OH SH*T............update...............

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just a quick one as I'm off to work in a few minutes. We've just been sat downstairs watching Greatest Blockbuster Movies - or whatever it was called. I was doing my best to talk normally about other stuff - he was doing some ironing.

He just told me to stand up.......so I did, he walked over to me, gave me and a hug, and (admittedly with a slight degree of hesitation in his voice) said "lets have a baby then"

We've agreed not to talk over any of the issues in the letter or his reservations - instead we're just looking forward

oh qoq i have been lurking on your threads for the last few days, im so glad its all working out for you.

Good luck, (and no more smoking)

misdee - have a Graco Citi Sport - but it probably needs replacing after a prat nearly ran DS2 over in it a few months ago - clipped the wheel and it's all wobbly now.

Re the room - it's got double glazing, all seals are fine, radiator works properly, been bled (we've even had people in to look at it). It's just a pretty inconvineint room - it's at the back of the house - on the sticky out bit, and because we're end terrace it's got three outside walls - which doesn't help. And for some reason it just doesn't warm up very much!

You could replace it with a maclaren techno - they take up a lot less room than a citsport (I switched last year). Don't worry about being a family of five - I was one of 3 kids and it was great, wouldn't have it any other way - always someone to play with if one of us was grumpy! Hide and seek's much more fun too, and you can play tag... etc etc. - you're kids will just have to get good at packing the bare essentials when you go away - DH is still amazed at the (small) size of mys suitcase when we go on hols (compared to other women at the airport!).

"you're kids will just have to get good at packing the bare essentials when you go away - DH is still amazed at the (small) size of mys suitcase when we go on hols (compared to other women at the airport!)."

Haha - we took the DS's to Zimbabwe in August (just as well we did hey!) and took 3 LARGE suitcases absolutely jampacked full

oh gosh, QoQ... I was watching the other thread and empathising because I've been there and written the letter!! This thread has me in tears... congrats love. Good on you for giving your dh the time he needed to think it through. Things worked out for us too... our beautiful dd is 10 and we now have number 2 on the way I love a happy ending!

that kiwibella - now I just have to hope this is a happy ending - I'm still so early on this pg anything could happen...........

I've only been on mn for a short while, and I've just caught up with this thread, and the others you started about this saga. I'm so glad you made the decision you did. It's my belief that an abortion that goes against your own instincts and beliefs would destroy your relationship with your dh more surely than an unwanted pg would. You'd never forget that might-have-been child, and it would have dragged you both down psychologically. You said somewhere that you yourself were an unplanned child, but your dad ended up treating you as his favourite. So remember that. In a few years time you'll look at your lovely son or daughter and think "I could have lost him/her", and you'll wonder how you could even have thought of it.

Meantime, there are the ciggies. I don't know how difficult it is for you to give up, but I invented my own way. If you're having difficulty, just shout and I'll tell you what it is. It was very effective for me, and didn't involve nicotine patches or anything like that. It's just it takes about a page to explain, so....

well i've not had a cigarette since I left work this morning - which is quite good for me. I really don't fancy one either (went off them with both DS's too).

So pleased for you xx

OMG, that is FANTASTIC I am so so pleased for you all.

Excellent news!

Been thinking of you all weekend! Glad it's all turned out well in the end, I knew it would.

QoQ, I've just breathed a HUGE sigh of relief for you!
CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!!!!
So glad your dh came round.
(((((whispers))))))((((one more fag and then that's it!))))))))

fabtastic news

QoQ - have been watching your thread, and just wanted to add my congrats - glad everything is working out for you. Best wishes for the rest of a great pregnancy

thankyou - just counting down now to the 'magic' 12 weeks when I can tell the whole world (well tell them officialy ). I know 12 weeks doesn't mean that everything is going to be fine, but it just seems the risk is lower.........

have to say I'm feeling wierd - AF would have been due tomorrow - and by this stage I'm usually a right ratty cow, but I feel strangely "calm".......well apart from cr*pping myself about being a mother of 3

Congratulations QoQ

I followed your other thread but didn't post, I'm so glad this has worked out for you

This is fantastic news and all the logistical nightmare problems will sort out in the next 8 months or so i'm sure.

QoQ - delighted everything is working out OK. Fingers crossed for 12 weeks!!

I'll have a ton of stuff that you are very welcome to (sprog being howked out next week).

well I think he's definitely starting to come round properly now.

Firstly - last night when he came home from work he'd bought some nappies for DS2 (still firmly in then at night). He'd managed to get one of the big packs and when he came in I said

"that's a lot of nappies"

his response was - "well I thought I'd start getting into practice" (and it was said in a nice way rather than resigned to the fact kind of way).

Then this morning I got in from work and he'd written me a note of a few little things that were niggling him (had I given the boys any of DS1's birthday cake as it goes off quickly, why was I working 5 out of 7 nights at work, why had I gone back to the full fat 'normal' cooking spray (we'd been using the spray stuff), was I trying to block the sink again (forgot to clean it out before I went to work), and a few other bits and pieces).

At the top of the note he'd written

"No need to get upset I'm JUST asking........." and at the end

"It's not that pregnancy brain whatsit is it?" - and we had a good chuckle about it when he got up.

Oh and there's another good thing come of this...........he's said that we have to make gettig a new washing machine part of the baby preperations . I've had this washer/dryer since DS2 was 6 months old......he's just turned 6! And it's really on it's last legs - kept clogging up so I'd switched to the liquid washing stuff to prolong it's life.

QoQ - very gald to hear that he's geting into his part!

But he does sound a bit...obsessive! A note of niggles like that would drive me batty! He sounds like an employer, not a dh!

, just seen this and am very pleased its all worked out.

Blu - there's a reason for the note. Firstly - he knows (from experience) that talking to me in the morning when I've just got in from work about stuff like that would get me in a right strop and an argument would probably ensue (I'm cr*p in the mornings regardless of whether I've worked the night before LOL).

Secondly - I hadn't really seen him properly since Sunday evening! I worked Sunday night, saw him very briefly Monday morning, he'd already left for work when I got up Monday afternoon. We were literally "ships that passed in the night" on Monday night before I left for work as he was delayed by traffic (the nappies comment was as he was coming in, and I was going out of the door!). Then of course I was going straight to bed when he got up this morning, and now I'm up again he's back at work.