Who was with you when you done your home test?

[Lea2014]

Ive just text my partner to say think its test time and his reply was im going for a pint...i dont want to do it on my own :( am i being soft by wanting someone with me?

[beccajoh]

DH was there both times. I mean not whilst I was peeing, but he was waiting in the bedroom.

[FuckYouChrisAndThatHorse]

Thick skinned? Or insensitive?

[SweetsForMySweet]

With my first bfp I went upstairs to poas and our bfp came up and I ran down to dh in sitting room and we were delighted, I had done several tests previously as we were ttc for a while before we got our bfp.
Our second bfp, I did it in our ensuite in the morning while dh was in the bedroom, the line came up very fast (within seconds) so hadn't made it to the bed to wait with dh.

It is a special time but if your dp doesn't want to come home, could you do it with someone else instead, I know it is not the same but at least you wouldn't be alone. If your af is late, you can test anytime and it should show up but your first morning sample is best because it is more concentrated for the pregnancy hormone.

[TheresLotsOfFarmyardAnimals]

I did it on my - also a crazy poas lady though. I then frantically waited for DP to come home and look at the very feint line.

He just said 'oh, that's good isn't it' in a really laid back kinda way.

We then went and bought another test!

[TinyMonkey]

First thing in the morning (like 5.30am) the first time, then went back to bed and woke up dp to tell him.

This time, only realised I was late whilst I was looking at my calendar at work, so bought a test at lunchtime and did it in the toilets at work that afternoon. Texted dp to tell him but he was in a meeting without his phone for hours.

Your dp sounds like he's a bit nervous, I'd just do it myself tbh.

[Elvish]

Don't panic, I wanted a big happy reaction from my DH and didn't get it. I think he was just thrown by the fact it was real all of a sudden.

We talked about it and he admitted he was rubbish at giving me what I wanted from his reaction, but it was how he felt.

DH is a great dad, he loves our kids and does 50% of the childcare as we both reduced our working days equally.

Even when you've planned a pregnancy it's a big deal for you both.

[showtunesgirl]

Are you sure you want to have kids with him? Having children is hard work even with a supportive partner let alone an unsupportive one!

[Lea2014]

So maybe im over reacting a little? x

[Lea2014]

Think its a little late to decide no kids with him i havent done my test but i know i am x

[FuckYouChrisAndThatHorse]

Do the test now to be sure and then you'll be able to deal with it. Also dp will have a solid "yes or no" and that may make him face up to the reality and step up :)

[Marnierose]

On my own. I didn't really expect a pos result. I was happy to be alone though.

[SweetsForMySweet]

I'm sorry Lea2014, I have just seen your update that your dp is going for a pint this evening after you finish work. I thought from your previous post that you meant he was going drinking at lunchtime rather than coming home to be with you. Could you ask him to meet you somewhere or come home to be there when you test before he goes for his pint? You will have to sit down with your dp and ask him to be a little more supportive, pregnancy and parenthood can be tough so he needs to be onboard. I'm a poas addict too so you can test with us here if you want .

[Lea2014]

Im such a BITCH..hes decided against going for a pint x

[Marnierose]

Btw having a baby won't improve your relationship. If anything is likely to make things harder between you. I would face up to this now otherwise you are going to be very disappointed with his lack of support.

[Lea2014]

Sweetsformysweets never took your reply in a negative way :) hes decided not to have one now...maybe he had a little think ? dont know x

[Elvish]

Are you a bitch, or have you just explained to him that this is important and you would appreciate him being there?

Not to generalise, but I do think hints don't work on some men...

[squizita]

No one, 1st morning wee is best for results so I wasn't holding that in.

[Lea2014]

Well i did respond to say i didnt want to do it on my own that i was frightened not even an hour later the text to say hes not going anymore x

[JennyBlueWren]

My dh is excited to have a child but was quite ambivalent about testing. One month while ttc he asked if I was ppreg as a friend had asked him (I didn't drink at burns supper!). I pointed out that I would tell him straight away he was a bit surprised. When Idid say Iwas thinking of testing he was again quite calm about it all and more bothered about urine on the coffee table! a think some men don't know or think much about pregnancy but he is learning.

[Elvish]

Good, fingers crossed for a happy result and let us know for sure!

[slithytove]

I tested in 'secret' (not a big secret but didn't say what I was doing) each time and told him in a special way.

It was nice. Hugging it to myself for those few minutes was lovely. Having my own reaction before anyone else had to know.

Hope you get the result you want.

[FuckYouChrisAndThatHorse]

That's a positive response :)

Not being a bitch at all. You'd be a bitch not to tell him what you want and then be horrible to him without telling him why.

[SweetsForMySweet]

Glad he's coming home to be with you. Don't be so hard on yourself, you've told him and he knows now that it is important to you so he's making an effort. You aren't forcing him to come home, it's his choice.

[Lea2014]

Ive just got to pluck up the courage too pee on that stick now...nervous as hell

[SweetsForMySweet]

You'll be fine, we're all here to support you &you're dp will be there too. I got very fast results on fr test, had to wait a little longer for bfp to show on cb. What brand do you have? Take it one step at the time, you're already pretty sure so try not to stress out. It's an exciting time x