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Think I'm having a miscarriage

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butterflycats · 11/01/2015 07:58

So upset... Found out I was approx 5 weeks pregnant last week, having been told by my gp I wasn't ovulating and would need a referral. I started bleeding yesterday (6weeks) with some crampy pain which I've had all week, my breasts aren't as swollen or tender and not feeling sick like I had been for the previous few days. Managed to get a scan for Tuesday morning but I feel so numb, upset, anxious and scared :(

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giantmama · 12/01/2015 16:38

It's a miscarriage. No fetal pole, sac has moved to lower uterus and there's a lot of clotting there too. Mostly still grieving my twins lost at 22 weeks a few months ago. This is painful and messy but I can handle it. Best of luck to those of you still waiting. So sorry for you carrotpuff

CarrotPuff · 12/01/2015 16:50

Yes, they will rescan me in 2 weeks. Officially I'm still pg though until then. Even got my flu jab today!

I think it's easier to process if you already have a child. Like GinFace said, I just feel grateful for what I have. I guess the slow buildup to it helped the news to sink in, so I wasn't devastated today, just sad that it didn't work out.

Oh well, next time I hope I'll make it and DS will have a lovely sibling! Today I'm having a big glass of wine and a fat slab of Brie.

Fingers crossed for you guys, hope you have some better luck than me!

GinFace · 12/01/2015 19:17

Giantmama that is heartbreaking. And you lost twins too...dear god. My heart breaks for you. You sound incredibly strong.

Hand holding and massive hugs for those who have lost their little ones. Please, please stay on this thread so we can all support each other over the hard times to come.

CarrotPuff · 13/01/2015 09:11

Sorry giantmama, didn't see your message yesterday.

I'm sorry for your loss. This must be so hard. Make sure you get looked after

Do you have any other children?

giantmama · 13/01/2015 12:58

Thanks carrotpuff
I don't have any others, just my wee twin boys. I wish I was cuddling them
I think this might be mercifully quick. I'm signed off for the week, though. DH is a rock and DM will come if I ask.

CarrotPuff · 13/01/2015 14:10

Oh Giantmama You will have a baby to cuddle, don't lose faith

No wine for me yesterday, as I've started cramping badly and heavy bleeding started. And then I've passed the sac when I went to the loo after putting DS to bed... The pain and bleeding have decreased soon after, although it's still like a heavy period.

Called EPU today, and they said they might need to see me earlier. I'm also RhD neg so I need to know if I need an anti D. Waiting for a call back from them...

GinFace · 13/01/2015 14:13

Massive hugs and hand holding, carrotpuff.

It's so good your DH is being strong for you. Sometimes I want to stab mine, but when I really need him he's just amazing. I hope you get each other through this.

Hopefully you will be out of the other side quickly. Have you got anything nice coming up which you can focus on and look forward to?

GinFace · 13/01/2015 14:14

Shit I meant giantmama. Sorry.

(Carrotpuff of course hugs etc available for you too )

GinFace · 13/01/2015 14:15

And carrot I've just read your last post so definitely hugs all round today. Stay strong.

You ladies are amazing. X

giantmama · 13/01/2015 15:50

Ginface you do make me smile. I hope this is going to work out for you. I've got a short but exotic trip coming up (involves a bit of working and some time to explore a very exciting city). That's going to be the highlight of this year - I'm getting off the baby wagon for a while as I need time to grieve without all this worry. Although it was nice being an incubator for a while again.

carrot I think I passed the sac and some big clots a few hours ago. Bleeding and cramps have definitely escalated. I'm RhD neg too - I totally forgot to ask about it yesterday. Might give them a call now. Main thing I'm worried about now is I'm so bloody old... 39 in March. But for lots of reasons I need to wait until at least this summer before TTC again. DH is 31 - I think MIL is a little at his choice of bride... Although she is sweet and kind. She just desperately wants grandkids.

Hugs all round. FX for those still waiting. Just so hard, isn't it?

GinFace · 13/01/2015 18:52

Giantmama it's great that you've got something to look forward to, not that it makes this moment in time any easier.

The waiting does indeed suck. I absolutely hate it. I just want to know either way. I'm worried that there's a chance when I go back on Thursday at 6+4 there still won't be a heartbeat and there will be more waiting. For fucks sake.

