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How did you feel when you found out?

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Ladypug · 21/02/2015 18:11

Just found out I'm pregnant today and I'm completely in shock and a bit terrified. Is this normal? When will I start to calm down and get over it!?

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applecore0317 · 21/02/2015 18:18

I can tell you that my exact response was "shit, shit, shit, shit, oh shit, shit, shit, shit..."

I was also shaking, it was a shock because it was unplanned but not unwelcomed as it was only ten months or so earlier than when we planned to try, I just couldn't believe it

LorelaiVictoriaGilmore · 21/02/2015 18:19

Total shock for about a week. Followed by a week feeling like I was on cloud 9. Followed by a lot of weeks feeling very, very sick!

applecore0317 · 21/02/2015 18:19

am 26 weeks and it still doesn't feel real apart from when I see my stomach moving around and feel the kicks :)

PenguinTuxedo · 21/02/2015 18:21

We had been TTC for 18 months, so I always thought it would be this big magically moment, and I'd be over the moon.

The reality was it took 4 days of negative tests before I finally got a faint positive. So on day 5 when we got the positive, it was a huge shock. I had a feeling the tests were wrong, but thought I was just being hopeful.

I went to work, and spent the first few hours in shock, and tested again when I got home to be 'sure'. After that the panic set in. Despite trying for a while, I suddenly didn't know if I wanted a baby! I panicked, wondered how we'd cope, wondered if I'd be any good at being a mum - I was a mess!

I spent the next few days in denial, and it was only when I told my mum and she was so happy that I started to feel happy about it. A few days later, the worrying set in (about something going wrong) and I've been like it ever since, lol! 17+1 weeks pregnant and still don't 'feel' pregnant, as in it doesn't feel real.

I think it's normal to feel mixed emotions tbh, it's a very emotional time! Congrats on your BFP btw . Do you know how far along you are?

StayGoldPonyBoy · 21/02/2015 18:21

DD was very planned and I was still scared! I cried, I felt like a 16 year old girl having to tell my mum I'm pregnant despite knowing I was 'allowed' to be and that we were all excited, it was weird.

CurlsLDN · 21/02/2015 18:24

We began 'trying' when we got married - found out I was pg a few days after getting home from honeymoon, so it was planned and wanted, just much quicker than I thought!
Dh and I were pretty nervously excited all day, then in the evening I panicked, cried, freaked out. I spent quite a bit of the pregnancy worrying that it had happened too quickly and we'd made a mistake. We hadn, it's all worked out brilliantly. I think it's quite normal to not have 100% positive thoughts and feelings, v normal to have creeping doubts and worries

gingerbreadmam · 21/02/2015 18:26

remember u from another board ladypug congrats!

excited, petrified, clueless, magical and lots of other things inbetween.

chloecorey2013 · 21/02/2015 18:27

Ttc for DS for 2 years. Decided to give up nearly being depressed it wasnt happening. A month later i found out and had sheer panic! It took a couple of days to come to terms and then was over the moon. Hes now 15 months

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Ladypug · 21/02/2015 18:27

I feel so much better that other people freaked out too. I feel happy but also feel like it's a dream but when it happened I actually had to step outside to get some air! I just can't believe it. I'm still in shock! I don't know how far along and I don't know my cycles very well as only recently came off the pill. How do people know how far along they are? X

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Archer26 · 21/02/2015 18:29

Congratulations OP

I'm currently 31 weeks and baby was planned but I cried when I found out. I felt so poorly which is what made me take the test. My first words to my husband was 'I feel so ill and I'll never sleep again!'. He sat me down with a cup of tea and then I was fine. I think no matter how ready you thinj you are there's always a bit of fear!

PenguinTuxedo · 21/02/2015 18:34

I was tracking my cycle which is how I knew, as I knew how long my cycle was and when my lmp was. If you're unsure, you could always take a clear blue digital test.

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Ladypug · 21/02/2015 18:37

Oooh what does the clear blue digital test do? X

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crazypuglady · 21/02/2015 18:39

I was absolutely convinced I was pg. I'd have put my life savings on it. Until the second I peed on the stick and then I was convinced it was negative. When the second line appeared I cried out of happiness then cried out of panic because I know diddlysquat about babies. Took about 2 weeks to get used to the idea now I can't wait.

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Ladypug · 21/02/2015 18:40

Hehe omg crazy pug lady I love your name! :-)

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ragged · 21/02/2015 18:43

I felt confused. I was sure it was a mistake.
"Oh, you mean THAT can really lead to THAT?"

PenguinTuxedo · 21/02/2015 18:55

It tells you how many weeks from conception you are, so if it says like 2-3 weeks, you add on two weeks

d0ttyne11 · 21/02/2015 18:57

Huge congratulations.

I felt a combination of v happy and v anxious. I didn't want to tempt fate and tell anyone (except DH) for fear that I may not go full term. So didn't even tell parents / family until 11/12 weeks and only then did we tell them as they live far away and we were up visiting so could tell them face to face. However, DH maintains that I was happy and excited and yes I was, but I really really wanted to make sure everything would go ok.... I'm 29 weeks tomorrow and so looking forward to the next 3 months and baby finally coming.

My periods were v irregular and in the end a couple of dating scans gave me my due date.

Good luck and congrats. Dose up on the folic acid!!!

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Ladypug · 21/02/2015 19:00

Thank you everyone! Hi Penguin, sorry to sound stupid but why do you add 2 weeks? If it says 2-3 weeks that means you're 2-3 weeks pregnant right? Or do you add 2 weeks to that number?

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HaveTeaWillSurvive · 21/02/2015 19:04

applecore are you me? Word for word that's what I'd write!

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Postchildrenpregranny · 21/02/2015 19:07

Great joy . I was 34 and this was a much wanted first baby . Amazement as I conceived the first month of trying. It never occured to me that anything could go wrong and I blithely assumed that at my advanced age coping with a new born would be a doddle !Pregnancy and birth were fine, DD1 was beautiful , healthy and turned out to be very bright . Looking after a baby was however a lot harder than I anticipated!
It wasn't so easy to produce another , but we managed in the end
They have been and still are (grown and flown) my greatest joy and the best thing that ever happened to me. I still remember that feeling of wonder (DD1 is 28).

Congratulations. You will be fine .

sianihedgehog · 21/02/2015 19:30

First time, TOTAL PANIC. It was planned, but we'd literally started trying that month and had sex all of twice, and I'm in my late 30s. I was like "no WAY, it does not happen that fast!" Sadly that pregnancy ended in miscarriage, but only a few months later I was pregnant again. And you'd think having been through all the panic once would have got it out of my system, but NOPE, panic again. I was afraid I'd made a terrible mistake, afraid to tell anyone, and ALSO afraid of another miscarriage. So mostly panic, and some terror!

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Ladypug · 21/02/2015 19:32

I am so reassured that other people freaked out a bit! Feel a bit bad for it but I'm a mix of "OMG is this really happening?" and "I can NOT do this!!!"

EEEEK ARHGHGJGJGJ OMG OMG OMG OMG

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PenguinTuxedo · 21/02/2015 19:33

Cos the test only dates from conception, not your last period, so you add two weeks :) Have you told anyone about your bfp yet? So exciting!

Ilovenannyplum · 21/02/2015 19:40

Congrats OP!
I sobbed. And sobbed. And sobbed. I was over the moon and terrified all at the same time.
Baby was 6 months in the making so it's not like it was unexpected!

As a side note, DS is now 6 months old, he is amazing and the past 6 months have been the best of my life. Most tiring but still the best

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