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How did you tell your partner?

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BeautyBoo · 27/01/2015 17:07

So AF is currently 9 days late. I'm holding off from POAS just yet! But of course my mind is in overdrive and I can't stop thinking about 'telling people' if I do get a positive test!! I really want to think of a romantic way to tell my partner.

How did you tell yours?

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BeautyBoo · 29/01/2015 14:22

I've loved reading all of your replies

Still no AF. I've been really busy though and have managed to avoid any shops so don't have a test to do as of yet!

It's a pretty big deal as we've been 'letting nature take its course' for a year now. I think I'm just worried about doing a test and being disappointed. At the moment it's like my own little exciting secret that noone knows about (apart from you lot!!) and I like to daydream about all the wonderful things that could happen

How long did you wait to do a test?

I'm thinking I'd do the test next weekend if no AF still and I'd really like to hold of mentioning it to DP until Valentine's Day if its positive, although 2 weeks seems like such a long time from now and I'm already dying to tell him!! I just want the moment to be so special as it would be our first!

Thankyou all

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happygojo · 29/01/2015 15:04

First time (which unfortunately ended in MC), he found me hyperventilating on the bathroom floor holding the test with me repeating 'Can you see a line?' over and over. This time I 'felt' preg on the wednesday, took a test on the thursday but got what i thought was an evap line, took another test on friday (actually took 3) and then just dropped it casually into convo when my bf came home. I showed him the test and he refused to believe me, so I did a FRER the next day and he was still unsure but happy enough for me to be designated driver on a night out, and then the week after when I was at a conference I did a CB digi and then sent him a pic with the caption 'believe me now bumface!?' I always thought I might like to do the romance thing but in truth..... but in reality, especially when you have suffered an MC, I don't think it becomes 'real' for a while. And I wouldn't want to jinx it by buying a 'number 1 daddy' t-shirt or setting up a tearful youtube worthy surprise because lets be honest.... it is terrifying! and you want your DP to share the fear with you and help you through it.

fattymcfatfat · 29/01/2015 15:19

I was two weeks late with dc1 (I was so busy and stressed with college etc that I hadnt noticed and my mum told me)
Dc2 I was a day late but I was always bob on so it was unusual for me.
Dc3 I wasnt technically due but I was trying to lose weight and hadnt managed to so yet again my mum said your pregnant! So I did the test 2 days before I was due. Dc2 was a one off without contraception! Dc3 we was using condoms so not exactly planned but dc2 is 13mnths and im 15 weeks pg with dc3 and cant wait now! Dc1 was planned as much as a very naive 16 yo can plan!

Kakeypoos · 29/01/2015 15:45

Totally unplanned and unexpected pregnancy, we had been taking every precaution to avoid it! I found out at six weeks which was four weeks before our wedding. My period was late and I had been feeling sick but I thought it was down to work stress, it was only when a colleague suggested I should do a test 'to put my mind at rest' that I decided to find out...

I was in a massive state of shock, I couldn't stop shaking as I really did NOT want to be pregnant at that point in time (thankfully things have changed now!). I phoned my now husband, no answer as he was at work, so I sent him a text and an email and told him to phone me immediately.

When he eventually called me, I ran out of the office, said I hope he was sat down and blurted out 'I'm pregnant'. I couldn't actually believe I was saying it! I hadn't even told him I was having concerns. His response? 'Oh... f**k'.

Thankfully we are now happily married and at 20 weeks we are delighted and excited at the prospect of meeting our daughter :) I do hope that if we have another finding out and telling him will be a bit more of a positive experience!

GlitzAndGigglesx · 29/01/2015 15:47

I phoned him shrieking "IT WORKED!!!! THERES A BABY!" ofc he thought I was crazy and didn't have a clue what I was on about so once I calmed down I told him I'm pregnant

Cornberry · 29/01/2015 16:46

These stories are lovely :) beautyboo your restraint is amazing! I started testing even when I knew it was too soon to show a positive!

