Fucking bump comments

[allisgood1]

I'm pissed off. Probably not helped by raging hormones.

Barista in Starbucks "can't be long now"
Me "September"
Barista what are there six in there? Hahahahaha.

Bitch. Perhaps I didn't smile so she immediately stopped and said "how are you feeling anyway?"

I am convinced that people actually don't see many full term pregnant ladies so they have no idea what 'a few days to go' looks like. When a lot of people see a lady who is pregnant and even vaguely large they are like, wow! Most full term ladies are pretty much out of sight, either at home on maternity leave with their feet up or waddling to and fro on the school/nursery run.

I really agree. I constantly hear people (mostly those who haven't had children yet) saying 'OMG she's HUUUGE, ready to pop' etc. about someone who is maybe 6.5-7 months pregnant and who looks exactly normal for that gestation to me!

I do remember walking into my first prenatal yoga class though and thinking that all of the women there were simply enormous (I was about 15weeks with DC1: miniscule bump). In hindsight, they really weren't, just normal.

I'm 29 weeks and work in a GP surgery, if one more doctor/nurse/member of staff tells me I'm big I'm going to walk out! Seeing as they have asked me to do an additional 5 hours so far this week - first day this week not until tomorrow! - I'm fairly sure they'll shut up!

For the record I'm not massive, I'm measuring a week or two ahead but I'm a short arse so all out front!

I also think people confuse bump shape with size. Just had another conversation about me "finally" showing "late" (when I haven't been able to fool anyone for a good month and a half: it looks like a football up my jumper!) when what they mean is "you don't look pregnant from the back".

And it depends on the age/gender of a lot of colleagues. Most of mine seem to remember/think about women who are ready to pop... forgetting that 3 months before that, you aren't going to look that way and it's not a problem.

I really am mystified by the 'small bump' comments I get when (1) my bump is medically quite big - albeit in normal range - sticking out right at the front of me like Mr Greedy so children giggle when they see me and (2) people know I have had losses in the past so suggesting my baby is sickly is probably very upsetting.

Yes yes for the most part I do not mind, but the comments I mind the most are two I have had recently:

1. Haven't you dropped yet?"
2. You'll pop soon!

I'm 25 weeks, first baby was massive, I feel smaller this time but a MW asked me 3 times how many weeks I was she thought I looked much further along, thanks for that!

I like it when people notice my bump

I am 24 weeks now and finally starting to get comments

Today I've had

• "I think I saw you're having a baby earlier… am i right" (over the phone)
• I think your bump is getting bigger now! - with a big smile
• when are you due
• how many weeks are you now
• would you like a drink, sit down for a minute (that one made me happy!)

So none of these bother me really… I got lots of "I had no idea you were pregnant" last time I was (even at 30 weeks) but I think it was cause I worked in baggy scrubs that pregnancy. I wear really fitted stuff deliberately now! I wasn't teeny tiny or anything lsat time but not huge either. I think mostly people are trying to be nice but sometimes it comes out wrong. People called me neat a lot last time but I think they were just trying to be complimentary and I didn't find it worrying cause i knew i was measuring fine.

Some of the comments on this thread are really twattish though!

Someone TOUCHED me earlier. It would have been bad had I had a bump but I'm only three months and its all pot belly. I've just announced it at work so she'd just found out and gently cupped my podge! I didnt know whether to be furious or amused!

I got told 'not long' by the Tesco checkout lady AT 19 WEEKS. Granted I was having twins and had a maternity dress on with a bow above the bump which never helps, but still...

Dartmoor our medical advisor cackled at me around the same time and said he couldn't wait to see me around 30w and suggested I'd look ridiculous. Helpful, the medical profession.

Funnily enough though, I was paranoid about being not I was small. A midwife at the AN clinic told me I was tiny for twins and it massively freaked me out. Still, went to 38 weeks and an ELCS and they were 5.5 and 7.13 so I can't have been that tiny!

I'm 31 weeks and I get a lot of 'what a neat bump'. I like it to be honest; I'd prefer that than 'you're fecking huge!'. My bump is neat albeit it's deceptive depending what I wear. I'm an 8/10 and slim and DH is 5'8 and slim so I never expected to carry a big baby so I think I'd be upset if people started saying I was huge.

