Hypermesis Support

[LucindaE]

I hope everyone suffering from the Horrors of Hyperemesis will find this thread useful as a source of support and information.

There's no TMI on here - can't be by definition - and nobody should feel ashamed of moaning as much as they feel the need to.

MOH's wonderful website is full of useful information on this illness:
sites.google.com/site/pregnancysicknesssos/
Another invaluable website is:
www.pregnancysicknesssupport.org.uk/
If you need help in obtaining medication, this phone number is
brilliant:
024 7638 2020

Lastly, the NICE guidelines on treatment are useful:
cks.nice.org.uk/nauseavomiting-in-pregnancy#!prescribinginfosub

I would like to thank Everyone who has given such invaluable support and advice on this and on previous threads.

Remember when you are at your worst, 'This Too Shall Pass'. It really will.
So many women on this thread have thought they couldn't get through this, but they did.

ealli I hope you're a little better this morning ... do you get a few clear(ish) hours in the morning before the sickness creeps back?

narnia what a horrible scare. Preg does ask a bit more of the heart (making and pumping all that extra blood). Glad you are home, do take it easy ....

about the anxiety, I think most people find HG a real strain mentally because it's the sickest they've ever been in their lives and it doesn't go away and it's just so utterly miserable. Also beign preg is a time of lots of thinking anyway, good and bad, being the beginning of a new stage of living. It's probably pretty useless to say this but, well, what you're feeling -is- normal. Do let yoru doctor know though, it's all part of the big picture of your pregnancy and it's better if it doesn't get out of hand.

Very glad you saw the little heartbeat .... wonderful to see =)

penguini how are you today?

wishing trixy and hello and everyone a gentle day

Thanks Meerka I will mention it to the Dr. I am going away next week on holiday. No you are right it is miserable feeling so ill when you should feel excited. Hoping everyone else has a good day. My DP has set up a Now tv box in the bedroom . So I'm going to have a quiet day today and rest.

dilly that all sounds great, I'm so glad things have settled for you!

meerka mornings are good. The problem is I'm usually too tired from not sleeping to do anything Other than sleep all morning. This morning I managed a bit of sewing for my niece's first birthday present. I brought everything upstairs last night so I could just start sewing when I woke up. Hoping to break the cycle of sleeping all morning in the hope of managing to sleep more of the nights.

Feeling more positive today. I'm surprised by how up and down my emotions are!

Hello everyone :) new to this thread. I'm 10 wks today, and still feeling super crap. Was admitted to hosp for overnight fluids a week ago, and since then it has been pretty much a constant battle with the vomming. I am on Metaclopramide, which seems to work better than the Avomine and certainly the cyclizine which did naff all. I guess I am lucky in so far as I havent had any of the drug side effects which I have read some of you guys have suffered. Also wearing seabands, which may be helping some.

Im glad I found this thread as im feeling quite alone at home. I have been signed off work by the Dr, and they rang me up to ask if I could come in! They just dont get it! They all seem to think ''morning sickness'' is just something to be dealt with and i should get a grip, which makes me feel pathetic!

Sorry for the navel gazing rant :( x

Dilly was it ondansetron that caused the awful headaches? I found them horrific when I took that!

I've only got 25 days left at work and as I'm still only on 1/2 days I guess that's only really 12.5 full days

Welcome gandalf. I'm on ondansetron and it's causing unpleasant headaches, but much more pleasant than the constant sickness and nausea. Tried to wean a little bit last week, and it caused an awful few days. gonna try again in a week or so, cos the headaches are starting to get to me. I've only had headaches for the past couple of weeks, so I must've been lucky!

hello very jealous of Only 25 days left.. I'm currently focusing on getting back to work to try to get the best maternity I can!

Oh and gandalf it would seem no one gets HG unless they've had it or lived with someone thru it. I tried to work but was basically told by work that if I couldn't commit to particular hours and be reliable that I should go home til I could. Admittedly, it wasn't phrased quite like that (I imagine legally that would have put them on a sticky wicket!) but the message was clear.

Keep your head held high and focus on you and baby. If work ask again, politely explain that your doctor doesn't think it's safe for you to work, so you'll be following his/her advice. And then silently wave the finger down the phone at them. If they push it, explain that you may not be insured to work if under a sick note from GP - I know that's the case for me.