If you are pg it's best to find out ASAP so you can start taking folic acid etc if you're not already and scheduling appointments. Keep us updated and good luck :)

shoopshoopsong · 29/01/2015 16:50

Poas - shouted from the bathroom to come upstairs - still had knickers round my ankles. Romance !

siba91 · 29/01/2015 17:10

I .. wrote him a text :) haha

applecore0317 · 30/01/2015 07:09

Saw this on Instagram, thought I would share :) so true

applecore0317 · 30/01/2015 07:09

oops sorry wrong thread

alovelycuppatea · 30/01/2015 09:12

I woke up early in the morning to test after feeling a bit funny for a few days. Came up positive so I got back into bed and slid the test under his pillow. When he woke up I said "there is a surprise for you under your pillow". It was a digital test with a clear "pregnant 2-3 weeks" so there was no mistaking the message! He was a bit baffled for a minute then a big smile came over his face and he was delighted. We weren't even trying to it was a bit of a shock to us both!

weeblueberry · 30/01/2015 10:20

The first time Id been feeling a bit croaky and wanted to rule out pregnancy before I got absolutely plastered at a family party that weekend. I was so sure it would be negative that I did it before he even got home from work. Did another six tests to make sure... Called him and he said 'I'm in the car and you're on speaker phone'. Apparently I sounded so panicked his colleagues who were with him were really worried about me! He got home and I told him all about it but it took a while to sink in because I sounded like I was giving him terrible news (when in fact we were ecstatic!!) it did take me a while to believe everything was okay that first time though...

Second time I did a random test on our first month of trying and wasn't sure if it was positive or not. Actually showed it to my mum first to see what she thought Did a digital and when he was making dinner I told him I had a surprise and did he want it before or after dinner. Never one to be patient he asked for it there and then. Dinner what somewhat delayed that evening.

TazTheFairy · 30/01/2015 11:26

NC as this outs me. First one I got a call at work to say not to panic but dh had been held up in an armed robbery and was with the police. With some thinking time that afternoon while he was interviewed and 'what ifs' going through my head, I realised I was late. He's always maintained that news on that day stopped the memory of the day being so horrendous (and Liverpool beat Chelsea that night, apparently that was the highlight!).
Managed to give some light on a bad day with ds2 as well by finding out the day of dh's nana's funeral, of course I told dh not to tell but once he and his dad were tipsy it all came out and dfil was made up!

fattymcfatfat · 30/01/2015 12:01

Oh an sarky I have no idea...its what my stepdad has called me since I was pg with ds 7 years ago! He still called it me after even though I was back into a size 8 three weeks after giving birth!

EmberElftree · 30/01/2015 12:10

First time I did 4 tests while saying fuuuuuuuuuuck a lot. Pulled myself together and stuck all the tests in a box, made a black and white poster with picture of a baby's fist bumping a man's fist and did a film promo coming soon thing with EmberBaby coming November 24th 2014. I also put little tags on our cats saying big brother and big sister DH was totally oblivious and looked at the poster, looked at the 4 positive pregnancy tests in the box, ignored the cats and taking off his tie said "oh right let's go then" and i went "what?" and he was like well you've got a positive smiley face thingy so let's go. He thought they were ovulation tests. I said no, he's already in there! And DH was like no way. All my efforts were wasted on him ha! We lost that little one but I just found out today that I am pregnant again and it was 6am so I just gave him a kiss and spooned him and whispered in his ear I've got a bun in my oven. He woke up pretty fast. Clearly the direct approach works best for him!

sarkymare · 30/01/2015 12:16

fatty I loved it as a nickname it's got a lovely ring to it. DP still calls me it occasionally even though like you, I was back in my size 8 skinnies within a week or two of having DS.

