How did you feel when you found out?

[Ladypug]

Just found out I'm pregnant today and I'm completely in shock and a bit terrified. Is this normal? When will I start to calm down and get over it!?

x

Oh, isn't it conception that you measure from? By the way what does bfp mean? God I'm so new to this! We told my brother and his wife as they are closest to us but not telling anyone else so thank god for Mumsnet! X

bfp = big fat positive (preggo test)
Pregnancies are measured as starting 2 weeks before conception. Bit of a stupid convention, but we're stuck with it. So you are 4+ weeks pregnant as soon as you test. First month is the fun one :).

However much the pregnancy is planned and wanted, your natural instinct is to panic about everything. Money, housing, work, your partner is being an arse, will the baby be ok etc. It passes. You have 9 months to get your head around it all. Congrats. X

ha ha ha havetea glad its not just me :)

Congrats ladypug and yes the two weeks before conception are counted in the pregnancy timeline, so although you are not pregnant in the first two weeks, as far as tracking your baby goes and size week by week those two weeks are included

Thank you everyone, feel so much better reading all your messages!

Ha ha thanks ladypug have you got a pug? We told the pug first. He seemed very interested by the idea if a baby to play with

Disclaimer- not actually going to let the dog play with the newborn.

I cried for about two hours when I found out, then posted a panicky thread here! That was about 25 weeks ago, I'm 31 weeks now and it still doesn't feel real somehow. Had a bit of a cry today sorting through some baby clothes because I know I'm going to be responsible for a tiny little person really soon and I don't know how I'm going to do it.

Congratulations!

Dc1 was unplanned and I was in complete shock and I felt like I was about 16 and that no one would take me seriously. I was a 30 year old professional woman! I ran from my bathroom shouting "oh my god" and I sat on my bed looking at the PREGNANT on the test. I noticed about 15 minutes later that my pants were still round my ankles

With dc2, who was planned, I was still rather shocked!

The first time it was total disbelief. I couldn't possibly be pregnant. The tests all eight must be wrong. I mean Id spent my entire life thinking it would take me years to get pregnant because my periods were so irregular, right? I was so panicked that when I saw my mum later that evening she thought something terrible had happened because I couldn't stop shaking.

This time it was shock but mainly because it happened first month which I just absolutely didn't think could ever happen. We had one month to get pregnant before I had to wait another eight to try (timings etc) and I fell pregnant after one time. Seriously? Who does that happen to?

The fear and panic has always overridden the excitement. At least at the very beginning

Scared. And happy. And then some more scared. Mainly scared, won't be happy until she's in my arms (2 previous miscarriages)

Confession: just had a bit of a meltdown - felt like I couldn't breathe, kept saying "I can't do it" and had to go get some air in the garden. Feel like the room is spinning and all I can think is "the hormones are taking me over" "I can't get out/go back" I'm going a bit mental!! Is this normal?! X

ps yes crazypuglady we have a gorgeous lady pug :-) she is rather non plussed about the pregnancy! X

I feel abnormal after reading this, I'm totally calm about it all!! I'm kinda excited, was anxious during the tww, but now I know for sure, I'm just chilled!! I think because I have no proper symptoms (cramping and slight nausea) it doesn't feel real yet. DH is terrified already, poor fella!!

Lol I was calm and fine for 8 hours then MAJOR freak out and had to go outside for air! xx

Massively overwhelmed, we were ttc, but DH was In dubai for what I thought was my fertile window so assumed I was out. I'd gotten into the habit of testing in the off chance each month and it just so happened my off chance had two lines on it. Stupidly I was also really shaky and did t know how to tell DH, so I got a digi amd did it just before he came home from work, showed it to him and said (God knows why!) 'now I don't want you to be cross, but....' He danced all round e kitchen when he saw it!
I think I felt a bit 'out of body" for the first 4-5 weeks and then I started to feel rough, but the overwhelming feeling started to subside (possibly into denial) - although I'm 25 weeks now and I have started to have the odd 'holy shit I can't do this' episode every now and again. And then I flip back to excitement. Then terror....:)

The first pregnancy was a shock, even though we were TTC it had taken over a year, and I was ready to give up. Then I was really scared. I had never had any experience with babies at all. No little cousins, nieces or nephews. I guess the enormous responsibility hit me. I was going to be a mum!

