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Very very nervous about 12 week scan

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LoubyLoo · 12/09/2006 12:46

Hello all.

I am looking for some reassurance really. I am having my 12 week scan on Saturday and am absoloutely worried to death about it - everywhere I look I am reading things about babies not growing past 9 weeks and although I have experienced no bleeding or anything really untoward I am really really worried. Have been all so far with this one for some reason. Can someone please tell me to stop being so daft/reassure me that if anything had of happened I would know?

Sorry!

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redz · 12/09/2006 12:51

Hi Loubyloo,
Congratulations by the way. You'll be fine its just nerves. I wasnt nervous for my 12 week scan more excited think at that stage I still couldnt quite believe I was pregnant.
When you have it you'll feel so overwhelmed when you see your little baby on the screen.
Its lovely to see.
Im 39 weeks now and would've loved to have more had my last one when I was 23 weeks feels like centuries ago!
Good luck! Oh yeah ask for pictures some hospitals dont print them unless you request them pretty dumb I know.

lucy5 · 12/09/2006 12:53

Worry, it's all part of the being a mum. You can't help it. Just try to stay calm. My advice is don't read too much, it will send you loopy.

CurrantBun · 12/09/2006 12:54

LoubyLou, I felt exactly the same. I had no cramping or bleeding or anything untoward, but then read about missed miscarriages and couldn't help feeling paranoid that I'd had one and just didn't know.

All was absolutely fine - I almost couldn't believe my eyes when a baby appeared on the monitor in front of me! I think there's just too much information about what can go wrong these days: you can help focusing on that rather than on the fact that the vast majority of pregnancies are viable and the vast majority of babies born normal.

Good luck - and try to enjoy it as it's really very exciting once you've relaxed!

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LoubyLoo · 12/09/2006 12:55

Thanks! I really really want to be that excited and half of me is, the other half just wants to pull it forward, go tomorrow and get it over and done with so that I know IYSWIM! I need a kick up the backside
God, so you are a week to go, all going well Fingers crossed for you - even though it seems an age since your last scan - just think, in not too much time at all you will be meeting baby properly Good luck!

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Flamesparrow · 12/09/2006 12:59

For all those babies who don't grow, just look around you at everyone walking around who DID grow

In 4 days time you will be seeing your baby, and you will worry about everything for the rest of your life

time4tea · 12/09/2006 13:01

hello Loubylou

I think what you are feeling is natural, just try to fill your time from now until Saturday with activities you will enjoy, and that might take your mind off it a bit.

To be honest, I was in a big state for my 12 week scan in my second pregnancy, partly because I knew of a colleague who had a missed miscarriage - the baby had died early on, there was no sign of anything wrong. And then would you believe it, it happened to me to.It was very sad, heartbreakingly so, but at least I knew this could happen. On the one hand, I was prepared - unlike my friend who had no idea that such a thing could happen, and was really really shocked and traumatised- but it did teach me that you can worry your head off and if something is going to happen, it does, no matter how much you worry - the least you can do is try to enjoy life. On a happier note, I got pregnant again quickly, and had a great 12 week scan a few weeks ago.

These worries are all part of being a mum as Lucy5 says - the worries are so often outweighed by the joys, but both are pretty intense.

So fill your time, and good luck and good courage for saturday - let us know how it went! we'll look out for you

FlipFloppinRubyRioja · 12/09/2006 13:14

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Daisypops · 12/09/2006 13:50

Hi LoubyLou, Like all the other ladies have said its completely normal to worry. I'm not saying this to scare you more its to get my point across that we all worry, my friend at work was pregnant and there were problems with it she was off work for a while and it was very traumatic for her and this was at the time when I was about 9 weeks pregnant. I then bled at 10+2 and was convinced I'd miscarried (again) when I went for the scan at 10+3, little bub was there as happy as Larry! My friends ordeal has made me even more worried that something will go wrong and how precious bubs are. You'll be fine. Look forward to it! Oh and defo ask for pictures they wouldn't give me a picture at 10 weeks, I insisited as I wasn't have another scan til 20/21 weeks. Let us know how you go on. xxxx

lazyemma · 12/09/2006 14:10

I feel EXACTLY the same too - my 12 week scan is on 25th September and I'm convinced they're going to tell me that the baby died weeks ago. The thing is, I haven't had much in the way of symptoms - no sickness, just the occasional slight nausea. I'm not particularly tired. I don't have the metal taste thing or the cravings or any of that. Apart from my boobs being a size bigger and quite sore, I don't feel any different than I did 10 weeks ago. So you're not being daft. I can't offer any reassurance because I've probably been reading exactly the same things you have - but at least you know you're not the only one who feels like this!