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butterflycats · 13/01/2015 20:15

Hey carrotpuff and giantmama you don't need RhD if it's a normal miscarriage (not that there is anything normal about it) before 12 weeks so try not to worry about it too much. So sorry you've both had such a bad day, hope your bleeding and pain begins to settle soon. So glad for mumsnet and it's support xxxx

ginface hope you manage to get some rest over the next few days! your hcg rise wasn't too bad at all so don't feel too disheartened xxxx

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GinFace · 13/01/2015 20:43

I don't know that's I've had an HCG rise but thank you butterfly x

CarrotPuff · 13/01/2015 21:31

Thanks Butterfly, that's what they told me, but I don't understand why?

So did you have your scan today Butterfly? How did it go?

GinFace · 14/01/2015 17:23

How is everyone today?

giantmama · 14/01/2015 18:22

Quiet, it seems, GinFace! I am lurking, hoping for someone to have good news. Still crossing everything. How are you? I know you must be in knots about tomorrow.

I'm knackered, hiding and bored. Everything seems to be tapering off, still a lot of blood but mostly I'm just exhausted because I slept for about two hours last night. I will make a big effort and go to see my sister and her LO's tomorrow - always cheers me up. A few people have called while I've been snoozing and I can't even face listening to the messages in case they upset me - I'm enjoying feeling a bit numb about it all for now. Nice to have the support, though.

CarrotPuff · 14/01/2015 19:18

I wonder how Butterfly is doing...

Good luck with your scan tomorrow GinFace! Did the scan dates last time match with your dates? Have you stopped spotting? Sorry for all the questions, I think I too hope for a positive story...

Giantmama I hope you have a nice tomorrow with your sister and the kids!

Still bleeding quite a lot here, but didn't need ibuprofen today. Had an ok day. Still feeling very sad. And numb. DS is going to the nursery tomorrow so I'm hoping for some me time.

I'm keeping everything crossed for your tomorrow, GinFace

GinFace · 14/01/2015 19:40

Hello ladies. Carrot I'm glad you didn't have to take pain killers today. Fingers crossed tomorrow is easier.

Giantmama I'm glad you seem to be coming out of the other side.

I'm shitting a brick about tomorrow. The reason I'm having a scan is because when I went for my early one I thought it was 6+4 by my LMP, but scan showed a pregnancy that would only have been 5+6. No heartbeat. She said I could have been a few days out and if that was the case then all is progressing well. Or, it's a missed miscarriage. I haven't had any bleeding or cramps.

CarrotPuff · 14/01/2015 21:05

It's only 5 days, don't lose hope

If your cycles are on longer side then it's very possible you are not as far as you thought. Also it's hard to measure so early on so they could be wrong.

I hope all is well tomorrow and you'll see a little heart beating away

GinFace · 14/01/2015 21:11

Thank you carrotpuff. My cycles are normally 32/33 days so I'm hoping I ovulated a couple of days later?

I just need to know either way. It's really screwing my head up.

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butterflycats · 15/01/2015 03:31

All the best for today ginface will be thinking of you, please let me know how you get on. I was 5 days less than I expected from my scan (hubby's sperm obviously have survival power!!)

carrotface and giantmama been thinking of you too, glad the bleeding and pain has settled down, and just hope you get some rest over the next few days xxx

I had my scan... 6 weeks and saw a little heart beat. Hugely relieved and vomiting every few hours now. Bit annoyed one of my colleagues told all the others I'm pregnant on Monday before I went for a scan.

Will still be here to hold your hands xxxx

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GinFace · 15/01/2015 06:32

Oh butterfly that's amazing! Congratulations

And as for your colleague - what a twat!

CarrotPuff · 15/01/2015 09:19

Ginface, the most average textbook cycle is 28 days, so your dates make a lot of sense! No pain or bleeding is a very good sign! What time is your scan?

Oh congrats Butterfly, brilliant news! We really needed a positive story here.

And I agree with Ginface, your colleague is the biggest twat.

GinFace · 15/01/2015 09:47

Thanks carrot. It's just so bloody nerve wracking.

My scan is at 2:30pm. Keep your fingers crossed. I'm either going to be very, very happy this evening or getting absolutely shit faced on gin.

GinFace · 15/01/2015 15:23

YAAAAAAY we saw our baby growing nicely with a little flickering heartbeat

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