Can we still have sex even though I have lost some of my show? (I am 35 weeks)

[NatalieJane]

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FWIW, I would not be embarrassed to ask a midwife. They've seen and heard it all. Many are mums themselves and have been there.

Expat, I wouldn't be bothered about asking the original question, the question about if there is any other way DH could erm.... please me () that wouldn't bring the labour on, would have me -ing all over the place

Ludaloo, there would be no point in missing that bit if I can't even have an orgasm without that IYSWIM?!

Remind me to never turn up to any meet ups please

FHLH, I think lavender can also bring the labour on, I know it is a deffo no no in the first trimester, got the feeling that it shouldn't be used till well after 36 weeks. Same as clary sage.

Have just ordered myself some - should be fine to used by the time it has been delivered.
This baby will be here before December if it kills me

Meant to say NJ - just be glad you're not in East Lothian - the mw's here don't go on call for homebirths until 38 weeks. How would you last?

Can I just point out that a midwife HAS answered this thread.....

" By mears on Sunday, 22 October, 2006 11:05:42 PM
I would avoid intercourse/orgasm for at least another week, especially since you have had such a hard time with painful contractions. Sex of any description is likely to trigger contractions since you seem to have an irritable uterus."

LOL Catty, well, I have yet to find out if it is 37 weeks here (I guess I will find all of this out tomorrow when I see the miwife), but I read somewhere that that is the earliest you should be allowed to labour at home.

11 days to go....

I didn't realise Mears was a midwife, thanks for pointing that out, and an extra thanks to Mears for putting in the extra over time ;)

Our midwives don't go oncall till 38 weeks. We trialled 37 weeks but the oncall for the midwives was just too much. We found that women mainly laboured from 38 weeks onwards. Each area is different though.

I am meeting the midwife in the morning so I am guessing she will tell me then everything I will need to know, there are some other things that seem to differ from area to area that I'd like her to tell me about as well, I think it is time to make a list of questions though, else I will never remember them all!

Have a list of what you would like too - not just what they will provide. Good luck.

I think I would most like an epidural, failing that anything will do I think!!

No, the main thing I want to ask about is I know that the midwife has to have extra training for water births but I don't know if that is just for actually giving birth in the water, I only want to labour in it, I don't know if it is worth risking hiring a pool only for a midwife to turn up who hasn't had the right training.

Some other smaller matters that are just preferences really, like I would rather tear than be cut, I don't want the cord cutting until it has stopped pulsing, unless of course there was a medical reason for it to be cut etc. Just simple things really, but I want to know that they are happy for me to do these little things!

Midwives should be trained to look after women delivering in water - in my experience women often do not want to come out. In our area, midwives update them selves when they know the woman wants to labour in water. In this day and age it is not acceptable for midwives to say they aren't trained IMO.

useful guidelines here

I would recommend you buy them yourself for reference

NatalieJane, you could also ask your MW if anyone in the team would not be able to support your use of the pool..... I've had mine up and running for 2 weeks now and it is great for relaxation while I'm feeling very heavy and achey....

Mears that is reassuring, I have read a few times that women hadn't been able to use the pool due to the midwife not being trained. Well, there is no point in worrying about it now, I am seing her tomorrow so should get all the answers then.

Thanks to everyone though

lol

i got my bfp today and my husband will not get near me for at least 12 months!!!

mind you after 18 months of ttc hes glad of rest!!

Awww huge congratulations!!

Believe me there was a few weeks where if he'd have even thought about coming anywhere near me I'd have quite happy chopped it off

I think it must be these contractions, all of the movement down there must be doing something!