It makes me smile every time I see you post

fattymcfatfat · 30/01/2015 12:20

I know what you mean, my ds even became little fatty! We still call him that aswell. Luckily hes not over sensitive so doesnt take offence!

sarkymare · 30/01/2015 12:30

Well as I like to say- offence should only be taken if offence was intended

MrsFbabyNo1 · 30/01/2015 18:29

After a few months of trying, tested early at 12dpo (6pm). Thought I saw a faint line. Tested again next am (6am)slight faint line still not sure. 6pm that night another test, slightly darker but faint line. I'm thinking is this it!? Called him to have a look. He says I don't know what I'm looking for. Explained can you see two lines. He said yeah I think so or something then "well done me" (congratulating himself)!

I was still unsure, posted pic to mumsnet. Several said Yep I see I line go get a digital now. He says you've done three in 24hrs just wait. But I said come on don't you want to know for sure, now?! So 8.30pm trip to local asda. Back by 9pm.

Tested, loved the cb digi timers working away (only had used internet cheapies til then), looked away fair few times as was so nervous/ anxious/ excited/ hopefully didn't want to see a 'not preg'. He was lying on bed by our open ensuite door. Looked back at test and it said pregnant 1-2 weeks. I was shocked, happy, eyes started to tear, I picked it up turned to him and said "computer says yes" heart pounding and gave him a kiss. We both all got emotional and I said bet your glad we went on the shopping trip now!

Then posted a pic onto here again and had lots of lovely ladies congratulate us!

Lovely memories x

lisaloulou84 · 30/01/2015 18:56

I went to hospital in August 2013 for a scan for a potential cyst having not had any periods and some mild pain for 7 months. Half an hour later I came out and called my DP, 'it's not a cyst.... I'm 14 and a half weeks pregnant' his words were 'shiiiiit...'

Almost 1yr old DS is snoozing on my lap whilst I order his birthday presents, if someone had said 18 months ago this would be my life right now I wouldn't have believed it! 30 is good!

MissTwister · 30/01/2015 19:41

Mine was so unromantic. We'd been trying previously but decided to have a month off for various reasons. I'd got really drunk the night before but weirdly woke up in middle of night in a blind panic that I might be pregnant although it was so unlikely - we DTD once at the wrong time!. So I bought a test on way to work and did it in a mad rush convinced it would be negative. It wasn't! I then felt hungover and guilty and when I phoned my husband he just said 'oh shit'....

Rumplestrumpet · 31/01/2015 08:00

These stories are making me teary! (must be the hormones) .

We'd been through our first round of IVF after 2 and a half years of TTC and no sign of a BFP. DH was away with work but actually staying with my mum who lived near to his clients, and I'd promised to wait until he got home to test, but I couldn't hold out and on the morning he was due home I tested at 6am. Couldn't believe it (two cheapies and a digital) and was desperate to tell him but his phone was off. So I waited a couple of hours and then messaged my mum and got her to get him out of bed, claiming I needed him to buy some stuff on the way home and was going out so needed to speak to him now (or some such nonsense) . I think she just thought it was typical me, impatient and missing him, haha. Anyway, I told him over the phone, we crieed, and he came home with a card for me and a (badly drawn) pregnant tummy inside. I think we cried all evening, just couldn't believe it was finally happening. I'm teary now just remembering, 12 weeks later - it still feels unreal, like we're the luckiest people alive

Rumplestrumpet · 31/01/2015 08:01

Looking forward to seeing your poas results OP!

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BeautyBoo · 31/01/2015 20:58

Love reading all of your stories

I must be the craziest woman in the world to hold off testing?! I just feel like if I tested and got a positive now I wouldn't be able to hold it in and carry out my plan of surprising DP! Also if I saw a negative test I would be so heartbroken so I feel like in a way I'd rather not know for sure at the moment even though that sounds silly. I have a super healthy diet and already take folic acid so the only other thing that 'knowing' would make me do is book a drs appt and I think that could wait a couple of weeks couldn't it?

Please tell me there are other crazy ladies that went through this stage??

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BeautyBoo · 14/02/2015 09:51

Hi everyone,

Just wanted to come back and let you know that I got a BFP this morning

Can't wait to tell DP later. I've felt so awful the last couple of weeks and kept dropping hints but I don't think he's clicked at all!!

Thankyou all for sharing your stories

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