To be honest, I ended up with AND for various reasons, so wasn't excited. It kind of robbed me from my first pregnancy experience, and I only really fell in love with DS properly a few days after he was born.

Now I'm expecting baby no.2, and much calmer, but still not jumping for joy. Again, very it was very much planned, but took so long, I was about to give up. Was just coming round to the fact of just having an only child when the positive pregnancy result came up.

I'm far too much of a worrier to relax 100% and will always have a fear of the unknown. I just have to accept that that's how I am unfortunately. I envy anyone that is calm and excited throughout.

I feel so much better that other people are afraid. I just keep thinking I don't know if I can do this - 9 months is so long!!! X

Immediately? As if i was on a roller coaster and my stomach was in my throat! And w were actively TTC!

When does it start to feel good? Isn't it supposed to feel calm at some point? X

Absolute shock horror. I was devastated.

I went to my sisters and cried hysterically for about an hour. Then went to my aunt's and did the same thing. Then the next morning, went to (now ex)DP's and did the same thing again.

I was absolutely horrified and shit scared. I'd just signed a 7 year training contract with my employer (who were forking out over 20k to sponsor me in my degree) about a month earlier and had only got back with DP about 3 months earlier after a 6 month break. I thought I had royally fucked it ruined my life.

Everything worked out okay but it took me about 6 months to come to terms with the fact I was having a baby and actually be okay with it.

Wow - that's mammoth! But you did it :-) :-) :-) That makes me feel better. I'm 2 days in and I'm freaking out! I keep thinking why am I not ok about this yet?!? X

ladypug I cried and felt utterly panicked when I found out I was pregnant, despite TTC for a year. I had horrible waves of anxiety particularly during the first trimester - I think a combination of the hormones and being genuinely scared of the enormity of the whole thing. I did start to enjoy being pregnant eventually (12-20 weeks were quite anxious, but that was due to needing extra tests and scans so that was more about worrying the baby was healthy).

Even after getting my head round being pregnant I was still pretty freaked out about actually having a child at the end of it. It felt like a huge leap of faith.

Anyway, six months in now - DS is wonderful. Yes it can be challenging but so, so worth it. I think I just didn't get the extent to which you love and adore them until they arrive.

Well i found out 3 days ago... and only told DH last night - handed him a baby gro and said hope it fits the intended wearer...and then asked what he was up in in early November. He thought it was an outfit for my cat. Then looked properly - said, oh Great news, and then smiled happily and calmy all evening.
When I found out on Friday with a pos FRER, it was 9 -10 DPO in a 53 day long cycle where i was convinced i had not ov again. I was cleaning my teeth for the 3 min wait and look down mid brush stoke and almost 'actor' style spluttered and swore loudly! We were actively TTC for 6 months but it was a shock!!
THen i went into a thought process where i was like.. well 20% chance of mc so not going overboard as my body is ALWAYS the one with issues .... so now i am wondering what to do, just called the GP to ask and the lovely normally a rottweiler was so nice and booked me an appt tomorrow.. This NEVER happens in my GP!!

So now, i am sitting here a little bemused, snuggling my secret close in a weird I am 32 and married and this is planned.... i am nervous about a mc that i am not letting myself even celebrate

Shock, panic, excitement, joy were just a few of the emotions that I felt! I was in a total world of my own most of the time when I first found out too!

I had a bad reaction from SIL which made me really struggle emotionally for the first couple of months but I'm 20 + 6 now and I'm back in my little pregnancy bubble and I'm beyond excited!

Enjoy this special time x

Even though me and my husband were planning/trying to get pregnant, when i found out i was, although really happy and excited i was abit terrified!!