I'm bleeding and scared- please help.

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I had a m/c in July and I'm 8 weeks pg again and I'm bleeding bright red blood. I phoned the on call doctor and she said if I'm miscarrying there's nothing they can do and just to sit it out for now. Gave me the patter about chromosomal defects and for the best etc. I burst into tears and she said to take some paracetamol and hung up.

Anyway, she phoned back 2mins ago and said would I like an EPAU appointment as I'm so upset. Said yes, she said phone in half an hour and she'd tell me when the appointment is.

So, I'm at work, none of my colleagues know. I'm trying to stop the tears running down my face and it's going wrong for the second time in three months.

Please talk to me

So sorry, SoH. I have no advice, just didn't want you to think you were alone.

Thank you, really crying now

Not sure I can say much except trot out the usual stuff about how I bled with DS1& 2 and they were fine.

Can you plead sickness and go home?

SOH - I'm so sorry about this, hope the appt is quick and somehow good news comes of this for you
xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Can you leave work

go home.
there must be somebody in work you can confide in -or just lie and say you have the headache from hell and need to go home.
then phone your dp/dh and get him to come home too. curl up at home with a nice cup of tea.

can you do this?

sorry, i dont have any advice, just that i think you should leave work

np xx

I can't talk without crying. I'm frightened of breaking down in front of my colleagues.

And I'm a librarian, noise isn't allowed.

Oh hun, I feel for you really I do. I miscarried in April, bright red blood just like you. I know that sinking feeling you will be having, knowing deep down that soemthing is not right. The truth is you will not know untill you have a scan, but that doesn't help how you feel right now.

Should you really be at work right now? Can't you tell your boss what is happenning and go home/meet a friend/dp or dh?

All the stories about chromosonal differences won't make a shit of difference at the moment, and it's not long since your last m/c so that is still so raw.

You need to go home and take care of yourself. Keep posting and let us know how you get on at EPU.

Thinking of you
xx

go home asap and make your self comfy, and then go to youe EPAU as soon as too, make sure your not alone, get your partner to be with you - im really hoping that everthing will be ok for you, good luck honey x

You need to go home SOSH

FWIW. I have gone through exactly the same as you. I'm having an early scan on Thursday at the EPAC which for me will be at the least reassurance, at worse it will prepare me.

I'm sorry that you are having such a tough time but do take heart that many people bleed and go onto have healthy pregnancies.

This happened to me at 8 weeks with DS (who is now 2), I went for a scan at the EPU 2 days later and all was ok. Like you, I was at work when it happened and crying and couldn't tell anyone so I understand how awful this is. Please try not to worry. It is very upsetting and frightening but a most of the time bleeding in early pregnancy is perfectly OK. Can you tell a close friend at work or someone with children as they normally understand ? This is what I did last time and this colleage was fab support. Huge hug for you and am thinking of you.

Awwww hun {{{{{{hugs}}}}}

You really can't stay at work if bleeding!!
Please phone Dh and get him to leave work and pick you up.

When is your epu appt??

write a note to who ever need to know and leave work,you don't need to be at work now.

Go home. Take lots of deep breathes, take a firm reign on your tears for as along as it takes to say you have a migraine and have to go home before it gets worse.

aw soh

all i can say is, if you possibly can, go home

take care of yourself here.

awwww

(bled with both kids, bright red blood also...and it was fine, just so you know. But I was out of work sooo effing fast...and I did get into trouble too, but they could go *%%$%^ themselves)

grab one of your colleagues and take them aside -tell them you are ill and going home. brook no argument.
you need to be resting up.

DH has turned up at work to take me home.

I'm going to tell them what's happened.

Deep breaths.

Thanks so much all of you for talking me through this.

Can I just turn up at the EPU?

Not sure about EPU (as sometimes will only take referal from GP) but go to A&E and they will refer you over or scan you there.

Can you go to your local A & E? Not sure - but I know its what I would do. xxxxxxxxxxxxxx xxxxxxxx xxxxxx

brilliant -well done.
go to a&e and they will check you over - then go home and relax ok?

Definately go to A&E, before 5 if poss so the scan room is still in use and it should be quicker to get you scanned. Take care xxxxx

I'm glad you have got your dh with you. Can you ring the gp and get them to tell EPU your going straight there.
Let us know how you get on.

Good Luck hun xxx Go to A & E xxx

SoSH- I'm not sure if you can just turn up at EPAU but can't see them turning you away if your really upset and you insist on seeing someone. Do you have pain? How long have you been bleeding for? I had fresh blood at 10 weeks only for about 20 minutes but I was petrified and heartbroken. All was ok though. Fingers crossed for you honey. Come back soon and let us know. xx