Scan has reveiled it's sex......

[itsaboy]

I have name changed for fear of people thinking bad of me....

DH & I went for our 20 week scan today. I have had thoughts that baby was a boy but DH was so sure it was a girl. Deep inside I know I wanted a girl...

The scan has reveiled baby is a boy....

I am so happy and relieved that all is ok with him but I feel slightly deflated..why.?

We already have a gorgeous dd and aftre 2 mc's prior to dd we are greatful for a baby iykwim and especially happy at the fact all is well. Please don't starts saying how wrong I am and that I am lucky as some don't even have the chance to have a baby. I thought I would have been in that situation 3 years ago.

Why do I feel so bad.? I'm a very girlie girl and love having dd and it worries me having a boy. What if I don't love him the same as dd, what if I can't interact with him like I do with dd, what if I reject him. I don't know what to do with a boy and atm my life if full of "what if's". Trivial I know. .

After my mc's I was told that maybe the cause was due to the fact I couldn't carry boys due to hormone levels etc, obviously this wasn't true. But I suppose this comment made me feel I was destined to have a housefull of girls. My dh was just as shocked BUT is content and happily thinking of our future son. I also feel that people now see him as a "man" due to son he's made and am already dreading the pressure for him to go to footie matches and to do "boys" things iykwim.
I just feel bad spoiling things for dh when he is obviously coping better than I am...

Can anyone advise me.? Have you been in the same/similar situation..??

it'saboy, I'm sorry that you are feeling so down and that you feel shoved back into the horrible black hole especially as you were so near the top.
I can empathise with how you feel, i am pg with our second and dearly love another boy - DS is just fab. We didn't find out the sex and have just about 8 weeks until my due date - I know that I will be disappointed if I have a girl - although pleased for DH, don't know what to do with them, I'm not pink and frilly myself and all the girls in our group are (ugh!). I know how I feel about DS so find it easy to feel and picture the same feelings for a baby boy, but I'm really not sure how I would translate that feeling for DS into feelings for a baby girl.

I had PND for 18mths after DS and had started with AND with this pg so have been taking omega 3 supp's to help and they have made a big difference for me. Give yourself a little bit of time to adjust and don't beat yourself up for feeling like this - it's ok.

Take care H x

i think I bought the same bear outdoor thingie myself about four and a half weeks ago!!!!

Honestly you will begin to feel better! It took me quite a few days(weeks?) and I didn't really share it with my DH as much as I should have.I felt he was OK with it sooner than me!

Although boys can be quite "boy like" I 've got a very sensitive,thoughtful little person who is(i imagine) as loyal as any daughter of mine would me. Although he jumps off sofas,ends up having his forehead glued and other stuff that everyone one else goes"oh such a boy" to, my DS1 is also exactly how I would any daughter to be. Sorry that prob doesn't make any sense.

Bottom line, boys can be sweet too and are not all testosterone fuelled monsters.