Like others have said bf really hurt nipples at first but gets easier if baby latches well. For the pain I recommend getting those reusable bf pads called lily pads - don't use them as breast pads - wash them in water and put them in the freezer and after feeding pop them in your bra - bliss!!!!
Lanisoh breast pads are the best - johnsons ones stuck to my nipples.
If you want to pump milk for oh to do feeds etc do it in the morning when ur supply is good - sit down in a comfy position, stick tv on and relax - then when you get your let down of milk (you can feel it coming) on the side baby is feeding from start pumping from other side. I used to get 4-5oz a day and had loads of those freezer milk bags for when I wanted to start back at the gym or have a night off.
Some days baby will feed ALL day - aaarrrgh! You'll think u you don't have enough for them - and it's incredibly draining on your emotions - But this is just baby getting your supply up for a growth spurt and the next day or so you'll have loads of milk for them and it will go back to normal until the next time!
Also i found my baby did not like taste of nipple cream so clean it off really well before feeding.
Don't try routines too early. First few nights my dd needed quite a lot of holding which before she was born I was determined not to do - but in the end she wanted cuddles, feeding and to feel safe and warm so I worked towards gradually decreasing the time I held her at night and eventually she was sleeping through at night by 6 weeks.
The advice to make it obvious between day and night is very useful . Even if you are up at night keep all the lights off while you settle them, feed them etc.
My dd hated baths at first - screamed the house down. She's liked a warm towel when she got out which helped a bit, and we persevered until she got used to it!
Good luck - I'm 23 weeks with my second and I'm so excited to do all the tiny baby stuff again!