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Can we still have sex even though I have lost some of my show? (I am 35 weeks)

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NatalieJane · 21/10/2006 17:37

???

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QuootieSpookypie · 21/10/2006 17:38

Id give it a miss as it might induce early labour. After 38 weeks, you should be OK ( I think)

7up · 21/10/2006 17:42

blimey good on you if you feel like sex that far gone! agree with quootie though, dont risk the early labour

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NatalieJane · 21/10/2006 17:47

LOL I wasn't up for it until about a month a go, we were starting to erm... get back into the swing of things and then week before last I started loosing bits of my show...

Poor DH, LOL

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blessedchild · 21/10/2006 17:58

Hi aLl, well I am 34 weeks and I am okay with intercourse, but before reading upon the fact that it brings on labour, the day after I had my first taster or practice contractions.......WOW!!!!I have learnt my lesson! I do agree with quootie, if you are still up to it, try after 38 weeks. Good Luck all.

ScotGirlInOz · 22/10/2006 15:03

hi NatalieJane

Not too sure about the show thing. However me and DP had sex even on the day I was in labour. Had been in labour for about 3 hours but had not had my show yet. I was 38 weeks and 1 day, but we had still been having regular sex up till then.

lulumama · 22/10/2006 15:09

if you have had an irritable uterus..losing your show and been having contractions...i would steer clear! especially as it can bring on contractions...

but i dare you to call the midiwfe and ask!!

Heathcliffscathy · 22/10/2006 15:24

sex is one of best ways of inducing labour (particularly if you orgasm).

i'd ask about the show....and i think i would wait until 38 wks (until you can talk to a midwife about the fact that you've had some jelly/blood...i'm assuming that's what you mean about losing your show?)

lulumama · 22/10/2006 15:25

exactly...nataliejane is 35 weeks....bit too early!

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NatalieJane · 22/10/2006 22:31

LMAO, we thought we got lucky yesterday, DH remembered we had some condoms up on top of his wardrobe, so he raced up stairs to get them, came down feeling very sorry for himself, they were 2 years out of date!!! LOL

Oh well, it looks like we will have to wait for a while.

Picking up on one bit though, is it OK for me to orgasm if DH uses some other method?! Or do we really have to wait?

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CattyB · 22/10/2006 23:00

If I had the inclination and a willing DH I'd be at it! It could bring on labour but only if baby is ready. Have fun and enjoy it while you still can

QuootieSpookypie · 22/10/2006 23:02

I think orgasm might have the same effect... contracts the uterus etc.

mears · 22/10/2006 23:05

I would avoid intercourse/orgasm for at least another week, especially since you have had such a hard time with painful contractions. Sex of any description is likely to trigger contractions since you seem to have an irritable uterus.

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NatalieJane · 22/10/2006 23:43

Catty, we are hoping for a homebirth, if I can make it to 37 weeks, so I don't really want to risk anything that is going to bring it on too early, besides I think 35 weeks is still a little bit too early, even for a hospital birth.

Typical, if I was absolutely set on having sex purely to induce the labour it would never work, but if we had sex now and hoped for the best, I bet it would start it all off!

Thanks everyone, it looks like we will just have to wait

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sleepfinder · 23/10/2006 08:25

I was told that after the show you shouldn't have sex because of the risk of infection...(up til then is fine)

CarolinaMooncup · 23/10/2006 08:27

isn't infection only a risk if your waters have broken?

earlgrey · 23/10/2006 08:28

If you're 35 weeks pregnant, does it really matter if the condoms were 2 years out of date? Or if you had any at all?????

CarolinaMooncup · 23/10/2006 08:32

I wondered the same thing EarlGrey

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NatalieJane · 23/10/2006 10:40

I don't think infection would be a risk till the waters went. The condoms were meant to stop his 'contribution' from being able to do anything! And, yes we do realise that to go and buy some new ones might raise a few eyebrows so we can't even do that!

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LadyTophamHatt · 23/10/2006 10:43

good god woman.....why on earth would you want to???

I'm 29 wks and the thought has horrified me for months....

FoghornLeghorn · 23/10/2006 10:45

I'm with you LTH, I'm 36 weeks. Although, now knowing that it is likely to trigger labour (although it did bugger all last time, nothing did) I might see if I can persuade DH next week.
Although, think he is just as unkeen as I am - was deeply hurt when I suggested it with DD, he said he felt used HA HA

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NatalieJane · 23/10/2006 10:50

I can't be the only pregnant woman who has fancied her DH like mad? I went through a stage of this though when I was pregnant with DS, but it was in the second trimester, wasn't a problem at all then!

Count down till the weekend after next next then really, when I hit the all important 37 weeks 12 days to go....

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ludaloo · 23/10/2006 10:52

be careful it doesn't start you off!!! It started me off twice out of three times!!!!!!!!

expatinscotland · 23/10/2006 10:54

bumping for the midwives and nurses on the board who might now.

FWIW, we used sex to bring on labour.

it worked a treat!

DD1 born at 38 weeks + 3 days and DD2 at 38 weeks + 6 days.

ludaloo · 23/10/2006 10:54

I'm told it is the sperm that triggers labour...some chemical thing...maybe you could just avoid that bit??!!

FoghornLeghorn · 23/10/2006 10:54

Can I just ask - Is there are risk to using lavender oil in the bath then ?