It was indeed the ondansetron that was causing headaches. They were so bad that I was struggling to work. I started reducing the amount I took and found I didn't feel as sick as I had been so quit taking it all together and fingers crossed I've been okay since. I do still have some tablets in case it gets bad again.

hello gandalf and welcome. sorry it's so bad ... just to echo what ealli says, people just don't get it til they've seen it at close quarters or had it themselves. And don't go in, overstretching yourself on HG really makes you worse. If you've found a med that helps you that's great.

sorry have only had time to skim read....
welcome gandalf sorry you are suffering. Hg can be very lonely as you don't necessarily find that many people in RL who truly understand it- we are here to help you through it.

dilly thanks so much for coming back to the thread to encourage everyone. so pleased that you are doing so well.

hello not long now- 25 day countdown! when lucinda is back we need an updated list of due dates!

wondering how you are penguin- did you manage to speak to anyone 're meds?

waves to meerka, eallison & trixy (how have your days been?)

narnia what a lovely dh you have! Hope you're feeling a bit better after resting up and watching now tv!

I hope everyone is ok this morning. Won't be able to get on for a couple days so just to wish everyone as peaceful an easter as is possible right now.

dilly the headaches are an awful side effect aren't they! I was in bed for most of the time I was on ondansetron, i couldn't win, if I didn't take the tablets I would be sick 24/7 and dehydrated or take the tablets and have horrendous headaches and constipation!

Unfortunately when I was really bad ondansetron was the only thing that reduced my vomiting to a mangable level which was still 5/6 times a day, truly awful times they were. BUT I'm on the other side now and only vomiting a couple of times in the morning. When I tell people I'm 27 weeks and still vomiting they look at me as if I'm lying with a face like this

Still lighter than my pre pregnancy weight which is a good side effect seen as Im not exactly skinny
Hope everyone has a great weekend and can enjoy it as much as possible x

They truly were awful! I didn't want to be taking paracetamol all the time either so I just suffered with them! Luckily I was a heaver more than a vomiter.

When I was at my worst, it was miserable. And it made my OH miserable too cos he was working long hours and having to leave me at home alone and was constantly worried about me. At times I struggled to see any end to it. But things are so much better now! I'm actually enjoying being pregnant which I never thought would happen. I love my little bump and the little wiggles and kicks I'm feeling. 6 days until my 20 week scan

It really does feel like those bad days are going to last forever doesn't it, I'm done now after two HG pregnancies. People always say 'oh you'll change ur mind' I wouldn't wish this on anyone for a long time but sometimes I wish people could experience it for a day or two and then they would see why 2 is enough

I don't want to do this anymore. How do I get off? It's not even the nausea or sickness that's that bad at the moment (it's not gone, but the sickness is largely restricted to after 5pm). I'm bored of eating the same fecking food all of the time. I don't want to eat any more crumpets/tinned peaches/sausage I know it's even more limited for some. But I am bored.

I love food! I love eating new things, trying new combinations. MY husband is an amazing cook, and he regularly used to make new and interesting things. I love cheese, I love meat, I love strong flavoursome meals. I was totally prepared to not eat cured ham/runny egg yolks/some cheeses whilst pregnant. But I feel like I've had everything taken away from me. I want to have eggs florentine. Except I can't have runny yolk or hollandaise (butter). I want to eat pizza, except I can't eat the cheese, or most of the toppings that I like cos they actually taste of something. I want to be able to eat nice comforting soups, but I can't cos the sort of soups I like have lots of spices in (not to make it hot, but flavoursome). I want some of hubby dearests pork popcorn things he makes (amazing balls of pork yumminess) except they get cooked in butter, and actually taste of something, so I'm fairly sure they'd make me hurl.

And on top of it all, hubby seems to be working longer and longer hours (lucky if he's home by 7), so him starting to cook anything then means its not ready til 8/8.30 (or 9) by which point I'm totally past being able to eat anything.

I am bored. And fed up. And I want to get off.

And I've slept funny and the whole left side of my neck, shoulder and back is agony. Particularly when I breathe. And I cant avoid that. And I'm aware this may be making me more grumpy. But right now I don't care. I want a spring vegetable lasagne, with a cheesy white sauce. And I can't. So I'm angry and irrational. And I'm pregnant. So that also makes me irrational and angry.

I am not having any more biological children. I will adopt. And if one more person says to me that I'll feel differently when I hold my "little bundle of joy" in my arms, and will forget all about the sickness, I am going to punch them. Right now this "little bundle of joy" is the bane of my life. I think I love and hate it in equal measure.