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LoubyLoo · 12/09/2006 14:49

Oh Gosh! Thanks so much all of you - couple of things have struck home from those notes. I am going to throw worry to the wind for the next few days and look forward to it
Again - thanks, I will post on Saturday - and Lazyemma - i'll be nagging you then to quit worrying

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time4tea · 12/09/2006 19:39

hello Louby Lou

was just worrying a bit about my rather doomy post. I just wanted to say, the stats are with you for all being well - and my story (and indeed my friend's - she's due next month!) show that even if there is the worst news, you can get through it and have better luck...

so go for the next few days not worrying!

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LoubyLoo · 17/09/2006 10:27

I had my scan yesterday................It was FAB All is absoloutely wonderful, wonderful heartbeat, flipping and bouncing about. God I am so relieved!! I had convinced myself on Friday night (even though I have quite a bump already) that I wasn't even pregnant! How daft

And, best bit - we even know what we are having

So I am 12 + 2 - due on the 30/03/07.

Thank you all so so much for your reassurance last week, and Emma - you look forward to your scan on the 25th now x

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3andnomore · 17/09/2006 10:53

Congratualtions that all went well...but I never heard that they can tell you at a 12 week scan the sex of the Baby, sorry...and I think that is impossible!
seeing that apparently at 13 weeks one could only distinguesh between boy and girl if they were outside the womb

FlipFloppinRubyRioja · 17/09/2006 11:01

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LoubyLoo · 17/09/2006 18:05

I must admit I was stunned when he said that - it was a private scan though with one of the top fetal specialists in the country - although how that makes a difference if what needs to be seen isn't visible then I don't know! He has written in the report how ever that he is 80% certain - I won't take as gospel though until 22 week scan. I do hope he is right though as it is what we secretly wished for

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Daisypops · 17/09/2006 20:05

Glad it went well LoubyLou. Are you telling us the sex?!x

Daisypops · 17/09/2006 20:05

Glad it went well LoubyLou. Are you telling us the sex?!x

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LoubyLoo · 20/09/2006 11:29

A little GIRL

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alexh · 20/09/2006 12:10

Was it at the Fetal Medicine Centre?

They told me at 12 weeks that I was having a boy (they said 70% likelihood but got the impression they7 were pretty certain). And I did....

Tinasan · 20/09/2006 14:21

Hi LoubyLoo

Congrats on your little girl! I had a 12 week scan at the Fetal Medicine Centre and they told me it was 80% likely to be a girl - and this was confirmed in subsequent scans. The equipment there is more advanced than in most NHS hospitals, so they can look at things in a lot more detail....

Enjoy the rest of your pregnancy

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LoubyLoo · 20/09/2006 15:44

Hello

It was at the local BUPA hospital and the quality of the images was absoloutely incredible - the specialist said that the machine was relatively new. I was quite amazed from last time - positive to hear that both of you were correctly predicted! We would just love another little girl - and Liv will not contemplate a boy, she wants a baby sister!!

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peachygirl · 21/09/2006 11:39

I was very worried before mine due to family history, so much so I burst into tears as soon as I got into the room. The sonographer however was lovely, reassuring and talked us through everything. (and DH was very good)
Good luck!!

justamum · 21/09/2006 18:19

ffrubyrioja- only the next 20yrs of worry. i'm 32 and my mum is still worrying about me. I think we will worry about them forever. Sorry if that sounds daunting loubylou but the good things outweigh the worry. I think! You'll be fine, but if there are any problems you know where to come for support.

glitterkitty · 22/09/2006 10:02

Is there any way of telling if you have had a missed miscarriage? Like, if I took a pg test would it be negative?

I'm feeling really paranoid- I have no symptoms of miscarriage but my boobs have not grown that much bigger, and I certainly havent felt sick yet. I feel a bit more tired than usual but thats it! I'm 8 weeks and I cant bring myself to enjoy this pg before the 12 wk scan, but its exhausting worrying all the time...

sugarfree · 22/09/2006 10:16

Aw,Glitterkitty,what you feel is entirely normal,I was fine with DS1 (when I was young and naive)but by the time I got round to DS2 and DS3 I was a wreck (I had a miscarriage in between 1 and 2)and convinced myself both times that I was no longer pregnant,and I did have a few symptoms.
With DS2 I started crying as soon as I lay on the bed and with DS3 I was crying before I even got in there.
Please,please try not to worry,you really have NO reason to.
The others are right,this is just the start, I feel like I do nothing but worry sometimes.The rest of it more than makes up for it though.