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10 year age gap between children

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Tia2005 · 29/01/2015 22:03

My daughter will be 10 when the baby is born , has anyone got this age gap or what age gaps do u have and what's best

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Kahlua4me · 29/01/2015 22:07

My friends have 10 year gaps between their dc and they are close. Older one is very protective of younger one and helped with milestones, homework etc.

My cousins dc have a 22 year age gap and they get on well too!

fattymcfatfat · 29/01/2015 22:13

My mum had three of us in 5 years then waited 8 years before the youngest came along! We are all very protective of our little bro! I have 5 years between ds and dd, but am now pg again and will have a 18 month gap! Its definitely going to be difficult having 2 so close in age and one much older but my ds is amazing and helps out as much as he can bless him. He loves his baby sister and cant wait for the new baby to arrive aswell!

fattymcfatfat · 29/01/2015 22:15

Ps im ten yrs older than my little bro and I sort of became a second more fun mummy to him! I neverbhad to tell him off but I took him everywhere with me. Even when I had my own ds I made time for him. Hes now nearly 13 and still sleeps over at my house every weekend so we have a really fantastic relationship.

TobyLerone · 29/01/2015 22:17

My DC are 15, 13 and just turned 1.

Big age gaps are amazing :o

weeonion · 29/01/2015 22:17

Congrats!

I have a 7.5 yrs gap. Dd2 is only 3 months but so far it has been great with her and dd1. Dd1 has been fab and is well settled into her own person to understand what has been happening. She is quite independent and able to sort her clothes, uniform, washing etc which has made the coping with 2 easier. She is besotted with her wee sis, who in turn is v entertained by her. Dd1 gets the highest smiles out of her.
i know its a big gap but it has been alot easier a transition than moving from no kids to 1.
there is 14 yes between myself and younger twin siblings. We are v v close too.

mooth · 29/01/2015 22:19

Age gaps? No problem! Mine are 22, 6 and 4. Fantastic.

foofooyeah · 29/01/2015 22:19

I have a 10 year age gap. I think it works well and not really been any problems.

oneofthosenicemuslims2015 · 29/01/2015 22:20

10.5 years between my eldest dd and dd3. dd1 is very helpful and loving, will go to pick up her baby sister if she starts to cry because I've put her down for five minutes to go to the bloomin loo
She was silently dreading it before dd3 was born though. I think explaining to her that crying (both from baby and hormonal mother! ) is to be expected and as time goes on her baby sister will understand her family loves her and that she is safe and cared for. Dd3 is 4 months now and dd1 is actually one of her favourite people Smile

Fairylea · 29/01/2015 22:26

I have a ten year gap between mine (now 2 and 12). It's been brilliant. No jealousy and the eldest one loves helping with the littlest one (it helps that's she's always wanted a sibling - I got divorced and had my youngest with my now dh).

I know everyone's different but I love my age gap. The thought of having two little ones makes me want to stick pins in my eyes!

frazzled74 · 29/01/2015 22:28

My 12 year old and 22 year old get on brilliantly, always have.

morethanpotatoprints · 29/01/2015 22:34

Our dc are 23 ds 20 ds 11dd.

The oldest has left home now and gets on with both his siblings.
Ds2 and dd though wind one another up so much people call them tom and Jerry or Itchy and Scratchy. Ds2 has asd though and is unable to resist rising to the bait and of course takes dds rubbish literally. They are both as bad as each other.

It was better when all 3 were together as ds1 kept the peace.
When push comes to shove though all 3 are very close and support each other well.

Turquoisetamborine · 29/01/2015 22:39

I love this thread. I will have a 7 year age gap between DS1 & DS2 when this baby is born. Everyone has been so negative and he is a very much wanted IVF baby.

SueV14 · 29/01/2015 22:48

My little brother and I are 15 years apart, same mom and dad! Although it was a bit weird for me at first (especially mom being pregnant at 39) the big advantage was a free live-in nanny for my parents :-)). The little bro is now 20 and he's a star and I love him to bits!

Scotlass · 29/01/2015 22:58

I have a 10 year age gap between my 2 DD 15yrs and DS 5yrs.
They act no different to any other siblings I know. Love each other to bits mostly but can irritate the life out of each other too.

Only difference is they both want to do entirely different things so you kind of have 2 only children at times. However DD is brilliant at playing and interacting with DS (in her own teenage way) and DS is very attached to her.

It's more me that finds it bizarre, déjà vu moments 10yrs older.

AnythingNotEverything · 29/01/2015 23:04

I have 13 years between my two. It's challenging dealing with learning to walk one minute, and then GCSE revision the next, but it keeps me on my toes Grin

NotMrsTumble · 29/01/2015 23:09

12,10 yo dc1&2, dc3 is 21m. They both love him to bits and he's besotted with them. Totally changed our family dynamic, but in a good way.

mumxof3x · 30/01/2015 00:39

There is 10 years and 3 months old when mum had my sister, I remember feeling a little bit jealous when mum told told me she was pregnant, but that soon vanished and I use to love going with her to appointments and looking through her baby book every week to see how big baby was. We are now 24 and 14, I adore her to bits and very protective of her. I fell pregnant at 17 when she was 7yrs old, so she was quite a young aunty. My 3 are 6, nearly 4 and 18 month old, 2.4yr age gap between 1+2 and 2.3yr between 2+3, 4 years 7 month between the oldest and youngest, my next little boy is due in 15 week :) x

mumxof3x · 30/01/2015 00:39

I was*

tiredvommachine · 30/01/2015 01:17

My daughter is 15 in August and I'm in hospital cradling my newborn who is less than 24 hours old Smile.
Dd is smitten!

dobedobedo · 30/01/2015 02:36

ds1 is 10 and ds2 is 8 months old. I love the big age gap. They both adore each other , ds1 was a great help in the early days. ds2's face lights up when he sees his brother. It is great!

Serephim · 30/01/2015 08:30

My daughter will be nine and a half when this one is born. She is incredibly excited Grin

TheGirlWhoPlayedWithFire · 30/01/2015 08:33

Hi OP,

I'm currently pregnant and will have a similar age gap between my eldest and the baby.

I'm terrified that I won't be able to juggle their different needs and activities properly. The baby will just have to accompany us when we do stuff with the eldest, for about five years - then my eldest will be mainly doing their own thing I guess.

I bet everything has changed since we were last pregnant!

greenlizard · 30/01/2015 08:36

My DSS and DSD a are 15/13 and I am due in March with their little brother. After the initial shock and revulsion that their Dad and I actually still have sex at our ancient age Grin they are super excited about having a little brother.

TheGirlWhoPlayedWithFire · 30/01/2015 08:37

greenlizard Grin that is hilarious.

Nice to hear they are so excited

AimlesslyPurposeful · 30/01/2015 08:47

TiredVomMachine - Congratulations! Very envious of you having cuddles with gorgeous newborn.

There's 10 years between DS2 and DS3 and it's so much less stressful than the 3.5 years age gap between DS1 and DS2. They fought constantly and each always wanted what the other had at exactly the moment they had it. I felt more like a referee than a parent for about ten years.

I think DS3 is more mature than than his peers as he has to try to fit in with his older brothers if he wants their company as they don't laugh if he's silly or tolerate tantrums.