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Can a sexing scan be wrong?!

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Nicole100 · 19/02/2015 18:52

Okay so I had my 20 week scan today, was convinced it was a boy and the sonographer said it was a girl! I know they can't be 100% but this pregnancy is completely different from my first- she was a girl, I was huge, showed really early, put on lots of weight, had the most awful sickness. This pregnancy I have a tiny little ball on my tummy, have had no sickness and hardly put on anything so far! My gut says boy, I just wanna know if I'm being silly or not! Tia x

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WrappedInABlankie · 20/02/2015 11:35

They can be but I doubt they are. Symptoms mean sweet FA I'm afraid and Id know

DS1 sick once a month on a Monday for some reason everything else a breeze

DS2 currently 23 weeks Sunday. still taking anti sickness tablet, I've had headaches, dizziness, throwing up continuously, nausea, sciatica.
Still a boy though confirmed by two gender scans and a 20 week anomaly scan

GotToBeInItToWinIt · 20/02/2015 11:36

blow I think that's actually most people's main concern. However once all the relevant checks have been done there is no harm in asking the sex. They won't even look until after doing the checks so it's not detracting from the main purpose of the scan.
I actually paid for a private sexing scan but the sonographer was more than happy to give her opinion at the end of the anomaly scan.

Number3cometome · 20/02/2015 11:55

blowinahoolie

We all want to make sure our baby is fine, that's why they usually tell you at the end of the scan all being well.

It's personal choice, and yes, it's an added bonus for those who want to know.

I paid for a private scan because I specifically wanted to know, it was only £39.

blowinahoolie · 20/02/2015 13:25

I'll find out when the baby pops out, it's not long in the grand scheme of things. I grudge paying money for a private scan that could be used for when the baby arrives.

Number3cometome · 20/02/2015 13:28

Oh it saves me a fortune in the long run, my friend had a baby boy and is happy to hand me over loads of stuff.

£39 vs spending shitload on clothes.

GotToBeInItToWinIt · 20/02/2015 13:29

Each to their own blow, that was my point.

blowinahoolie · 20/02/2015 13:32

We have kept everything from the last time, boy or girl, it will get dressed in white babygrows or sleep suits that are up the loft. Finding out the sex won't change that.

Number3cometome · 20/02/2015 13:37

My last ones were 7 + 12 years ago.

Nothing left from those days!

blowinahoolie · 20/02/2015 13:40

Fair do's, I can see your point Number3

Number3cometome · 20/02/2015 13:41

I can't wait for this little fella to arrive.
20 weeks and counting!

BumWad · 20/02/2015 13:45

Number agree no harm in finding out however calling it a 'sexing' scan rather than an anomaly takes away from it the real importance of why you are at the scan, it is to check for problems not to find out the sex!

Number3cometome · 20/02/2015 13:53

The one I paid for was a ... wait for it banned word... GENDER scan!

WrappedInABlankie · 20/02/2015 14:15

I paid for my own sexing/gender scan

GotToBeInItToWinIt · 20/02/2015 14:18

Mine was called (by them!) a gender scan too .

dooberrywhatsit · 20/02/2015 14:39

I paid for the advertised 'Gender Scan' also :D

Faithope · 20/02/2015 14:40

I have paid for private scans-one was a gender scan in my last pregnancy as it was IVF, was a 10 year wait, I had had Miscarriages and couldn't wait to find out the gender. Paid £75. This pregnancy we paid for a Bonding scan-exactley that, watching your baby to bond with it. I have been through an awful time since having my 20 week anomaly scan as things weren't found to be 'normal' and I struggled to bond. Having that private scan really helped. I read far too many threads about the excitement of the 20 week scan without the concept of the fact its a medical scan to check all is well. Yes it is exciting but it can also be devastating.

Titsalinabumsquash · 20/02/2015 14:51

Here's my story, make of it what you will..

dS1 I was told was a girl at 20 weeks, a further nhs growth scan at 30 weeks said actually no, boy.

Ds2 and Ds3 followed, both were seen to be boys at 20 week scan.

With all 3 boys I was hospitalised with sickness, my body fell apart but my mind stayed sharp, no 'baby brain' all boys were sitting on the top end of the growth charts during regular scans I had.

Surprise current pregnancy, no sickness, I feel fine but I'm forgetful, clumsy, tearful and most days stringing a sentence together is a challenge.
20 week scan said a girl, I had to go back the week after to complete the scan and was again told a girl.
She is showing to be on the very bottom of the growth charts. I have a few more scans booked in before I'm
Induced at 35 weeks so I'll know soon.

weeblueberry · 20/02/2015 14:56

I'm more preoccupied that nothing is wrong with the baby, rather than knowing what sex it is. Just my view, not a dig at others who choose to find out.

I think we can safely say that all people are more preoccupied with making sure the baby is healthy but if everything is fine and the sonographer asks, there's no shame in finding out if that's what you've agreed to do. It doesn't mean you're more concerned about the sex than the health.

BumWad · 20/02/2015 14:59

Yes yes you may have all paid for a GENDER or SEXING scan however the OP referred her 20 week NHS scan as the sexing scan!!!!!!

WrappedInABlankie · 20/02/2015 15:05

So?

It's usually where they tell you the sex if you asked. It's just a name she isn't say don't give a damn about the baby just the sex

Gemzybelle · 20/02/2015 15:08

Both my DD's made for vastly different pregnancies in every way. Symptoms don't really mean anything, just old wives tales.

BumWad · 20/02/2015 15:20

I disagree Wrapped it isn't just the name.

It is amazing how many women come to their scans and expect you to just tell them what sex the baby is. They don't realise that is is actually an important diagnostic test to look for anomalies.

So a throwaway 'sexing scan' comment can in fact cause a whole host of misconceptions. We need to try and keep in mind what the actual scan is for.

halestone · 20/02/2015 15:46

I didn't find out what i was having because i didn't want to. I was absolutely convinced it was a boy. When DP told me she was a girl i didn't believe him as it went against all the instincts i had. She was indeed a girl when i checked though.

blowinahoolie · 20/02/2015 17:12

I must admit I agree with Bumwad. There does seem to be, in recent times, a real obsession with 'what sex is it? Is it a boy, is it a girl? Oh I really need to know at the 20 week scan!'. It's all hyped up and it's really not about the sex, the anomaly scan is there to check for any complications. I think all hospitals should actually ban telling parents the sex of the baby and just stay focused on what the scan is about - checking if there's anything wrong with the baby. Many women don't really appreciate the seriousness of what the scan is about.

blowinahoolie · 20/02/2015 17:13

Many years ago women just took what they got and you found out when the baby was born. Nothing more was thought about it.

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