Sorry for the rant. But I needed to get it out or I would scream.

eallison I didn't forget about the sickness until my DS was 18 months old, only then was I ready for a second baby, it's so hard but it will pass. How many weeks are you now? I'm 27 weeks and Altho im still sick every morning im pretty much back to being able to eat most things but just smaller amounts. There are a few exceptions which I still cannot stand the smell or taste of but that list is slowly becoming smaller.
Is it worth you 'experimenting' a bit? Just trying something you really really fancy? There's a chance you may hurl but of you know that then it won't be a surprise, you never know you may be able to tolerate something else!

Hieallison I so feel your pain I love food too and I am so sick of toast and crackers. I had a cheese omelette for dinner now wondering how long it will be before I see it again ! It's the drinks I am suffering with I don't fancy anything I did have a can of coke today and that didn't make me feel so bad. But I'm worried about the caffeine intake. We are going away tomorrow and I'm lied on the bed surrounded by clothes wondering if I will feel well enough to pack. DH is a bloody superstar and we have been to stay with his parents for the night and I was able to sleep for the first time in a good few days. diilydollydarling I know those days are out there but it feels like forever. This is the last time whatever for us I can't go through another pregnancy or mc so we will adopt too if we aren't lucky. I wish you all a happy Easter first year I haven't had an egg. I'm 7 lbs lighter than when I got pregnant. So I won't be needed maternity clothes for a while.

Narnia I'm still around 4 lbs lighter than pre preg now at 27 weeks and can still fit in normal clothes however im going to have to admit defeat and get a few maternity dresses for work, my normal ones still fit me size wise but as my bump gets bigger the length of the dresses gets shorter which I can't really avoid

eallison feel totally free to rant- that is what we are here for and I absolutely felt the same as you. it took me over four years to pluck up the courage to go through it again- and I really really didn't want to- the only reason we went through it was that I could not bear in the end for dd1 to be an only child. nothing could have then prepared me for the total shock of it being twins and the hg being absolutely horrific for 15 weeks - I couldn't bear the thought that it was going to continue through the pregnancy like it did the first time, but miraculously it eased off. I was totally fed up with dh through both of my pregnancies as he was useless tbh - particularly first time round- but second pg marginally better as we had been there before and he had dd1 to sort out. hg completely takes any joy out of being pregnant and I would not wish it on anyone. preg hormones do not help either- i became fairly irrational and intolerant and hated the out of control feeling that my body was letting me down. sorry I know I am supposed to be offering positive advice but that is the truth of it and your feelings are totally understandable and normal ime.

waves to dilly, hello, narnia and everyone.

narnia I lost 1.5 stone by 20 weeks in first pg and lost similar in second pg by about 14 weeks but did eventually put it back on.

Even though the weight loss can be looked upon as a bit of a bonus im sure IM not the only one who would've rather had 'normal' morning sickness and gained weight during their pregnancy rather than the hell that is HG!x

Sorry everyone is suffering!
Ealli I understand where you're coming from. HG is exhausting, frustrating and hard to cope with at times. I feel like I'm on some kind of endurance trek. But I keep reminding myself it will end in 6months and I'll be able to have the foods I love again instead of basic survival rations. I will be able to drink more than 3 sips at a time, eat out, use public transport, meet friends in town, enjoy my career again and not spend my days within dashing distance of bathroom. It seems a long way off but it's not forever. Don't lose heart

Today I ventured out for a walk with friends, vomited in car, vomited in park, and have spent rest of afternoon throwing up every time I try to eat or drink. Luckily not every day is this bad. Hopefully tomorrow might be a bit better.

too true hello bit of a drastic way to lose weight I found!!

caspian poor you, hope you have a better day tomorrow. bad days are the worst

Hope everyone else is managing?

I've had a really lovely day. Went food shipping with hubby, first time in weeks. Then went to my closest friends house to tell her kids about bambino (apparently the eldest, 9, is never gonna forgive me) and we walked yo the local craft market. Wandered round for an hour, then hubby met us and we went out for lunch. Together we navigated the menu and found pregnancy and me friendly food (a starter and tap water to drink, but all stayed down) and then home. Home at 4 and I fell asleep and am now awake feeling very sick. But I feel like I had such a victory today. Sorry caspian, but I'm sure you'll get a similar day soon!

Starting to try and wean off the ondansetron as well,the headaches are starting to get unbearable.

Thank you for allowing me to moan without fear of judgement. I think I was emotionally really low and fed up. Talking about it with hubby today we think it's kind of a good thing; a month ago I just didn't have the energy or head space to feel low or sorry for myself cos I was so ill. And it was good for me to get off my chest to him how frustrated and let down I felt with his family.