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Fucking bump comments

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allisgood1 · 10/06/2014 09:17

I'm pissed off. Probably not helped by raging hormones.

Barista in Starbucks "can't be long now"
Me "September"
Barista what are there six in there? Hahahahaha.

Bitch. Perhaps I didn't smile so she immediately stopped and said "how are you feeling anyway?"

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beanynamechange · 10/06/2014 09:19

I just say 'not long' to people who I don't know.. It takes the wind out of their sailes for 'oh your big/small/neat whatever'

Only1scoop · 10/06/2014 09:20

I think people feel like they should comment to be polite ....even though they don't give a rats arse really.

TwigletFiend · 10/06/2014 09:22

Smile sweetly, glance down at other person's physique and reply, "It's ok, I know it'll all come back off after the baby is here."

OwlCapone · 10/06/2014 09:23

She was just making conversation.

SouthDerbyshireMamma · 10/06/2014 09:23

People keep commenting on how huge I am even though I'm only measuring slightly over. Can't suppress the rage much longer....

squizita · 10/06/2014 09:38

I find 'too small' comments far, far more offensive.

I never hear one about 'neat bumps' which people think are the norm. Never. Always said with head to the side, fake concerned voice, citing other people who were bigger... all in all telling you there's something wrong with your baby without saying it. Or silent judgy pants -you're in some way doing it on purpose, starving an unborn infant to look small.

The ironic thing is my bump isn't actually too small in terms of fundal height: I just have a pointy-out bump (like Mr Greedy LOL) so it looks small from the front (massive from the side). I have chunky thighs which are slightly chunkier, but slim arms, upper torso etc' so have changed shape less than someone with a sportier build might.
I'm certainly not doing anything stupid like trying to be tiny.

FoodieMum3 · 10/06/2014 09:47

Squizita, I carried very small on my last baby (she was 6& a half pounds at birth and has always been petite) and I used to be nearly in tears when people used to comment at how small and neat I was. I knew the baby was on the small size and it just made me worry so much more, I really wish people wouldn't comment on bump size at all.

You have no idea what a person is going through, especially a stranger.

mssleepyhead · 10/06/2014 10:26

"Oh gosh, shall I get some hot towels?"
"Don't worry about the summer being hot, you're never going to last that long!" (I'm due end of August)
"What are you feeding him, Miracle Gro?"
Very witty... very annoying!

Missteacake · 10/06/2014 10:27

I'm very petite and only a size 8 but my DD was nearly 10 pounds all I had was a massive bump. You couldn't tell from the the back and when I turned round (which was like the earth rotating) people actually gasped really loudly. Everyone was saying not long now yer only 4 months!!! Not long!!! I'm expecting DC2 now and I'm only 17weeks but same again big bump already but nowhere else. I look like a ballon with sticks out the bottom and sides plus a head of course. Wink last time I just smiled at people when they made comments this time I feel more stressed so prob gonna ask people why they are so rude!!!

squizita · 10/06/2014 10:54

Misstea yeah I get 'too big' and 'too small' comments IN THE SAME HALF HOUR! ARGH!

CarCiKoTab · 10/06/2014 10:56

My MIL makes good comments on how big I'm getting. Nice Hmm

Scoobsmam13 · 10/06/2014 10:58

Some people just don't know when to keep quiet! With my first (I was huge to be fair) I was asked by a nosey neighbour "Oh how lovely, twins, when are you due?" I said another two months and it was actually just the one, at which point her face dropped, she looked me up and down, then wide eyed looked me in the face and said "Oh, ummmmm, gosh............well.......im sure it will be just fine"
That was the start of me having serious size issues for the rest of my pregnancy!

KitKat1985 · 10/06/2014 10:58

I'm having same thing. Baby due mid-September but people keep telling me I look huge / are you sure it's not twins? One woman asked me yesterday if I was due next month. I find it quite rude really. I never comment on people's size as I know it's a sensitive issue for a lot of people, and yet as soon as you become pregnant people seem to think it's okay suddenly. I find it quite hard as I used to have bulimia so people commenting on how huge I am all the time is really difficult for me. Also, according to my midwife appointment last week, my fundal height is exactly right, so I'm not even sure I am that big. Got another 14 weeks of getting bigger yet as well to deal with. Sad

blondiebonce · 10/06/2014 11:05

I'm 36 weeks and measuring under and I agree with pp about how comments on small bumps are hurtful/annoying too. In fact...I often have people not notice until I point it out. Not that everyone cares, but I'm fed up of being barged into with trolleys and forced off the pavement. A seat at the bus stop on a bloody hot day like today wouldn't hurt either

RAFWife12 · 10/06/2014 11:16

I used to get "are you sure it isn't twins" now I get "you're quite small really aren't you".
The worst was MIL the other week "well (DH cousin) is much neater than you" - of course she is - she's due 3 months AFTER me! With that much difference there isn't really a comparison.
I'm sure people just want to make conversation, and feel involved. I don't get it though, I wouldn't pass judgement on another persons body - pregnant or not! Just try to ignore them.

