Are girls better than boys???

[lilyanna812]

I am currently pregnant with my third and I have two DS.

I love my kids, I never regretted them for a moment. However I keep getting comments like:-

'Third time lucky, this one will be a girl'
'If you are really lucky it will be a girl this time'
'This one is definatly a girl....'

...etc from family, friends and everyone

I was watching a show called gender disappointment, wanting a girl and there was a mother there with 6 (?) sons and said not having a daughter is the same pain and disappointment as not have children at all.

Are girls better than boys?

Are sons less value?

Is a third son a curse whilst a daughter will be a blessing.

When I got pregnant I didn't care what I had.....but now I want a son. I have always been a rebel .....but also the fact that I actually LIKE having sons and if I had 10 sons or 3 sons, it really would not matter to me.

Will my life be less valuable less important less worthy if I didn't have a daughter?

I am looking fwd to being the mother in law that is always travelling and u see at weddings and funerals and the odd party. I really enjoy being the only woman in the house and I am shocked that people feel that a baby boy will be less wanted, less loved, less valuable than a baby girl.

You're a delight number 3

I aim to please

Nah. I wanted 2 boys. Over the moon when no 1 was a boy, and fell in love with DD the moment she was born. You love them whatever.

I am much more on DSs wavelength than I am DDs but love her no less for it. Just shows its not the gender, it's the person.

All the best op.

Hahaha number3 Can i ask what is the difference between saying 'sex' and 'gender'? I am probably being naive?!?

Apparently (and I say apparently because the PC brigade are in town)

The 'sex' refers to the biological difference, 'gender' refers to the socially constructed role and behaviours of that person, i.e. masculine and feminine.

Ahhhh thanks number3 i did think it was something along these lines.

Maybe it says more about my circle of friends and i, but i always hear 'What is the gender?' ha!

Me too, but that's probably because my friends are a bunch of prudes and don't like the word 'sex'

Ooh careful now, am I allowed to say 'prude'?

I'm sure if you had 2 girls everyone would be telling you that number 3 is definitely a boy.

Absolutely.

More than anything people are just making conversation.
Also since you're having a third with two ds some people may think you'd quite like a girl. Clearly they are probably wrong about that but you can see some logic in their thinking?

As a PP said people, especially strangers, make all kinds of fairly random comments to pregnant women

Define "better".

Good luck whilst you are trying!

I have twin girls, a close friend has b/g twins, our twins are 2 weeks apart. I have lost count at how many people have told her how clever she is, while my daughters and I are standing next to her! Clearly I am very stupid, as are you OP!

I love having girls and I hope our next one is a girl too!

I've got 2 DDs then a DS, when I was pregnant with DS everyone said 'Oh you'll be wanting a boy' and I repeatedly told them that 3 girls were pretty common in the family so I was expecting that. My SIL had the same issue as you did and she repeatedly told people she was expecting a third son. She had a girl and I had a boy, we're both pretty happy with the children we have funnily enough but after the DC were born we did get a lot of 'your family is complete now', despite us both wanting three children rather than 'one of each'.

People are just making conversation and don't really think about how offensive they are. I've had two people say to me recently 'Is your son more affectionate than your daughters?' I mean really, if you think about that too much it's incredibly offensive to my daughters. And as anyone with three will tell you, when they are little the youngest just wants to be like their older siblings. So my son loves wearing hairclips and hairbands and playing with his dolls and my niece refuses to wear skirts or dresses and loves play fighting with her big brothers.

Of course girls are better than boys, they grow into women and aren't we better than men?

Yes I am just kidding before I get flamed.

I agree with unclerory that people are just making conversation albeit tactless, it's just another stock reaction that people use but it's exactly the same for women with girls, people assume we must then want a boy or people with twins get repeatedly asked if it's hard work.

I don't really understand the wanting one of each assumption personally, I have a daughter and am pleased to be pregnant with another, nothing to do with the sex, if I'd had a boy I'd have wanted another as it's much cheaper and I'm assuming it'll be easier as they'll probably have similar interests.

I've been asked a few times if I hoped she was a boy and one woman even said outright 'oh, are you disappointed?'. I just take no notice.

I had different interests to my sister when we were children so we didn't play with the same toys. She was into toy kitchens and baby dolls etc, which didn't interest me (I still don't cook!). I was into crafts and making things (including electronic robots etc), and dressing up barbies. Children are all different, it doesn't matter what gender they are.

I had a little girl 10 days ago, having already having a boy, & the amount of comments about "what if it's a boy'? became downright insulting! DS is only 10 months, and I was told I should want a girl to save on 2 boys becoming naughty together! I decided not to find out instead :)

Congratulations steerpike Enjoy your lovely baby

I have 2 boys and am now 34+wks with my third boy .
I am being Honest I wanted a girl I really wanted a duaghter was convinced as this pregnancy was soo different it took me a few days to get used to the idea but I am fine with it now .There is nothing wrong with wanting a son/daughter But thats me . We cant choose and am sure love all our children .

What a lovely bunch of pregnant ladies / mums you are!
It's like there's a Class of ..., and yours is lovely.
My fellow preggers / ex preggers were atrocious during my journey to parenthood.
If you dig around for a similar conversation taking place at around Apr / May 2014- Christ they were vicious about boys! Nevermind a healthy baby, god help you if you weren't having a girl. That made me want to have a boy even more!!

I often ponder if I was switched at the hospital because I'm nothing like my mother. She's the epitome of girly, whereas I get more excited about watching cars on dirt tracks.

With that in mind, when I was pregnant, I got into the mindset that I'm having this whole new person, who's not an extension of me; in fact, having had read about genetics, the baby's not even that similar to you anyway (we have a gene pool that stretches back a few generations, it's mind blowing). I was going to welcome him / her and be the best first time, neurotic mum I can be, get to know him / her.
I digress. No pink , no blue , none of that .
Mother Nature is clever, she hands us what she feels is best suited, crème de la crème of our DNA fusion, so either is good.

Sorry for ramblings, I'm now in that sleep deprived phase

PS go on YouTube and watch Jimmy Kimmel "I told my kids I ate their Halloween candy"'-- reactions of boys and girls is mixed, cute, funny, and quite often - not what you'd expect (hence no boy no girl better than ... ). Enjoy!

Hi have a friend with 3ds and she was incredibly disappointed to find out that number 3 was another boy. She never wanted boys (yes I realise how sad it is that she was unhappy that she had 'just' boys) and got 3 of them. When I was pregnant with dd2 people would ask 'are you hoping for a boy this time' etc etc. I think people just think if you have 1 or 2 of the same, you must want the opposite this time. I'd love a ds this time as I've always wanted to parent a boy, but then I'd love another dd as I adore my girls :) I know when we announce this pregnancy, people will ask if we're hoping for a boy :/

There are some poor people out their who will never ever become a parent, a baby is a blessing irrelivent!!! People like that want put in their place!

Thanks Juggling :)