It's the way everyone looks at your stomach - it's worse than blokes looking at boobs. LOOK ME IN THE EYE WEIRDO.

Today I had 'ooh, you're very neat for 24 weeks' - what has supposed to get messy thus far?

I had a 'wow! You're getting fat now' at work yesterday.

I'm 20 weeks and just starting to get a bump. The truth is I still kind of forget the bump is there (and then notice and smile to myself as I love it)... So when this lady told me I was fat I was genuinely offended for a few seconds until I realised that it was just her incredibly dense way of saying 'I can see your bump now'. I didn't correct her terminology, she's thick as fuck so no point. Ignore them.

It kind of reminds me how adults would always say 'wow haven't you grown' when you're a kid and then go on to comment about how you compared to other kids as if there was anything you could do about your growth rate.

Today I got a 'wow you're big' and a 'wow you're small' , neither knew how far along I was!

One I got from the parents in law which made me want to punch them was 'ooh, you're swelling nicely'

Yesterday a dog walker I see often said 'I see you're still carrying that lump around with you' RAGE!!! That lump is my child you moron!

Im also due September and didn't show until 21 weeks...but since then have steadily grown and I would say I look 6 months pregnant.

I am getting a diverse mixture of comments..."wow you're gonna be huge...you look ready to drop" and then "you only look about 3 months pregnant". Either way...the reactions have been extreme and there's no clarity to them !!

I don't know why people feel the need to pass so much judgement..especially when the reactions are always full of shock !! It irritates the hell out of me too !!

I didn't show until about 22 weeks at all and then suddenly popped out with what is still (24+6 now) quite a small bump to look at although the midwife assures me it is spot on when measured.

Prior to my 24 wk appointment with the midwife, people kept telling me I was 'too small' and had got me into such a tizz over it (first time mum, with no close friends who have recently had babies) that I was really worried my baby wasn't growing properly.

I don't think people think it through properly when they choose to comment on your bump, everyone carries differently and they can cause a lot of upset and worry whether they are saying you are too big or too small.

DH trying to compliment me yesterday "you've not put much weight on... I mean you've put the right amount on, you're big enough and healthy but ... erm ... d'you know what i mean?"

Bless his heart.

I had double the amount of amniotic fluid I was supposed to have and was huge. It was very handy for getting seats on the tube :o

But yes OP, it's very annoying when people ask if you're having a litter and think they're funny and that they're the first person hahahaha to have made that joke

Have some peppermint tea :)

squizita

There is practically nothing right you can say to a pregnant woman

I limit my pregnant comments to "that's a lovely bump - you look great". SIMPLE ISN'T IT!

(I say this even if people look like complete shit, haha. pregnancy is hard enough!)

wee I think your right the only thing that can be said without inducing pregnancy rage is "you look really well/nice/great" no one ever says this to me though my dad did say the other day " oh you look much better now better than you did before you looked awful!" Thanks dad thanks

@Squizita
My DP keeps saying to me "to be honest, I thought you would be much fatter than you are"
I think there's a backwards compliment in there somewhere :)

Don't be worried :) I get a lot of "you're hardly showing!" comments as well as "wow you're quite big!" comments from various different people. Actually, most people don't know how big a bump should be at each stage of pregnancy. To be honest, before I became pregnant I had no idea how many months someone would be before they start showing. And I wasn't good at telling how old little children were either. If someone shows surprise at your bump, it's probably a mixture of wonder/interest and the fact that they haven't known many pregnant women. Take it as a compliment, whatever they say about your size.

Actually the worst one was my dad who came to see me in hospital less than 24 hours after my CS.

'Wow! You still look pregnant!'

Gee, thanks, Dad

i went to a wedding when i was 16wks pregnant. the bride to be, the night before, said to me "oh WOW, i wouldn't have expected you to be SO BIG already!"

i didn't have a bump. i was actually a bit smaller than the last time she'd seen me as i'd lost weight feeling sick.

i just stuck my stomach out at her and said "ooh, yeah".

People generally dont know what to say after 'when's it due?', 'do you know what you're having?', though, do they? Its a bit of a borng topic.

I never minded when people said I was huge. I loved my bump and wanted to be big!