LJHH · 10/06/2014 11:23

I am 30 weeks, everyone and I mean everyone (cos even strangers have an opinion) has been saying oh you're so small I do not feel small this made me paranoid so got the midwife to check and am actually measuring 2 weeks bigger than I should.
I feel like I should whip my notes out to prove them wrong!

I had a new manager start last week, she said Oh hi I'm X and then touched my bump literally 30 seconds after meeting me, I wanted to punch her. I find that SO BLOODY RUDE.
Should have poked her stomach back see how she liked it ;)

HomeIsWhereTheGinIs · 10/06/2014 11:24

Amazes me that people find this irritating. She didn't care, she doesn't remember you now, she was just making small talk.

MummytoMog · 10/06/2014 11:28

I got stopped in the street and told I was having a 'nice big baby'. Actually I was measuring small for dates and DD was 7lb 4oz. And I hadn't even put that much on, I was just short. Whatever.

LittleCatA · 10/06/2014 11:40

I am convinced that people actually don't see many full term pregnant ladies so they have no idea what 'a few days to go' looks like. When a lot of people see a lady who is pregnant and even vaguely large they are like, wow! Most full term ladies are pretty much out of sight, either at home on maternity leave with their feet up or waddling to and fro on the school/nursery run.

I don't take offence anymore (possible because you have to get used to far more harsh comments from strangers once you actually have children). I usually just explain that no, the bump is going to get much much bigger...then look at the horror/amazement on their face.

TwigletFiend · 10/06/2014 11:55

I can shrug off the comments as I'm pretty thick skinned, but bump touching is a definite no no! Even friends should ask before touching, let alone complete strangers! It would be completely inappropriate to pat a strange woman anywhere on her body but I, as I'm hoping sure others do, consider my bump quite an intimate 'part' to touch.

LJHH, a friend of mine was on a bus and had a stranger do something similar. She got The Rage and grabbed the woman by the boob and hissed, 'How do you like it?!' After she got over the shock, the woman luckily found it quite funny. Not what I would recommend, but the thought of their face if you did makes me Grin

SignoraStronza · 10/06/2014 12:00

Same here op. Third dc due in September and I'm already massive. Doesn't't help that two people I know who are due this month are so much less heffalumpy looking than me.
Am only 5 ft and it sticks straight out in front. Yes the legs and by have ballooned but from behind you'd never tell I was pregnant. Not enjoying it!

LJHH · 10/06/2014 12:07

@TwigletFiend - HA! Thats amazing!!!!
Oh I wish I had poked her back now :) I just stood there like a statue and didn't know how to deal with the stranger touching. She doesn't have kids so I'm just assuming she doesn't know that its a no no that or she forgot her manners that day

I don't mind my close friends and family having a poke but even they ask first (even though I don't really expect them too) It's quite funny watching my sister, DP etc having a one sided chat with my bump :)

MrsCouchman · 10/06/2014 14:11

I was told the whole way through my pregnancy by everyone I met (including midwife!) that baby would be big! I was pushing and the midwife said to prepare for a plus sized baby. Out came my 7lb1oz baby! Even after he was born people kept commenting on how big he was! I used to get so angry! He was perfectly in his percentile, I wish people would just keep their opinions to themselves xx

m0therofdragons · 10/06/2014 14:18

I used to freak people out when they'd make comments about me being due soon - comments started around 5 months but it was twins.
Now the twins are almost 3 and I get comments about how they are tall for their age... actually, no they are average hight and are the same height as dd1 was when she'd just turned 2 (she is tall for her age).
The only comment I usually make is "oooh what a lovely bump"

parallax80 · 10/06/2014 14:59

m0ther how many weeks were you when the twins eventually came? (Am 21 wks w twins atm, and already having "are we nearly there yet?" type comments)