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I think I might be - if I am, it's a disaster

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QueenEvil · 22/10/2006 20:49

I am 2 days late.

I am never, never, ever late.

Did preg test last night - but neg (have tested neg previously when preg with ds4).

If I am, I don't want it.

I have 5 kids already, don't want and can't cope with the thought of another.

Shit shit shit.

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Are your children’s vaccines up to date?

Set a reminder

mears · 22/10/2006 20:50

What contraception are you using?

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QueenEvil · 22/10/2006 20:51

t-safe coil.

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expatinscotland · 22/10/2006 20:52

hmmm.

coils are VERY effective if used properly.

how long have you had it?

have you had the strings checked?

CountTo10 · 22/10/2006 20:53

Are you on your own or have you shared your fears with your dp/dh?

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QueenEvil · 22/10/2006 20:54

Had it fitted after the birth of ds4 who is 2 in December....so, erm 21/22 months.

Thinking back, I have never been able to feel the threads until last month i did, so am now wondering if it could have moved. Never thought any more of it at the time.

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expatinscotland · 22/10/2006 20:56

some people can always feel the threads.

i'd go see your GP and tell her your concerns.

FWIW, if you have had it in htis long, it's not so likely to fail unless it had moved.

she should be able to check it, too, or refer you to family planning clinic who can check it.

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QueenEvil · 22/10/2006 20:57

dh went out and bought the preg test last night. Did it together.
Am never never late, ever. Always early by between a day or sometimes 4/5 days.

dh doesn't want another but doesn't believe in abortion.
i told him I would have to terminate as we are at full stretch emotionally and financially with 5.
It would be shitty having it.
And shitty to terminate.

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AlfredAitchcock · 22/10/2006 20:58

oh dear, queenevil, not a great situation... let's hope for the best and that there is another explanation.

AlfredAitchcock · 22/10/2006 20:59

that's a sympathetic, comforting by the way...

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QueenEvil · 22/10/2006 21:01

Thanks aitch

What other explanation could there be?

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singyswife · 22/10/2006 21:01

Hi, do you feel pg???? Having had 5 you would know what to look out for. I dont know how the coil works but if it has moved could it just have affected your cycle. Fingers crossed for you.

mears · 22/10/2006 21:02

Don't panic until you know for definite there is something to panic about. As you have had a coil for so long it is unlikely to have moves but as Expat suggests go and see GP. I would also make an appointment to get sterilised so that you have peace of mind (or DH). Fingers crossed you are just late.

Trinityrhino · 22/10/2006 21:02

you could be coming down with a cold or be a little more stressed than usual, I know you say you are never late but there is always a first time
Hope you get the result you want in the end

NothingButAttitudeOnMN · 22/10/2006 21:04

Try to remain calm and remember that their is always a first time for everything, so your period could just be late.

expatinscotland · 22/10/2006 21:04

I agree. If it truly is that much of a disaster, if you turn out to not be pregnant, it might be time to consider sterilisation for one of you, or even both.

I do know a couple who have six children and both opted to be sterilised, b/c they really, really did NOT want any more children. Ever.

NothingButAttitudeOnMN · 22/10/2006 21:04

x posts trin, great minds think a like

CountTo10 · 22/10/2006 21:04

I have no experience of coils - could they ever effect periods in this way?

What a difficult situation to be in. I would advise speaking to your gp to get the coil checked and also another pg test.

I know its not an easy decision to make if you do find yourself in that situation but at least you and your dh are discussing it. He might not be comfortable with the options but he needs to think about the bigger picture like you are.

Did you conceive any of your other lo's on contraception?

mears · 22/10/2006 21:05

As you get older your periods change and become more erratic at times. It isn't uncommon to be a few dates late or early.

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QueenEvil · 22/10/2006 21:05

Sterilisation is a very real prospect atm, trust me! Who can tell me what it actually involves re the procedure itself and recovery time?

I could call the family planning clinic who fitted my coil - they use a scanner to check positioning so could request an urgent appointment.
Are they likely to give me an urgent if I ask for it?

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MissPecksniff · 22/10/2006 21:06

QE, I don't know anything about the coil tbh, does it make your periods very regular?

How old are you? (just asking as for the last year my periods are a bit all over the place, but I am over 40 with a toddler)

DumbledoresGirl · 22/10/2006 21:06

Fingers crossed for you QE. FWIW I was 4 days late earlier this year and I am never that late either. I took a pg test and it was negative and period started about 2 days later. And my dh has had a vasectomy so that is supposedly a pretty safe method of contraception!

The only explanation I can give (and you won't like it girl!) is that your cycle does start to change when you get a bit older! hey, I told you you wouldn't like it! but it sounds like you would rather that explanation were true than that you were pregnant. I know I would!

expatinscotland · 22/10/2006 21:08

IIRC, mears is sterilised.

My best friend was in December and it involved GA and her abdomen was inflated w/air for the procedure. The incision were keyhole and not too bad.

My dad, BIL and FIL had vasectomies.

They were mild in comparison to the tubal ligation. Outpatient procedures, done in office under local anaesthesia.

DO phone your FPC in the morning. They can best advise you about sterilisation as well.

Jimjams2 · 22/10/2006 21:08

DH had a vasectomy. In a GP's surgery. Quick recovery, it was fine. Like you we felt completely stretched and couldn't comtemplate another. It is the method with the lowest failure rate.

MissPecksniff · 22/10/2006 21:09

It's probably safer adn more straightforward for your dh to be sterilised as far as I know. If you have more than 4 children it can be done on the NHS

mears · 22/10/2006 21:09

I would think they will.

If you do a search you will see lots of threads on sterilisation. Most often men go for vasectomies often because women have had to go through the births.

I chose to get sterilised. It was done as a day case under general anaesthetic. You have 2 tiny scars - one at your belly button and one just on the pubic hair line. It is instantly effective. I was sterilised 12 years ago and was breastfeeding 3 month old DD at the time. I was a bit tender for a couple of days and took iy easy. DH pampered me an looked after the 4 kids.
It is all personal choice really.

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