real hard time keeping it quiet when I had to stop to be sick on the way to school!

niceandwarm · 22/02/2015 14:33

I waited 12 weeks before telling anyone about my first dcs but then miscarried the third pregnancy, followed by several more miscarriages. I had told people before the third miscarriage but it was such a traumatic experience that I didn't tell anyone about subsequent pregnancies, which all ended in miscarriages. People still don't know about the pregnancies or miscarriages to this day and I intend to keep it that way.

Cornberry · 22/02/2015 14:55

ladypug I think it gets easier. At the start when you've just found out and you're really excited it's the most difficult I think. Once you get used to it you'll feel less stressed about keeping it secret :)

Jackieharris · 22/02/2015 14:57

If you've just found out you'll be at least 4 weeks.

PenguinsandtheTantrumofDoom · 22/02/2015 16:14

I hated telling people! Much preferred when it was private.

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Ladypug · 22/02/2015 16:15

Oh yeahhhh just worked out it's 12 weeks from conception not from finding out! lol X

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SueV14 · 22/02/2015 16:32

Oh, I was dreading telling family and friends, not because I expected bad reactions or anything. I was dreading all the good advice and recommendations and constant questions about how I feel, etc etc. Hubby was the opposite, he couldn't wait until 12 weeks were up to tell our parents. When I was approaching 12 weeks I was in a terrible mood, was fighting with my mom in my head as I pictured all the unwanted advice and preaching coming from her, etc. but after we told them it was kind of a relief and even though there is a piece of advice every now and then (e.g. better no travel and avoid going whatsoever to avoid any kind of infection ) it's not all as bad. :-)

lastnightiwenttomanderley · 22/02/2015 17:04

Ladypug nope - 12 weeks from the first day of your last period, so you're probably already around 4-5 weeks. Congratulations!

Tigger31 · 22/02/2015 17:20

omg I am so glad to read this thread!
I'm just desperate to apologise and explain why I've been such a miserable, mopey old sloth all these weeks haha.
My mummy friends tell me that it's better not to shout too loudly too early as it does get boring...! I can see me getting sick of the attention all too quickly.

(PS. Where do I learn what all this 'dh' etc means?!)

PenguinsandtheTantrumofDoom · 22/02/2015 17:31

There's an acronym link at the top of the page

SueV14 · 22/02/2015 17:34

Seriously, there's an acronym link?! I don't see it....! Maybe cause I'm on ipad? I've spent week googling and remembering all the acronyms!

SueV14 · 22/02/2015 17:36

HA! Just saw it!! AF has been giving me most troubles :)))))))))

sianihedgehog · 22/02/2015 18:48

I HATED not telling people. So I didn't do it. And I was extremely glad I told people when I lost my first pregnancy. I needed the support I got, and I needed the slack people cut me. I tried to do the waiting thing this time, because in a weird way I felt like it would be like I was asking too much from my friends if I lost another pregnancy. I managed only telling like four of my closest friends in the first few weeks and then told everyone at about 8 weeks after I'd had 2 scans and worked out that the chances of miscarriage were down to under 10%. Could not possibly have held it in until 12 weeks!

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